Ever since my T had surgery which was a little over a week ago I feel I've been looseing the connection. I've had to wait over to weeks to see her, I see her on tuesday. I'm scared, because I'm afraid she'll have forgotten certain things in therapy....its like 2 weeks for me is an exaggerated 2 years. I can't control it.

I've been writing her everyday, she told me too which was very nice, she normally reads my letters at the beginning of session. She'll have lots to read on tuesday...

I'm scared that she'll read all the letters and we'll have little time to talk....I have 1 hour sessions, but they seem to fly by.......I guess I'm paranoid huh?......argh....I miss you T................I hope you're ok...

Dustin

I normally start out my sessions, with a bunch of letters as well. I also had the fear that we were spending too much time with T silently reading the letters. This is one of the reasons I started reading the letters to him. That way I can even talk and explain things with the letter I am reading. It took awihle for me to be able to take this risk because I knew that once I read the letters out loud, this stuff was really coming from me-- when he was reading them silently, I didn't feel as much "responsible" for what I had written. Sounds a bit ridiculous, but that's just how it was.

Maybe you can sort through all the stuff you wrote and pick out what is the most important. Or maybe this weekend you can take the most important stuff and make that into one main letter. You can give her all of the letters so that she isn't missing anything, but use your time in session to read the most important stuff.

Tuesday is not far away at all! You'll make it!!

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((( Moonkin ))))))))))))))

[Perna]

If you want to talk instead, I would have her take the letters and read them later so you can talk for the whole hour. The letters are about the "past" and you'll want to "have" her to talk to the whole hour?

The letters won't go anywhere, can be read anytime. I'd skip the letters this time or ask her to read 1 or 2 of the ones from the end so she can "catch up" and then talk.

I know! Why not write her a letter now of what you want her to know from the two weeks and she can read that one and then you can continue?

wow..i guess i am blessed, T read letters outside of session. But i never give him anything until the end of session. i often talk about some of what is in the letters anyway.

talk to her specifically about this and see if you can find a way to make a compromise.

you can ask her to return to the letters after a session or two... so you can regain connection now.. i think that is more important and should be there before dealing with any other issues

[MissCharlotte]

((Dustin))

It's normal to feel like you are losing the connection during an extended absence. I sure did this past summer. And I had letters galore and so much to tell T when he came back--but when I spoke to him all I could do was cry my eyes out.

So, don't worry....you will reconnect with T. When you see her just stay in the moment and enjoy her presence and try to re-establish your connection. There will be time for all the other stuff.

((((Hugs))))

[krazibean]

maybe you can ask T about emailing...like instead of writing her letters just shoot her an email every night, not asking to respond, but that way she can read them all prior to session and then she will know a little about what you went through that week. thats what i do anyway...

Dustin, it's almost Tuesday!!

Thank you all....so much...

And Yes Pinksoil...its almost Tuesday!!!