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susannahsays · Dec 18, 2018 at 10:25 PM

Or watch Nailed It holiday edition on Netflix... good for some laughs.

Dec 18, 2018 at 10:33 PM

Evenings bum me out too knowing my son will be going to his apartment and not here after work... it's getting better though.

DP_2017 · Dec 18, 2018 at 10:37 PM

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Originally Posted by susannahsays

Or watch Nailed It holiday edition on Netflix... good for some laughs.

Watched it already a few days ago, it's funny for sure

Dec 18, 2018 at 10:45 PM

Maybe this hairdresser isnt the one for me. She put christmas decorations in my braid.

unaluna · Dec 18, 2018 at 10:52 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Yes, I think that's why I'm having trouble figuring out how to feel about it (it also arrived a half hour before I was leaving to meet my dad for Christmas shopping--home now). It's somewhere between what I really wanted him to say, but knew he wouldn't ("I'm sorry I hurt you") and what I was afraid he'd say ("Please don't contact me again" or some form of that). I don't think it really gave me "the fix" that T was talking about. I think it would be easier to figure out how to react to if it was one of those extremes.

That goes back to who is in control of the relationship, thats where you get your fix.

When he said to you on the phone that day, "ive got two minutes", and you said no - you pretty much declared war. Thats what i think you dont get. You effectively said that YOU were calling the shots, not him. So of course therapy ended at that point. How do you not see that? How do you see that as him hurting you?

Its HIS practice, HIS license - YOU dont call the shots. If he says we have two minutes, you have two minutes. Otherwise you are breaking the contract. Thats why if you want back in, YOU apologize, not him.

unaluna · Dec 18, 2018 at 10:53 PM

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

Maybe this hairdresser isnt the one for me. She put christmas decorations in my braid.

Oh no! Did the cats like them?!

Echos Myron redux · Dec 19, 2018 at 05:49 AM

Any pocket riders around? T in 26 minutes.

Dec 19, 2018 at 05:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Echos Myron redux

Any pocket riders around? T in 26 minutes.

I’m here, but I’m up early so I’ll need to bring my coffee. I’ll try not to spill it.

StressedMess · Dec 19, 2018 at 05:51 AM

I'm here, hopping in!

LonesomeTonight · Dec 19, 2018 at 06:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Echos Myron redux

Any pocket riders around? T in 26 minutes.

Hopping in! I also need some coffee.

SalingerEsme · Dec 19, 2018 at 06:22 AM

I will go too if there's still pocket room

Lemoncake · Dec 19, 2018 at 06:51 AM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

It is indeed a little bonkers. Only the true masochists really enjoy it...

Thank you Chihro!

I need to start studying for surgery, but haven't yet... I would agree, but I think the attitude of the teacher you have also greatly affects your experience. At the moment I'm really enjoying surgery because I love my vascular surgeon. Today for example I was in the a PCI unit with a cardiologist. I still can't read ECGs properly. There was just me and another girl who turned up as our group of 12 is split into 6 for internal. He sat down with us and went through it and didn't make us feel stupid for not knowing stuff. With them I feel like I can actually ask for clarification if I don't understand things instead of just nodding along.

Dec 19, 2018 at 06:53 AM

I zonked out last night early from taking Unisome. Normally that OTC crap does not work but it worked last night. Although I was up by 5:15. ridiculous. So where were we with ex mc? Oh right LT-so I’m of the opinion that his email is just covering his butt and he’s using DBT skills( or lack there of-considering I am not sure he ever used it in your sessions based on what you would write in IST) in his favor to not take responsibility for anything that could have gone wrong in that relationship. It’s very unlikely if you are looking for a real apology from him you won’t ever get it. I’m sorry. His email did sound final-like others mentioned here. I think where he said he appreciates you sticking it out with Dr T -that was just him fiishing for something else to add to the email. Almost like he was compelled to find something to make the email more than just one line....
I’m not sure what else. I might have more thoughts but have to get ready for work. Hugs.

Lemoncake · Dec 19, 2018 at 06:54 AM

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I was having a bad day yesterday and told him I didn't want to make a plan and then some other hard stuff came up and he came and sat closer to me again. He mentioned at the end that he had a few ideas so we'll talk about them tomorrow. He emailed me last night to tell me the time right before my normal time had opened up and did I want to come in early so we'd have the option of meeting longer. I feel like I don't deserve his kindness.

Awww that's so sweet of him. I can understand why you feel that why, but it's not the truth NP. One day I hope you can see and feel it for yourself.

Lemoncake · Dec 19, 2018 at 06:56 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Holy carp. This sounds like a team building exercise from A Clockwork Orange. In MY day, such an endeavor had us imagining we had crashed in the desert, and it was about WORK, not the holidays! I worry about millennials.

I'd rather have the decorating thing. We did the desert thing in psychology last year- the number one thing you should have is the mirror!!

Lemoncake · Dec 19, 2018 at 06:56 AM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

And we have Christmas cookies and donuts galore at work today! So much sugar!!! Kit.

I hope you enjoy yourself!

Lemoncake · Dec 19, 2018 at 06:58 AM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

Good job I didn't have to take your exam, Lemon...I had to Google it to find out what it was.

Google rocks.

I also spend a good deal googling terms in my book, but also here:

defenestration

Lemoncake · Dec 19, 2018 at 06:59 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Yeahbut who are the bosses who came up with this brilliant idea?

Obviously those pesky girl scouts who sold the gingerbread houses!

Lemoncake · Dec 19, 2018 at 07:05 AM

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

In the spirit of our last session i am looking at my feelings about the hairdresser and as well as

Possible trigger:

my biological mother hurting me with scissors

its also i dont feel like i deserve to get my haircut.

I'm sorry you were treated so badly. You do deserve to be cared for properly.

Lemoncake · Dec 19, 2018 at 07:09 AM

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I don't know what SHE'S so tired from! Haha!
Couch 184: Welcome to Zanzibar!

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This is the result- it's hard work being the mouse protector of Artie Manor.

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susannahsays Grand Magnate Member Since Jun 2018 Location: Somewhere Posts: 3,355 5 1 hugs given	Dec 18, 2018 at 10:25 PM #681 Or watch Nailed It holiday edition on Netflix... good for some laughs.

Anonymous43207 Guest Posts: n/a	Dec 18, 2018 at 10:33 PM #682 Evenings bum me out too knowing my son will be going to his apartment and not here after work... it's getting better though.

Anonymous42961 Guest Posts: n/a	Dec 18, 2018 at 10:45 PM #684 Maybe this hairdresser isnt the one for me. She put christmas decorations in my braid.

Echos Myron redux Magnate Member Since Apr 2018 Location: UK Posts: 2,162 6 1,834 hugs given	Dec 19, 2018 at 05:49 AM #687 Any pocket riders around? T in 26 minutes.

StressedMess Grand Magnate Member Since Jul 2014 Location: Usa Posts: 3,068 9 589 hugs given	Dec 19, 2018 at 05:51 AM #689 I'm here, hopping in!

SalingerEsme Grand Poohbah Member Since Jul 2017 Location: Neverland Posts: 1,805 6 4,957 hugs given	Dec 19, 2018 at 06:22 AM #691 I will go too if there's still pocket room __________________ Living things don’t all require/ light in the same degree. Louise Gluck