[justbreathe1994]

I understand the ethics of why they probably can’t show any more concern or try to talk me out of it in any way. However, I’m still finding myself a bit triggered by my Ts response... I had emailed my T (who I saw for about 2-3 months saying I could no longer afford the sessions due to working less hours and that I had to cancel them for the time being. Her response?

“Ok. I wish you the best.“

This was not the DBT but another T I was most likely trying to process attachment stuff with as she specializes in attachment issues. I didn’t cae for her much (she’s the one that talked a lot), but I guess I’m feeling a little hurt by her response. I know I shouldn’t feel that way, especially since I’m the one who terminated with her.

[Taylor27]

I would feel hurt too, yes they kinda have to have that sort of response also they cannot make someone stay or change there mind. It's a tough one for sure. I am a very sensitive person and i would take that kind of response as she did not care, however thats not the case, she is respecting that boundary hugs

[seeker33]

I can definitely feel for you! The rational pat of your brain knows it's a part of their ethics, taken from their how-to manual. However, on the personal level it really hurts and would probably make me a little irritated, too!

[SlumberKitty]

I'm sorry the response was triggering. The ethics and boundaries and all of that suck, sometimes we just need a human to care!!! HUGS Kit

[susannahsays]

I understand being triggered by her response. Just highlights the indifference of therapists towards clients. Or at least makes it seem like that's the case. Probably was also hard to receive such a reply in response to what must be a stressful situation for you. Anyway, I wouldn't tell yourself you shouldn't feel the way you feel about this - and I'm not even of the opinion that all feelings are valid (but I do think yours are in this case).

[junkDNA]

Originally Posted by justbreathe1994

I understand the ethics of why they probably can’t show any more concern or try to talk me out of it in any way. However, I’m still finding myself a bit triggered by my Ts response... I had emailed my T (who I saw for about 2-3 months saying I could no longer afford the sessions due to working less hours and that I had to cancel them for the time being. Her response?

“Ok. I wish you the best.“

This was not the DBT but another T I was most likely trying to process attachment stuff with as she specializes in attachment issues. I didn’t cae for her much (she’s the one that talked a lot), but I guess I’m feeling a little hurt by her response. I know I shouldn’t feel that way, especially since I’m the one who terminated with her.

yeah that's upsetting but if you were trying to get her to react by saying you're quitting I don't find that people react in the ways one wAnts them to in such scenarios