Couch 188: Who needs those people, anyway?

Why do you think you should have dropped? What is the fear around something not being easy?
- Is the subject matter harder to understand than you expected?
- Do you dislike the subject matter?
- grades?
- Time needed to learn the subject matter?
- something else?

yeah that's true. i can still drop w/out a refund and not have the grade count against me. thanks for the reminder.

i really need to stop with the defeatist attitude already though. i just have to train my brain to think in a way i'm not used to thinking is all. i'm trying to learn how to draw and determine moon phases depending on where the sun is and where the moon is. it's hard to teach an old dog new tricks and stuff. hard, but not impossible.

and yes. through difficulty to the stars. quite literally as it were.

I don't dislike the subject matter at all, it's interesting. The concepts are harder than I expected only because there are so many covered in such a short period of time for each one with a lot of work expected all while I'm working so much so yeah time is a big part of it. And grades. Me and my over-emphasis on stupid grades. Well the time I allowed myself for a study break is over now so i'm going to go give it another shot!

Art—you could get a C in astronomy and still be an A as a human being.

I don't know where to put this so figure here is as good as anywhere.

background: It's been a tough week for me emotionally (lots of stuff in therapy too). Wife has been gone all week, leaving me to tend to the animals. I injured my ankle on Christmas eve and physical therapy had me get fresh x-rays on Tuesday because of it not healing the way they thought it should. Thankfully still not broken. I am moving much slower than I should. I have no energy, I want to curl back up in bed for the day. The tears are already flowing this morning.

more background: wife is coming home today and I have some house work I need to get done before she gets home. And my daughter (partial estranged? very long story there) decided to throw a family bbq for grandson's birthday since he is turning 8 and will be having a swim party with his classmates tomorrow. My mom (and husband) and my dad (and wife) will be at the bbq. Additionally, wife and I will be taking grandson on overnight trip next weekend for his birthday to water park.

question/issue - how much would it hurt grandson if I skipped today? Wife won't be back in town until after bbq? I really don't want to go. I don't know if I have fortitude to go without faltering to some neurochemical boosting behaviors.

Good morning Couchies. Feeling a little better today. The ER was pretty much a waste of time but I guess it's better to be safe than sorry. Going to see Carmen the Met Opera at the theatre today. It's supposed to rain. Only one of my two friends can go today but I guess it will still be okay. Gotta leave in like 20 minutes. At least I'm not sleeping my Saturday away so far. Hugs to anyone who wants one. Kit

Could you just say you're ankle's really bothering you/you're not feeling well and skip the BBQ? Especially because you'll be spending lots of time with grandson next weekend. You need to take care of you. Also, do you really have to get all those things done around the house before she gets home? Maybe just pick the most important-seeming one or the one that would take less energy.

I don’t think grandson would be too hurt as long as you make good on the trip to the water park. The young child probably doesn’t give 2 hoots about the BBQ-only the presents and cake and the attention he will get. And he is probably more excited for his party with his friends.

I thought last night I wrote something very controversial here while I was in and out of sleep. I woke up this morning frantically searching for the post but it’s not there. I hope it was just a dream.

Unless you have another handle or unless that thread was deleted - you don't have anything in your statistics showing you posted in the middle of the night last night. Either way, you don't have any worries that it will trace back to you.

I'd chalk it up to dreams. Gotta love them.

I think I’m calling it a dream as well.

Secretly you want to be a bad girl.

Oh I do. I so do. I’m tired of being a good girl.

Morning couchies. I'm seeing our MC today solo instead of cancelling once again due to childcare issues. Never done that but she agreed to it. We haven't gone probably in the last 3-4 weeks because she's had to reschedule a few times, so I figure that I can at least update her on what's been going on.

break time again. i thought i finally was understanding the moon phases thing. but i did the lab exit quiz and missed 2 of 5 questions.


i should have dropped the class.

I was parking cars, late for work as usual, skipping work to do fun stuff, and fighting with my SIL. Tunafish dreams!

I'm getting excited. The two glider/rocker/recliners we ordered last week for our new reading/music room are coming in a few hours. I spent a few hours rehanging a few pictures and figuring out where I want to hang the rest (I think). I've ordered new drapes and throw pillows for the room. It is going to be a special place to sit and read and crochet. I'm so happy to make good use of some of my parents' favorite things.

I got tickled yesterday when I called Dad just to talk, and he said,"I'll have to call you back; I'm playing BINGO." LOL! They play BINGO every afternoon -- a nickel for two cards. My sister said they were going to the pharmacy to pick up some of his meds, and he insisted they walk in instead of using the drive-thru. When I was there he was actually walking up and down the stairs to get to his apartment. This change to assisted living has been a positive change for him. He's gained energy and is socializing (resident of the month this month). We are happy that he is happy. Such a relief.

There's that, too, but what she meant was that the body she thinks she has is smaller than the body she does have. She doesn't allow enough room for herself in many situations.

My mood swings several times a day. I don't think I can blame this on one glass of wine.

I am glad to hear he is doing well.

This seems to be your default position to fall back into when things get hard or when you don't get all A's and seems a tad indulgent in some ways - like if you fall back into this comfortable position you don't have to keep working on something that is not easy for you including accepting that you may just be a C student in some areas (which by the way, there is no inherent wrongness to not getting an A). If it helps you then, fine. But there are other ways of viewing this sort of situation

Art, your perfectionist tendencies are paralyzing you. You definitely know more about astronomy now than before the class. You're not going to be punished for not making an A in this class. You're punishing yourself right now. I'm going to lecture you like I do my youngest daughter. It doesn't matter if you get an A, it matters that you do your best and make the effort to learn.

You didn't want to be an astronomer anyway so just collect some interesting information and try to enjoy the process. You're a kick-*** strong woman and you definitely can do this!

you're right, sd. i suppose it's more than a tad indulgent at that.


sorry couch.

Why would you be sorry to the couch? You can post what ever you want.

But you resort to a familiar and comfortable public self flagellation/rationalization to quit something when things like a class get harder for you - is that helping you get where you want to be? What kind of response are you looking for? Whether you get an A or a D does not matter in the big scheme of things. If you get a D, isn't the worse thing that happens is that you have to take another science sort of class to get to whatever requirements you need to get the degree you are actually hoping to get?