[SlumberKitty]

Welcome to the couch, old and new! A place to hang out - sometimes you get immediate feedback, sometimes you don't.

Shouting, "Cool Whip" tends to bring others out from between the cushions if you're feeling lonely.

This is a chatty thread. All are welcome. We're kind of psychologically oriented, sometimes. We try to be supportive. At times we discuss what that means.

It’s a place to plop down on the couch when you come home from work or wherever, or wake up in the middle of the night, or check in at lunch, rant a bit or not, and be among friends.

We advise you not to drink or drug and text your therapist ("T") - we speak from experience.

Sometimes the thread moves fast and you might get overlooked; sometimes it moves slowly and all you hear are crickets. Sometimes you get hugged or thanked pages later. So if it's a bigger question, you might want to start a new thread.

Grab a cushion, a spot on the floor, or an armchair in the corner and make yourselves comfy!

The Aurora Borealis also known as the northern lights are something I want to see someday. Plus I like to think of everyone on the couch as a light to someone else.

[SlumberKitty]

Last couch reached 100 pages, so here ya go!

New couch!!! Yay! Thank you.

[Lemoncake]

Originally Posted by unaluna

Its like, the only relationship you know how to have, is the one your dad has. You treat your t the way your dad treats everybody. Just like i was my mothers mini-me, as well as my fathers mini-me, depending on which role was needed.

The cure is to see your t as a human. I think you try, with the little prince books. You say, this is the true me (i.e., the book). But just as the little prince must return to his planet, you must be present in session.

I disagree with CE. A gift is a bribe, its IN STEAD of love.

We did have this moment where I said I was my father's daughter, that he was the most important person to me at the moment.( to which he replied that was the most real thing I've said in weeks). I said he couldn't see the real me, but then I don't know the real me. He said the way he behaved was because he cared about me. That he didn't need all the extra stuff. I reacted the way I did because I felt rejected, but now I think that in a way he could have taken advantage of me but didn't,

[Lemoncake]

Originally Posted by healed84

Why after all the support I have gotten from t over the last two weeks am I feeling anger towards him? I don’t get it at all.

Can you break it down? What's the reason for the anger?

[Lemoncake]

Originally Posted by Salmon77

I have to make this big presentation (in a month) and I feel like I might just cry straight through it. I sort of wish I could talk to T about it but it will keep until my next session and anyway I'm not sure what good talking would do.

ETA feels like I have a big neon sign flashing the words MENTALLY ILL above my head today.

Are you part of a team or is it a solo presentation?

[Lemoncake]

I did end up going to the study group, and I left at 6.30pm. It's good in a way, but they stop every 10 seconds to ask questions to make sure it's crystal clear, but it takes longer. I'm going to just work on my own tomorrow, but have this fear of missing out. (like Walgreen's in the Theranos scandal).

[Lemoncake]

Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

The Aurora Borealis also known as the northern lights are something I want to see someday. Plus I like to think of everyone on the couch as a light to someone else.

Omg. Cuteness overload.

[Lemoncake]

Una there's this new show on youtube called Britains Fattest People 2019. You need to see the bariatric surgeon.

You might also like:

Possible trigger:

The act- I've seen the first 4 episodes and it's based on the Gypsy Rose story of the girl who murdered her mother.

[Salmon77]

Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Are you part of a team or is it a solo presentation?

About a 30 minute solo presentation then Q & A. I get terrible anxiety when I have to do these things. Blushing and shaking and stuttering and all that. I've tried different ways of preparing/presenting and nothing helps.

[Lemoncake]

Originally Posted by Salmon77

About a 30 minute solo presentation then Q & A. I get terrible anxiety when I have to do these things. Blushing and shaking and stuttering and all that. I've tried different ways of preparing/presenting and nothing helps.

I liked Maxwell Maltz book Psychocybernetics. It sounds simple to say, but one of the things he suggested was to imagine it all out in your head bit by bit. Perhaps you can you film yourself doing the presentation, then watch it back to see where you could improve? Can you take a transitional object with you and keep it in your pocket?

[SlumberKitty]

Originally Posted by Salmon77

About a 30 minute solo presentation then Q & A. I get terrible anxiety when I have to do these things. Blushing and shaking and stuttering and all that. I've tried different ways of preparing/presenting and nothing helps.

Good luck on your presentation. When it's time for the Q & A, ask if there are any questions with your palms down. It's a subconscious signal that you aren't open to receiving questions. It's a little trick I used during uni that I found helpful. HUGS Kit

[Salmon77]

Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I liked Maxwell Maltz book Psychocybernetics. It sounds simple to say, but one of the things he suggested was to imagine it all out in your head bit by bit. Perhaps you can you film yourself doing the presentation, then watch it back to see where you could improve? Can you take a transitional object with you and keep it in your pocket?

Thanks, I'll check that book out. I have tried making videos of myself presenting before. I don't think a transitional object would do much for me.

Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Good luck on your presentation. When it's time for the Q & A, ask if there are any questions with your palms down. It's a subconscious signal that you aren't open to receiving questions. It's a little trick I used during uni that I found helpful. HUGS Kit

Thanks. I actually want them to ask questions, it's bad if they don't. My hope is to get them all talking to each other during the Q&A so I can hyperventilate while they're distracted.

[Lemoncake]

Originally Posted by Salmon77

Thanks, I'll check that book out. I have tried making videos of myself presenting before. I don't think a transitional object would do much for me.

Thanks. I actually want them to ask questions, it's bad if they don't. My hope is to get them all talking to each other during the Q&A so I can hyperventilate while they're distracted.

Pre therapy I read a lot of self help books. I bought how to win friends and influence people and surprising it helped me learn how to talk to people. When my anxiety was at it's worst at around 16, even talking on the phone was hard for me. The authour Dale Carnegie also wrote one specifically about public speaking which I have. a quick google brought up the title : How to Develop Self-Confidence & Influence People by Public Speaking.

Also perhaps you can start small? Could you give the presentation to a few family members first so you could practice with an audience?

[Lemoncake]

My friends had opera tickets to see Idomeneo, thinking I should I have gone with them now. From google:

Cretan king Idomeneo who, when returning from the Trojan war and his life threatened, he promises god Neptune that he will sacrifice to him the first person he meets on land. But it is actually his own son Idamante.

hihi coucharoonios. another super busy day at work today. i'm on lunch now for another few minutes anyway. hugs, headnods and sparkles all around as wanted.

[Lemoncake]

Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

hihi coucharoonios. another super busy day at work today. i'm on lunch now for another few minutes anyway. hugs, headnods and sparkles all around as wanted.

Okay so now we have:

polyamuse something
coucharoonios.
defenestrate

[Salmon77]

Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Pre therapy I read a lot of self help books. I bought how to win friends and influence people and surprising it helped me learn how to talk to people. When my anxiety was at it's worst at around 16, even talking on the phone was hard for me. The authour Dale Carnegie also wrote one specifically about public speaking which I have. a quick google brought up the title : How to Develop Self-Confidence & Influence People by Public Speaking.

Also perhaps you can start small? Could you give the presentation to a few family members first so you could practice with an audience?

Thanks, I will probably check out that book. May do the practice presentation to family, we'll see. Sometimes that just feels fake to me.

[WarmFuzzySocks]

That's so neat! How did you like it? It's easy and also, like, aggressively healthy with all those veggies.

Electric Manatee, it was SO delicious. The recipe went into my Soup, Beautiful Soup folder so that I can make it again. I even heated the leftovers some for late breakfast this morning.

[LostOnTheTrail]

Evening, Couch.

I'm taking a break from pottery for a while. Need to find something that helps me chill out rather than frustrating me.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by Lemoncake

My friends had opera tickets to see Idomeneo, thinking I should I have gone with them now. From google:

Cretan king Idomeneo who, when returning from the Trojan war and his life threatened, he promises god Neptune that he will sacrifice to him the first person he meets on land. But it is actually his own son Idamante.

Hence the word cretin?

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Una there's this new show on youtube called Britains Fattest People 2019. You need to see the bariatric surgeon.

I know, im in looooove with him! I think ive seen him on something else! Wait, the cute curly haired indian doctor or the one who looks like anderson cooper?

[atisketatasket]

Originally Posted by unaluna

Hence the word cretin?

I can’t miss an opening like this.

If a Cretan tells you “all Cretans are liars” (actual Greek saying)...is he lying or telling the truth?

cretin | Origin and meaning of cretin by Online Etymology Dictionary

[Omers]

Gah! They schedule me 4 days this week and the couch lights up... feeling left out! Ok, off to finish the rainbow couch and find my way back to pg three here.

[DP_2017]

I'm stepping away for the weekend again at least, I think it's been good for me to step back from here. I need to work on doing it with Facebook as well. Tomorrow I have my only local friend coming over to watch a movie. One of my favorites she has never seen! It's gonna be a rainy weekend though so lots of cleaning and sleeping.