Couch 193: The Aurora Borealis Couch

Talked to L on the phone. It helped a lot. She reminded me to stop future tripping, and that we're not capable of dealing with days, weeks, months all at once. That we are capable of dealing with one day at a time. She also gave me reassurance that she's there and I can depend on her while T is on her leave.

Thank you BCM and Lemon for your support last night. That and talking to L helped me feel less alone

Thanks for the new couch Kit! I found a great pillow.

Gluten Free also has the added benefit of losing a few pounds while you are figuring the lifestyle out. (So I’ve heard)

My T has a couch in the waiting room that I LOVE, he has a couch in the office but he doesn’t use that part of his office much and it is stiff and formal... so we are in chairs... that move... a lot... but T has earned my trust so it only makes me so neurotic... and he will sit really close to me in the chairs in a way that would feel awkward on a couch.

H just left to go to his buddy's house to do their fantasy baseball league draft. Another quiet evening alone.... so needed this week, as work has been so busy. I'm going to go work on today's poem now, then go for another walk, then figure out something for dinner.....

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Hi couch.

I've had a busy week, with some major highs and lows. Saw my favorite artist, P!NK, in concert on Monday for the first time ever. Got floor seats and went by myself. I had an amazing time.
I'll spare you the low of what came after. T offered to let me come in 5 days this week,
so I took him up on that. It's been nice outside this week, so I've taken the kids for icecream and to the park today. Trying to keep myself busy and distracted.

Alright all, I'm heading to bed and taking the weekend away from PC. Hope everyone has a nice weekend. Try to do something fun!

I am trying ashwagandha to see if can help me sleep.

No couch in t’s office. My son’s t has a couch and it is super comfy. I think sitting on a super comfy couch with pillows you can hug definitely gives a different feel to therapy. I wonder if t’s make a conscious decision between couch or chair?

Did you ever try Propranolol? This one is sometimes prescribed off label for speeches or performances. It may help.

I amseriously doubting whether i am strong enough to do therapy. But it seems to be a waste of the last 8 years to just gibe up. I really thought i was on the verge of truly opening up when the **** hit

@Una: Your family was more dysfunctional than mine.

Oh heck yeah.

Gluten free products are actually more likely to cause you to gain weight because they typically have more calories. UNLESS you have celiac disease, in which case I've heard eliminating gluten often results in weight loss by eliminating chronic bloating.

I take propranolol before I give big talks and I know lots of people who do. Lots of people have difficulty with this. It has nothing to do with mental illness. It doesn’t take away the psychological symptoms of nervousness but does take away the physical ones like shaking, sweating, blushing and that feeling like you can’t breathe because your heart is going to beat right out of your chest. Your primary care doc can prescribe.

My T has a couch for clients, and she sits in an armchair. I think the couch is because she sees individuals and couples so she likes the extra space. She told me once that it's useful to see how close or far away somebody chooses to sit on the couch, relative to her. I'm sure she reads into how close couples sit next to each other too. Sneaky therapist...

Another reason i doubt my T will take me back is i have record of consistent boundary violations that i just cant seem to control. 8 years of that is probably enough for anyone.

That! That is totally why your whole situation bothers me so very much! It seems SO normal to me that a client would push a T back just before opening up. I didn’t (yet) but I wanted to SO badly before my most recent opening with T. I was able to tell him instead of showing him but he said pushing him away was a normal and healthy part of the process and he saw it as a sign that we were working where we needed to be... on the edge of something big new and potentially scary... and it feels to me like that was what you were doing.

I know my T does this the first session, where you have a choice of two chairs or the couch. How and where you sit tells T where to set up the chairs for the following sessions when we are on the other side of the room. I think it also guides him in knowing a lot about what makes you comfortable or uncomfortable so he knows how to interact with you during session. I sat directly across from him but close to the arm of the couch. My spot was direct and confrontational but my physical posture was scared. As we talked I started shifting more forward (towards him) on the couch but I still gave off an air of controlling the situation and he saw a willingness to engage him. I think he learned a lot and uses it.

The first woman sat in a chair but only had an uncomfortable horrible sofa for clients to use. I brought in my own chair a couple of times because of my back. The second one had either a chair or a sofa and I chose the chair. I would always choose a chair over a sofa.

My T has two identical chairs and a couch. He sits in one of the chairs and I sit on the couch, but I’ve been thinking I’d like to try out the other chair. Seems like a big deal to change where I’ve always sat though.

I'm talking about Nick Carter. I was like when he came on.

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There's also Sean Somers who has appeared on another show.

I wouldn't be the first person to know. I just thought it meant someone bad. Then with @@'s link the creatinism link kicked in.

It's not all you BCM. With the right T I think it can be worth it. The last 8 years haven't been a write off and helped you get to where you are now.