Feeling pathetic

I just want to go hide someplace and cry. I want a hug for T which I know can never happen in this lifetime. For the last 18 years May has been excruciatingly painful. I miss my mom. Tbalsways understood and I could email her. She was able to comfort me and not make me feel pathetic. To lose T at the beginning on June still seems like a nightmare that I keep trying to wake up from.

Emdr T is wonderful and we have accomplished a lot. I trust her when I am in that office. I wish I could email her just for some reasurance that I am not so pathetic. I can only text or call. I cant do that on a weekend then I would be totally pathetic.

You are NOT pathetic. You are in pain. You're grieving. You lost two people and you miss them terribly.

What are you going to do about it?

You need to do grief work, and I believe that Emdr T can help you with that.

You think you're pathetic because you need to be comforted? You want to be loved, you want to be taken care of. There's nothing pathetic about that.

I agree that there's nothing pathetic about it at all. It's completely natural to grieve people you felt close to. Hugs...

What am I going to do? Stay really busy that is all I can do.

I am not sure how much Emdt T can help me with grief work. She knows what the books say but I dont think she really understands it. Her parents and the grandparents who she was really close to still are alive. She hasnt ever lost. anybody she was really close to.

I feel pathetic because I am in my late 40s and want to need nobody. I have an amazing husband and children who would do anything for me...The people I really want and need can no longer help me.

I'm in my late 50s and still want to be taken care of.

Please reach out to EDMR T. There's nothing wrong with wanting reassurance, especially when you're already struggling so much. Maybe a text which she could answer in her own time? but if she's said before it's okay to do both- she's okay with it and does really mean it. I don't think you're pathetic and neither would anyone else here.

If it's not a trigger for you i found having semi regular massages helpful in giving that cared for feeling. It's just about you for an hour and there's no need to talk. Sometimes there's no words for pain.