Couch 198: All the Countries Couch

I left work at 12 noon, came home and slept. I could just not do a full day today. I was so exhausted literally to the point that I felt like I couldn’t stand on my own 2 feet. I slept a few hours this afternoon and feel better.

I wouldn't... even if they said ok, he might feel that if he had said no, it would upset you more.... mentally they might not be on the top of their game after a funeral. You will likely be curious more about it and possibly say or ask something to make him uncomfortable. Doing "special" things for clients, is no longer something I'm a fan of, even if it seems awesome at the time....

Try to go to the concert without the "potentially emotionally filled" mindset. If you go, just thinking of the concert and try to enjoy yourself, you may not at all, but if you go thinking that, it's like a self fulfilling prophecy type thing.

Even if it is emotional, emotions pass, you can get through it. Friday would be there before you know it and you would have had a day to sit/think through it more before discussing anything and maybe there will be nothing to discuss. You might just have an awesome time

Thanks, I think I want to see when he has availability then. If it's the morning, might be before funeral and maybe could actually be better timing than early Friday in terms of where his head is? I don't know. Will try not to think too much with concert, but they tend to make me emotional anyway...not even if tied to a particular person.

If he said he can see you, and you feel you need to go then it’s fine to take his offer. It’s not your job to take care of the therapist. It doesn’t matter his relationship (or lack of) to the deceased. If he couldn’t see you he would say he’s unavailable. So yes, if you need the session then take the offer to go.

If he says he is ok with it take him up, coming from a T who would never do anything like that I say do it.

That staying up too late (the other night-job) messes ya up.

LT- I think he would do it for another client as quick as he would set up something for you.

LT—I don’t see any indication this is special treatment. I think you should worry about your life, not his, as that’s why you’re in therapy, and if the session helps meet your needs, take it.

I think you're both right. I think I was just thrown off by his saying "I'm not scheduling any other appointments that day." But I imagine if a crisis or something came up, he'd fit someone in. And I do need to worry about my own life and well-being. And trust him to take care of his own. I think my main concern would be if he was in an OK place to do therapy with me, like would he be affected by the funeral and not totally "there"? But then, any number of things in his life could distract him at any given time--a restless night, a fight with his wife that morning, eating some bad sushi, anything. If he'd just said "I'm not sure of my schedule Thursday, I can let you know Wednesday" without mentioning the funeral, I'd have had no idea.

Just realised I woke up having a panic attack which caused my weakness. I did go to be feeling bad about my recent contact with exT but these things, issues questions belong to him no other T could answer them.

Or, maybe the viewing is at 10, the funeral is at 11, the burial is at 1, and the funeral lunch is at 2 and won’t end till 4. Then he’ll be in rush hour traffic till 5:30 and might as well go home. Something like that.

Ugh, I've woken up that way before--it sucks. The times it's happened, I thought was possibly low blood sugar, but was never sure (I'm not diabetic or anything).

To be honest most of yesterday I had a bad headache on right side and I thought I might have had a stroke.

Maybe a migraine? they can have some stroke-like symptoms if you get an aura (like tingling on one side/part of body, flashing lights in your eyes, once I forgot how to spell basic words).

I think I might try making gf pizza tonight. I have the shells (I’ll graduate to my own dough if this works out), the sauce, the cheese...it’s probably not as easy as that.

I think I might try making gf pizza tonight. I have the shells (I’ll graduate to my own dough if this works out), the sauce, the cheese...it’s probably not as easy as that.

It's really pretty easy, if they're prebaked shells. Just don't use too much sauce or will get soggy. Do you have any herbs/spices to add? And you should have the oven at 425 or 450 (make sure it heats all the way before baking). That gets it more crispy.

Yup, it was easy. Probably too much cheese but I like cheese. The crust did get soft, so I’m eating it with a knife and fork. Does need herbs, will add those next time.