Couch 199: The Unennennium Couch

You said in this thread that you wanted him to apologize for misreading what you wrote, not "just
'Fair enough'." He literally just did that - didnt he? Why are now you trying to say it doesnt matter?

(edited) LT, I think he's referring back to the concern over him being eaten by a bear. He is still referring to not correctly reading/understanding the real concern under your light-hearted comment. Just my 2 cents.

I thought LT was saying it didn’t matter if he was replying to her email or her text?

I say “fair enough” in situations where there’s been miscommunication but I don’t think anyone did anything wrong so there’s no need for apologies.

Oh. I took his reply to mean he was actually replying to her, now that he understood she wasnt joking and that she was in pain. And that he was sorry that he had previously thought she was joking.

Where are all you people getting all these other nuances? It seems so straightforward to my one track mind!

And to LT - I really dont think ts reply to a clients LACK of reply. Otherwise i would worry that they were obsessed with the client.

Eta - oh wait, i get it. You emailed him about all this (which you kinda slid in there), and you dont know if you can now expect another email, or was the text your answer. THATS what maybe doesnt matter. Sorry.

I need to bow out.

I was experiencing some paranoia about the therapist not being able to work anymore and was looking at possible backups on Psychology Today. Not very impressed with the options. One therapist named his company "Healthy Boundaries." He sounds like a barrel of laughs. He mentions using EMDR for couples issues, which seems bizarre. I don't really want a male therapist anyway, although there was one who was extremely, extremely attractive. I wonder what kind of impact that has on his work.

Healthy Boundaries? That’s like when I hear someone say “I’m a good person”—I instantly assume they’re not.

Google indicates that there’s a lot of advice out there for naming your therapy business.

And Therapy Business Name Generator + (Instant Availability Check) thinks the guy should have gone with Boundarihaven.

Can we work up one of those games like where you enter your middle name and the street you grew up on and you get your pornstar name? Except this would be your therapy business name.

Boundary Town?

Boundaries-R-Us?

focus on your homework, artie.

Shots At Sunrise

Early morning sessions with free mimosas or Irish coffee

Mental Massage??? That sounds kind of creepy.

Tea and sympathy?


yeah, really, artie. Get back to your homework.

What if something bad happened to the therapist

Yep, you're correct re: the first part. I just never say "fair enough" for whatever reason, like it's not part of my vocabulary...and haven't really had many people say it to me, so I think I was just unclear of what it really means. I guess I just read it as "Whatever!" When that's probably not how he meant it. It helped to hear how you use it.

Yes, this. The "does it really matter" was, does it matter if he was replying to my text or my email? I feel like I'm not making much sense today... The difference is, I said some stuff in the email about feeling dismissed and how I was struggling with the attachment, and his text reply doesn't seem exactly like it's responding to the email. Like I figured he'd have said something else if he's replying to that. But maybe not. I sort of want to clarify, but I don't want to annoy him. Like I would just say, "Was this in reply to my email from a couple hours ago?" Eh, I'm just gonna let it go. I really don't want to risk annoying him. Either he'll reply to my email tomorrow morning in his round of email replies or he won't.

If she’ll be there Monday, it’s unlikely. Could you just make C wait for the next one? It sounds like you need it more.

But maybe something really bad like a car accident or something happened and that's when they'll break the news!

Just doesn't feel like she will be there on Monday... and since she didn't offer a second appointment for next week, that probably means there won't be one.

Hi everyone! It's been a while. Things have been crazy with me. Hopefully things will settle down and I can get back to normal with coming to PC. Had an interesting day yesterday with the Earthquake. Flashbacks to when I was a tyke and we had a really bad quake with lots of damage to our house. I miss everyone! I hope everyone is doing well. HUGS Kit

I'm scared that the therapist isn't in any condition to deal with me.

I'm still enjoying the foods my brother sent me from Germany. Just opened a little can of a spread called "Senf Rucola" that I tasted before I looked it up on google translate. It's quite tasty! It's "Mustard Arugula".

There is tons to do after a parent dies. Plus, where is it not hot? I took 3 days in bed to recuperate from the heat after my mothers July funeral. You just keep going, keep hydrating, then lie in bed until you stop hallucinating.

Just some thoughts - my t went on vacation the day after my mother died, so he wasnt around, but it was like, we had already done a LOT of the work. The rest could wait til he returned.

Just like i didnt feel the need for one last bedside goodbye to my mother - she was suddenly unconscious, but it had all been over a long time ago.

So - just the fact that you can ASK these questions - can she be there for me? - makes me think that the answer is yes, because the real problem is when you dont even know what the question is? Something like that. I hope you feel held. I hope we help. You help here, a lot.

I am sorry for the dying man but that reminded me of an incident where a huge raid was organised on this old lady suspected of being a dealer and when the police got there turned over her house the "crop" turned out to be marigolds it was in the papers but imagine the trauma to the poor old lady because her neighbour misidentified something. I think they have better procedures these days.

I know there is lots to do... she said she would be there today but would probably need to take some time later to settle the estate. So I'm just feeling uncertainty about when she's going to be available. Feels like she's not available now and that she won't be available later, either. I totally get the cancellations, it's just kind of hard because they all happened separately and that's sort of messed with my head.

Was the takeover really disruptive? Or just been busy

My cat is very knead-y and I only have thin pj on. It hurts