Couch 199: The Unennennium Couch

SheHulk07 · Jun 28, 2019, 03:54 AM

Night artie.
It's almost 3am here. Just finished 1 discussion post and 1 assignment. Just have to review it tomorrow and make sure it's correct before I submit it. I'm planning on taking the kids to the children's museum tomorrow. I have a voucher for a free full year family membership that I have to redeem before the 30th.

Lemoncake · Jun 28, 2019, 04:04 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

So my gym that banned news channels is now using their TVs to show the Biggest Loser and the TLC type of shows like “I weigh 5 tons.” Shows I regard as nothing but exploitation and fat shaming. And in the case of the Biggest Loser, promoting unhealthy ways to lose weight.

Maybe you could complain. Perhaps in a stupid way they think in a stupid way it will make people want to work out harder?

My gym shows just shows fitness models working out mainly Anllela segra and USN ones.

Lemoncake · Jun 28, 2019, 04:11 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

Oh nice! I am taking undergrad courses right now, to get my undergrad GPA up to 3.0 so I can apply to a master's program if I decide to go for it. I'm still waffling on that. Because of my age, I'll be 57 next week, and I don't know how much sense it makes to pursue a graduate degree when i'm this old and stuff.... i know if it's what i really want i shouldn't let age deter me but it's a legitimate concern I feel... I hope you are enjoying your class! I am loving being back in school. I'm so happy I went back finally. This is my 5th class since i started again doing one class a semester.

No lies but at my first university we had a student in their 70s. I saw him in the lunch hall and he was the same as any other student. You're never too old to stop learning!

Meet some of the UK's oldest university students - BBC News

Oldest person to get Cambridge MA is 102 year old who finally decided to 'complete CV' - Telegraph

Kenyan grandmother, 90, 'world's oldest primary school pupil' - Telegraph

Lemoncake · Jun 28, 2019, 04:19 AM

R in 40-16 mins.

Yesterday's session he said that we were stuck.

That maybe he should charge me his full fee and for emails.
He hasn't replied to any for the past two weeks and said he would when he thought they were worth replying to as I wasted a lot of his and my time.
And that he hadn't decided if he still wanted to work with me.

Beginning of the end?

Lemoncake · Jun 28, 2019, 04:23 AM

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

And sometimes I panic and think that maybe I haven't prepared them properly, but to do that I would have to have imagined every possible scenario which is of course impossible.

I don't have kids. You're doing the best you can but i think the best thing any parent could do is just be the safe base that they can return to.

Lemoncake · 05:34 AM

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I do that too, panic that we haven't prepared him properly. And I lay awake more nights than I care to think about worrying about all of the mistakes I made raising him. Sometimes I wonder why I let myself become a mother. But it was my dream forever. And there was SO much joy in raising him too. He loved me so big when he was little. I was the center of his world, his sunshine, his everything for those brief years. I never in my life felt as loved as I did when he was a little tyke. And now he loves his gf. And I know that's how it's supposed to be. But my heart's a little broken anyway.

He does still love you and always will. No parent is ever perfect and it's so much more than just providing food and clothing. You created a home for your child. A place where he could actually feel safe. That means so much more than you could ever know. I remember when your son told you about booking that hotel, I would never even consider that conversation. I'm still waiting for simple things like the sex talk. the family picture, eating dinner at the table, a holiday and bed time stories.

Lemoncake · Jun 28, 2019, 05:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

R in 40-16 mins.

Yesterday's session he said that we were stuck.

That maybe he should charge me his full fee and for emails.
He hasn't replied to any for the past two weeks and said he would when he thought they were worth replying to as I wasted a lot of his and my time.
And that he hadn't decided if he still wanted to work with me.

Beginning of the end?

I told him I would rate him with an A for today's session.

He was softer, more gentle and also told me that he cared.

Jun 28, 2019, 08:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

R in 40-16 mins.

Yesterday's session he said that we were stuck.

That maybe he should charge me his full fee and for emails.

He hasn't replied to any for the past two weeks and said he would when he thought they were worth replying to as I wasted a lot of his and my time.

And that he hadn't decided if he still wanted to work with me.

Beginning of the end?

I'm so sorry, Lemoncake. Big hugs. That must have been so very hard to hear and I think it was so wrong of him to say you wasted his time. I think anything we feel, type, or say can be grist for the mill in therapy and nothing is ever a waste of time. My work with L has shown me that as I continue to go back every time I try to leave. It's all-all part of "the work" I suppose. Hugs

Jun 28, 2019, 08:21 AM

As I was leaving L's office yesterday I glanced at the sand tray and felt soooo pulled to the sand. I almost asked to stay a little longer so I could do a sand tray! I almost wish I had!

atisketatasket · Jun 28, 2019, 08:47 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

and oh yeah let's not forget my flat tire on the way home from L today haha. I emailed her when I finally made it back home and told her that the universe gave me a lesson on the way home about one of the things we were discussing there today, about not worrying what might happen, instead just live life and enjoy it and deal with whatever happens when it happens. So the universe said "ok, let's give Artie a lesson in dealing with stuff when it happens and blow out her tire while her h is out of town so she can't call him to rescue her! Yes!" Seriously. I recognized it as a lesson and when I got off the road into a parking lot, I shrugged my shoulders, moved right past drama/emotional mess and just dealt with it. The AAA guy got there 15 minutes earlier than they estimated even.

it feels pretty good now, knowing that I just dealt with it in the moment without any drama. especially considering how i've been so hugely emotional the past week or so.

Lots of women, myself included, find it a boost to self-confidence and reassuring to take a basic auto mechanic/repair course. That way you don’t have to call a man or AAA to rescue you for a flat.

Jun 28, 2019, 09:27 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Lots of women, myself included, find it a boost to self-confidence and reassuring to take a basic auto mechanic/repair course. That way you don’t have to call a man or AAA to rescue you for a flat.

Thanks, I do actually know how to change a tire, I just didn't have the special allen wrench for the hubcap face. I didn't know it needed one so didn't have one in the car. I will as soon as I go buy one! This is the old car I bought used for $1700 after my son's accident a couple years ago that has some weird quirks I am still learning about this tire thing being one. Who knew you'd need an Allen wrench to change a tire? A car maintenance class would be good though, there's other stuff I certainly could learn and it might be fun too!

Jun 28, 2019, 09:32 AM

Oh something funny from my session yesterday: I was wearing shorts so when I sat down L saw the bandaid on my knee and she said "you have a boo-boo!" I said um yeah... that sounded so, wrong coming out her mouth. Like, am I 5?

atisketatasket · Jun 28, 2019, 09:59 AM

Unless the bandaid had cartoon characters on it there is no excuse for that.

Jun 28, 2019, 10:10 AM

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Unless the bandaid had cartoon characters on it there is no excuse for that.

Adult and proper skin-colored generic bandaid. And right? Much as i love L, even I had an internal stopdog "My Lord" moment when she said that...

unaluna · Jun 28, 2019, 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Unless the bandaid had cartoon characters on it there is no excuse for that.

Umm... Houston, we have a problem!

atisketatasket · Jun 28, 2019, 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Umm... Houston, we have a problem!

You use Wonder Woman bandaids, I assume?

Jun 28, 2019, 10:43 AM

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You use Wonder Woman bandaids, I assume?

I would wear a wonder woman bandaid if it had Gal Gadot on it.

unaluna · Jun 28, 2019, 10:45 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

You use Wonder Woman bandaids, I assume?

No!

Barbie.

Jun 28, 2019, 11:02 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

No!

Barbie.

Barbie on one knee and Ken on the other?

unaluna · Jun 28, 2019, 11:05 AM

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Barbie on one knee and Ken on the other?

As long as they stay on separate knees!

Jun 28, 2019, 12:32 PM

I need to let my son and his gf handle their stuff. It's so hard. They decided they no longer feel safe in that complex and are going to attempt to break their lease. I gave them some advise and asked a couple questions for them to think about. They are headed over there now. I can't help but worry. The lease does have a clause allowing it but they are young and inexperienced and I just don't know what might happen. Breathing and remembering yesterday's lesson from the universe about not worrying and just deal with it whatever happens. Worse case I guess they have to stay there. I dunno.

stopdog · Jun 28, 2019, 12:37 PM

The good thing is that they get to figure it out and take responsibility for their choices -good and bad both are theirs and that is, in my opinion, a good thing.

Jun 28, 2019, 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

The good thing is that they get to figure it out and take responsibility for their choices -good and bad both are theirs and that is, in my opinion, a good thing.

Yes. Thank you for saying that. I am working on thinking so too and mostly I am there. It helped a lot talking with L about the situation yesterday.