Couch 199: The Unennennium Couch

Jun 27, 2019, 08:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 4

Also Art..I know it’s your son so you kind of had to let him stay, but I would have said “Hey I have a better idea. Let us pay for a hotel. You don’t want to stay here. Too cramp. See how much I love you, Son.”

We actually offered to do that. He said he really wanted to stay here so I just couldn't do anything else....

Jun 27, 2019, 09:29 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

We actually offered to do that. He said he really wanted to stay here so I just couldn't do anything else....

Agree. In that case, you couldn’t do anything else.

Jun 27, 2019, 09:47 AM

Well, one work problem solved! Just got done working with an IT guy who fixed my software issue so that's one less concern anyway!

SheHulk07 · Jun 27, 2019, 09:58 AM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

I called my ex-MC at 2 a.m. once. He answered on the second call and we talked for a few minutes. I apologized later for calling at that time, and he said it was OK. I know current T turns off his phone between like 10:30 p.m. and 7 a.m., so if I called him, he wouldn't answer, though I imagine he'd reply when he got up.

I think if your T said to call him anytime, it's OK to call. I'd check with him today (if you have session today) if that means you can call in the middle of the night if it's really urgent. I would imagine it would be helpful to know if he might answer or not.

I do see him in an hour thankfully. The few times I have called him he doesn't answer, but does call me back within an hour or texts me to say when he'll be able to call back and talk. But the latest I've ever called him was 6pm. He's texted me at 9pm last week asking to change times to call me. But that's still not in the middle of the night.
He's been pretty insistent this last week that if I felt like SH, that I need to call him or someone. So it is probably okay, I just couldn't do that. It felt like too much and I worry he'd be upset or I'd be wasting his time.
I'm already a mess this morning.

Omers · Jun 27, 2019, 10:10 AM

Ugh. My water and gas just got shut off because H decided to play the let’s hope they don’t get out here before pay day (tomorrow) game instead of asking me. I don’t “have” the money but he knows I do have an emergency credit card that is only for these things. Oh, and someone let one of our cats out, she ran into the middle of the road and froze with traffic buzzing by her until H could stop traffic and scoop her up (unharmed). Today is supposed to be my self care day.

Jun 27, 2019, 11:01 AM

Hugs, omers. Hope you can get it turned back on without too much trouble.

Lemoncake · Jun 27, 2019, 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Omers

Ugh. My water and gas just got shut off because H decided to play the let’s hope they don’t get out here before pay day (tomorrow) game instead of asking me. I don’t “have” the money but he knows I do have an emergency credit card that is only for these things. Oh, and someone let one of our cats out, she ran into the middle of the road and froze with traffic buzzing by her until H could stop traffic and scoop her up (unharmed). Today is supposed to be my self care day.

I think he should have asked you if it was only the matter of a day. Is it possible to change the date your payment goes out for it's always after payday?

I'm glad your cat is okay. that sounds frightening for her.

LostOnTheTrail · Jun 27, 2019, 12:05 PM

Feeling relieved today - long period of waiting at an end, with a favourable outcome. Thank you, Universe...more please.

Omers · Jun 27, 2019, 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I think he should have asked you if it was only the matter of a day. Is it possible to change the date your payment goes out for it's always after payday?

I'm glad your cat is okay. that sounds frightening for her.

H is not very good at money management but does not want me stressing over the bills (because of his money management decisions)... so... when something like this comes up it becomes an ego thing to not ask for help because if he does he feels it proves me right that he can’t be trusted... it’s a vicious circle that he REALLY likes to set himself up in. We have more than enough income that planning better would easily avoid this. On the up side, this means the dishes I was going to make myself walk today before quilting have to wait... oh darn!

it should be back on tomorrow...

As for the cat, I hope it scared the S* out of both her and H. H always feels I am too afraid of the cats getting hit and accuses me of overreacting when one is near the road... I am glad it was H that had to run out and play in traffic praying to god she didn’t get hit first instead of me... usually it is me.

atisketatasket · Jun 27, 2019, 01:08 PM

Macroeconomics class over, boo. I got to figure out both the velocity of money and the price of a 1970 gallon of gas on the final.

Meanwhile the Microeconomics instructor has ordered no books and posted no syllabus.

NP_Complete · Jun 27, 2019, 01:10 PM

The person in the relationship with money management issues should probably not also be the one in charge of the bills. Now that he screwed this up, it's the perfect opportunity for you to take over. Tell him it's actually less stressful to handle the bills yourself than for your water to be turned off mid-shower or not being able to cook.

unaluna · Jun 27, 2019, 01:16 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Macroeconomics class over, boo. I got to figure out both the velocity of money and the price of a 1970 gallon of gas on the final.

Meanwhile the Microeconomics instructor has ordered no books and posted no syllabus.

1970? Ya shoulda just texted me!

29 cents?

atisketatasket · Jun 27, 2019, 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

1970? Ya shoulda just texted me!

29 cents?

36 cents in the problem. Close, babe, but no cee-gar for you.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 27, 2019, 02:33 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

The person in the relationship with money management issues should probably not also be the one in charge of the bills. Now that he screwed this up, it's the perfect opportunity for you to take over. Tell him it's actually less stressful to handle the bills yourself than for your water to be turned off mid-shower or not being able to cook.

Yep, this is why I let H handle the bills (because I'm not so good with them), though he forgets one or two sometimes, too. We have most of ours on automatic payment (which did get us into trouble once).

Jun 27, 2019, 03:07 PM

My a/c is apparently crapping out. Ugh.

Jun 27, 2019, 03:30 PM

Thankfully I see L in 3 hours.

SheHulk07 · Jun 27, 2019, 03:37 PM

Possible trigger:

T was telling me he thinks I need to be in the hospital, especially over the weekend, but he's not going to force it. Yet he said it put him in a difficult situation because we're on our weekend now and he thinks I need more support right now to be safe. I cried basically all session over what happened this morning. I told him I tried to be safe but that I did end up SH. In between crying I forgot to say that I thought about calling him. He said he hopes I call him this weekend if I need or go to the hospital. Next week and the week after are going to be shorter weeks because of the holiday and he's taking the Thursday after the 4th off too. I have my classes to worry about and I need to make sure we're caught up on bills. I'm thinking maybe after the 4th I might reconsider but I don't know. When he mentioned it, the threat of it felt very real and I was scared and told him I don't think I need that.

Elio · Jun 27, 2019, 03:43 PM

Question: I've been feeling emotionally crappy today and it's made it hard to concentrate while at work. I thought of trying to use music or something to help. I have session in 2.5 hour. Is it better to continue to sit with these feelings and go into session while in this crappy space or do something to distract or pull me out of this crappy space and then not be able to talk about it once there because not feeling it any more.

(now wondering if I forgot my meds this morning) sigh.

Elio · Jun 27, 2019, 03:53 PM

BLAH...(Ball Liberation Army of Happiness)

Jun 27, 2019, 03:54 PM

H says it's not hot in the house and that I must be going through a second menopause. I'm all there is no such thing you goofball. At least there better not be!!

Jun 27, 2019, 04:00 PM

Hugs, shehulk and elio.

NP_Complete · Jun 27, 2019, 04:23 PM

I would take my crappy space to session with me, but that's just me.

Jun 27, 2019, 04:30 PM

I thought I was gonna take my super-emotional state with me today, but right now, I feel fine. Like I got over it by stewing in it all week or something. Too late to cancel though and she's on vacation next week so I'm going anyway... as soon as I start talking I'll probs be right back in the soup anyways.

susannahsays · Jun 27, 2019, 04:32 PM

Hmm. Maybe there is something to this suddenly feeling better, Artie.

NP_Complete · Jun 27, 2019, 04:32 PM

I feel an after session email coming on. Am I going to regret sending it?

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