[Taylor27]

Since i have started going to the clinic all the previous therapists have been nice, however i always got the sense they all felt it was wrong for me to get attached, dependent so the treatment i got was very cbt, dbt cold and it left me very angry and sad.


Now i have been seeing this new lady since the middle of May and yesturdays session I really felt a sense that she really cares and is willing to meet me where i am at emotionally. She offers me to call her when ever i feel over whelmed with depression, my sessions are more frequent and booked two months ahead due to her busy schedual. She believes that some therapies just do not work for people and that my time spent with the old t was not wasted. That the therapy wasn't the one i could grasp and other things got in the way.

I missed the caring aspect of therapy that i got way back when I was with a pastoral counsellor. It feels nice to feel safe enough to not feel scared i have done something wrong. I will probably make more posts as time goes on, i just feel very happy i got a really good therapist and i hope it's not short lived

Has anyone had simaliar experiences with different ways therapist have helped you. I just feel like it's too good to be true to finally have a therapist that is more helpful to me then my old pyschologist and addiction counsellor where. I feel badly that i feel now i feel im going to be able to move forward again, it's taken a very long time and allot of fustration to this point. Almost all my friends have given up on me for being in therapy this long.

[Lonelyinmyheart]

Yes, absolutely.

I have seen four main therapists, all very different and have helped me in different ways. T1 was very maternal and I was only a teen when seeing her, but I was so disturbed that I couldn't take any risks with her and I didn't work through a lot of stuff. Some years later, T2 helped me grow from functioning primarily as a child to an adult, but she was very different from T1 and didn't 'do' transference, so I didn't experience her in the same way even though she was a lovely T. We looked more at goals together. T3 wasn't a good match for me - she came across quite clinical and cold at times, although she did help me a lot with a specific situation in my life. Current T is extremely empathic, caring, open and giving, and like you I've not experienced a T quite like her before. She lets me text her on holiday if I need to, offers hugs and is just a really lovely heartfelt person. I feel also that she can meet me where I am emotionally and that I will be able to grow from the work with her because she is allowing space for all of me, not just some of me.

I agree with your T that some therapies don't work for some people. Also, some therapies don't work for people at certain times as well. Its extremely subjective and this is where therapy can be such an elusive profession.

It's wonderful that you feel this T can help you. Wishing you well!

[Rive.]

Glad that you have a T who provides you with emotional support.

It can indeed take a long time (lots of trial and error... and even heartache) to find 'the one'. Can your T talk to mine re being as caring etc.?

[Taylor27]

Originally Posted by Lonelyinmyheart

Yes, absolutely.

I have seen four main therapists, all very different and have helped me in different ways. T1 was very maternal and I was only a teen when seeing her, but I was so disturbed that I couldn't take any risks with her and I didn't work through a lot of stuff. Some years later, T2 helped me grow from functioning primarily as a child to an adult, but she was very different from T1 and didn't 'do' transference, so I didn't experience her in the same way even though she was a lovely T. We looked more at goals together. T3 wasn't a good match for me - she came across quite clinical and cold at times, although she did help me a lot with a specific situation in my life. Current T is extremely empathic, caring, open and giving, and like you I've not experienced a T quite like her before. She lets me text her on holiday if I need to, offers hugs and is just a really lovely heartfelt person. I feel also that she can meet me where I am emotionally and that I will be able to grow from the work with her because she is allowing space for all of me, not just some of me.

I agree with your T that some therapies don't work for some people. Also, some therapies don't work for people at certain times as well. Its extremely subjective and this is where therapy can be such an elusive profession.

It's wonderful that you feel this T can help you. Wishing you well!

It's very different going from very cold clinical therapist to a very caring understanding t. Thank you for sharing it's helpful to know im not alone and i talk to my t about this yesturday and it helped me understand that every therapist is so different in how they do things.


I know i wont have a issue with her im pretty good knowing where the boundaries are with. Im a very sensitive person so any type of therapy thats very cut and dry approach i don't seem to do well, it's nice to go into my sessions and comming out feel like i am making some good progress even if it's very small. My other t's i could always sense they where not there for me, it's very nice.

[Taylor27]

Originally Posted by Rive.

Glad that you have a T who provides you with emotional support.

It can indeed take a long time (lots of trial and error... and even heartache) to find 'the one'. Can your T talk to mine re being as caring etc.?

I honestly thought that i would never find a t like this one i have now. Yes lots of trial and error. One thing is at the clinic we are stuck with the therapist and there is little or no choice. I could of left and let my file close and re start the process, however i had day program and did not feel like going through six months of waiting.


Im so glad i gave this therapist a chance to see if she could help me, and so far so good

[hopealwayz]

I am so happy that you found a wonderful therapist!

I have also felt like my therapist is too good to be true and then I think about how fortunate I am to have found a therapist who is so amazing.

It took a while to find him but it is so worth the wait.

I’m so happy for you!

[Omers]

I’m going through something similar with my T. He is super caring and nurturing. For me it feels really great in session but when left too long to my own I start to worry... is this too good to be true? When is he going to reject me? We just went through one of those today. When trust is difficult to start with then you add poor experiences with previous T’s it can be hard to believe and accept.

[Taylor27]

Originally Posted by Omers

I’m going through something similar with my T. He is super caring and nurturing. For me it feels really great in session but when left too long to my own I start to worry... is this too good to be true? When is he going to reject me? We just went through one of those today. When trust is difficult to start with then you add poor experiences with previous T’s it can be hard to believe and accept.

Im starting to ask myself some of these questions too, and i am so afraid she will leave me. I am also afraid of getting to close to trusting her, i know thats very hard for me, im a person the gets attached easy to people. It shows in my other relationships with people too.

[ArtleyWilkins]

I've had three different long term therapists, and they were definitely different from each other: different training and degrees, different levels and/or types of therapy experience, different approaches, different personalities. But each of them brought something value to the therapy room that I found helpful and healing. I was in therapy at different stages of my own life and my journey through healing, and in a way, I think having different therapists was probably more beneficial to me than it would have been to be with the same one through the entire process. Three different sets of eyes, three different perspectives, three different approaches -- and each had its benefits.

[Taylor27]

Originally Posted by ArtleyWilkins

I've had three different long term therapists, and they were definitely different from each other: different training and degrees, different levels and/or types of therapy experience, different approaches, different personalities. But each of them brought something value to the therapy room that I found helpful and healing. I was in therapy at different stages of my own life and my journey through healing, and in a way, I think having different therapists was probably more beneficial to me than it would have been to be with the same one through the entire process. Three different sets of eyes, three different perspectives, three different approaches -- and each had its benefits.

Yes all the therapists i have had even though i had some issues got in the way i have learned things along the way. My old therapist was very cbt approach so it was helpful to focus on my negative thoughts and challenging them. I firmly believe that will come more clear to me as time goes on. I think it is very helpful for me to have different therapists and to not be so closed minded to different approaches.