Couch 209: The Kummer Couch

JaneTennison1 · Dec 17, 2019, 08:45 PM

Son just barfed and I was the only one here so I had to clean up and watch him. I'm panicking so hard right now and of course T is out sick and cancelled our session. So EMDR has not fixed my germ/vomit fear so far

LonesomeTonight · Dec 17, 2019, 09:07 PM

Hugs, Jane...I have the vomit/germ fear, too. It sucks... I'm sorry your T canceled... Ex-T was originally going to do exposure therapy (and we started on it a bit--writing a gross story) with me for the fears (there's some longer name for it)--could that be a possibility? (We started on it, then got sidetracked by a bunch of more seemingly pressing issues). I didn't realize EMDR was used for those sorts of things, thought was more past trauma.

Dec 17, 2019, 09:10 PM

I personally dont believe EMDR has any effect as a therapy because no one has been able to properly answer my questions on how it works. At best i think it is a distraction technique so issues can talked about but i dont think it has anything to do with how the brain processes things.

JaneTennison1 · Dec 17, 2019, 09:14 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Hugs, Jane...I have the vomit/germ fear, too. It sucks... I'm sorry your T canceled... Ex-T was originally going to do exposure therapy (and we started on it a bit--writing a gross story) with me for the fears (there's some longer name for it)--could that be a possibility? (We started on it, then got sidetracked by a bunch of more seemingly pressing issues). I didn't realize EMDR was used for those sorts of things, thought was more past trauma.

I think because some vomit memories have association with trauma they say it can work. I have tried every other kind. Exposure, CBT etc so I'm throwing this at it and trying my best.

JaneTennison1 · Dec 17, 2019, 09:33 PM

Honestly this phobia

Possible trigger:

makes me want to die and I stop eating for days at a time

EMDR is kind of a hail mary

stopdog · Dec 17, 2019, 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

i died at that. Omg.

My favorite was "Just do your magic, brain witch"

SheHulk07 · Dec 18, 2019, 12:33 AM

I told T today something I've been hiding from him and everyone for the past few weeks.

Possible trigger:

I told him I had a SUI plan and intent for after the holidays if I didn't feel better

At least that's what I was thinking about a lot before the hospitalization. He asked me why did I decide to tell him and I told him I don't necessarily feel that way right now but I wanted to get it out in the open. It feels like maybe it has less power if I discuss it rather than letting it fester.

unaluna · Dec 18, 2019, 01:02 AM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

My favorite was "Just do your magic, brain witch"

I KNEW that, somehow.

I did like how in the dogs one, they go sniffing, huh, no secrets about who's been here!

Lemoncake · Dec 18, 2019, 02:24 AM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

Thanks, EM. I'm feeling about the same tbh. Maybe worse since I learned that my aunt who lives across the country is dying of heart failure, completely out of the blue. (She's in the ICU, intubated and on medicines keeping her blood pressure in a livable range.) I still haven't ruled out the hospital. But if my T gets his way I'll avoid it--another friend offered to have me stay with her tonight, so maybe I'll just keep rotating through friends until the crisis passes (if it does, that is).

I'm afraid of getting hospitalized and then my aunt dying and them not letting me out to go to the funeral, because then I'd have to tell my parents that I'm doing poorly again and they'll freak out. I also don't want to get hospitalized and get stuck in the hospital for another month and make my colleagues cover for me again.

I would echo EM on this. If you need to be kept safe then seeking additional help is okay and it might not be for a month.

I'm sorry about your aunt.

Lemoncake · Dec 18, 2019, 02:25 AM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

I told T today something I've been hiding from him and everyone for the past few weeks.

Possible trigger:

I told him I had a SUI plan and intent for after the holidays if I didn't feel better

At least that's what I was thinking about a lot before the hospitalization. He asked me why did I decide to tell him and I told him I don't necessarily feel that way right now but I wanted to get it out in the open. It feels like maybe it has less power if I discuss it rather than letting it fester.

It did hear somewhere that if you name something it does have less power. You've identified it now and that lets T know where you are right now.

Lemoncake · Dec 18, 2019, 02:29 AM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Has this already been posted? I laugh every time. The cat one is funnier than the dog one in my opinion
cats:

dogs

This is so brilliant!

The Ad for the earbuds was really well done too.

Polibeth · Dec 18, 2019, 05:19 AM

I stayed late at work - it's been so busy lately. The ER was at least quiet tonight.

Polibeth · Dec 18, 2019, 05:51 AM

The opening post of each couch should also include "Do not text/email your T while sleep deprived" - I am going to regret this in a few hours

ElectricManatee · Dec 18, 2019, 06:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Polibeth

The opening post of each couch should also include "Do not text/email your T while sleep deprived" - I am going to regret this in a few hours

That sounds ominous... What did you do?

LonesomeTonight · Dec 18, 2019, 07:13 AM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

I told T today something I've been hiding from him and everyone for the past few weeks.

Possible trigger:

I told him I had a SUI plan and intent for after the holidays if I didn't feel better

At least that's what I was thinking about a lot before the hospitalization. He asked me why did I decide to tell him and I told him I don't necessarily feel that way right now but I wanted to get it out in the open. It feels like maybe it has less power if I discuss it rather than letting it fester.

It's good that you told him. I also tend to feel like those sorts of feelings have less power after I share them. It's almost like I'm handing them off to someone. Also glad you don't feel like that right now.

chihirochild · Dec 18, 2019, 08:41 AM

Called in sick to work again today. Sitting in bed with a fuzzy blanket watching Gilmore Girls, will get up and do things soon.

chihirochild · Dec 18, 2019, 11:54 AM

Extra session in an hour (I usually see T on Fridays)--T broke his "no extra sessions when you're distressed" rule.

I'm so tired. I just want to go to the hospital.

LonesomeTonight · Dec 18, 2019, 12:30 PM

Glad you're seeing your T--I never really understand "no extra sessions when distressed" rules (assuming the T has an opening). I hope he can help.

downandlonely · Dec 18, 2019, 12:32 PM

@chihirochild is there a reason you can't go to the hospital?

chihirochild · Dec 18, 2019, 12:34 PM

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Originally Posted by downandlonely

@chihirochild is there a reason you can't go to the hospital?

My T doesn't want me to. He hasn't forbidden me to go but he doesn't think I should because he doesn't think it'll be helpful--he says it's just a holding place where people get their meds changed.

SheHulk07 · Dec 18, 2019, 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

Extra session in an hour (I usually see T on Fridays)--T broke his "no extra sessions when you're distressed" rule.

I'm so tired. I just want to go to the hospital.

I hope the extra session helps.

downandlonely · Dec 18, 2019, 01:26 PM

I kind of agree with your T @chihirochild. I think you should go if you don't feel safe. But if you are safe, maybe you can look into intensive outpatient therapy instead.

Polibeth · Dec 18, 2019, 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

That sounds ominous... What did you do?

Haha -- emailed T and pdoc about not sleeping and being manic. It was a bunch of random thoughts strung together. Pdoc got back to me that he is going to collaborate with T - I have no idea what that means but that also sound ominous.

People at work were trying to nicely tell me that I look like crap. One of the nurses said "Oh honey - you look SOOOOO tired". LOL

Polibeth · Dec 18, 2019, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

Extra session in an hour (I usually see T on Fridays)--T broke his "no extra sessions when you're distressed" rule.

I'm so tired. I just want to go to the hospital.

I hope the extra session helps. I also hope you can stay safe and that if you cannot you go to the hospital.

unaluna · Dec 18, 2019, 02:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Polibeth

...
People at work were trying to nicely tell me that I look like crap. One of the nurses said "Oh honey - you look SOOOOO tired". LOL

Well you ARE still recuperating from your cootie bout. I always declare a month to heal from flu or bronchitis - its real, look it up. And not just in old lady google!

Okay i stole that - from the tv show The Neighborhood, Cedric the Entertainer was going on about how the barbershop was like black google - you can find out anything you want.

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