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Old Mar 05, 2020, 07:10 PM
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right today she said that this is the first im talking to her about this. although we spent the whole session last week on it. i reminded her of this and she said i kind of remember something about it
Its like, 1. this is not your mother. 2. This is worse than your mother.

Its impossible to get through to her. So in a way, its still therapy? I wonder if she would remember if she feels THAT break from / in you. Idk. That might be what she is looking for, that she thinks she is still t enough to sense.
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Old Mar 05, 2020, 07:12 PM
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Have you checked to see if she is still licensed with the state?
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Old Mar 05, 2020, 07:17 PM
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Have you checked to see if she is still licensed with the state?
at this point i dont think it matters but how do i do that
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Old Mar 05, 2020, 07:22 PM
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at this point i dont think it matters but how do i do that
Go to yourstate.gov, like ma.gov or wherever you are?

Then look for professional licensing, narrow it down by medical profession. You should be able to search by name.
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Old Mar 05, 2020, 07:27 PM
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google (your state) board of counseling license verification?
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Old Mar 05, 2020, 07:52 PM
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google (your state) board of counseling license verification?
i found her lic number but went to check it and it said no results found
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Old Mar 05, 2020, 08:07 PM
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i found her lic number but went to check it and it said no results found

hmm that's interesting. I wonder if she's no longer licensed, or maybe her license number changed? in the search for my state you could search by name or license number.
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Old Mar 05, 2020, 08:30 PM
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Granite, this is the canary in the coal mine, it is telling you to get.out, she will keep you on an endless loop of not remembering and badgering you to go back for closure, End it, block her number and get out. Maybe end it by email so she is very very clear.
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Old Mar 05, 2020, 09:27 PM
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Granite, this is the canary in the coal mine, it is telling you to get.out, she will keep you on an endless loop of not remembering and badgering you to go back for closure, End it, block her number and get out. Maybe end it by email so she is very very clear.
i know this but so far i just cant find myself doing this .i was wanting to give her till the end of the month and i let her convince me to keep seeing her until the end of april. not sure how this will go .i dont think i will be able to make it and i will end up sending her a deer T letter. i know she is having issues and that makes it harder . i dont think some of the stuff she can help but the manipulation of trying to keep me from terminating is hard .
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Old Mar 05, 2020, 09:35 PM
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i found her lic number but went to check it and it said no results found
No, you should be able to find it in a listing that shows her name, and what dates her license was effective for. "No results" would mean like you were looking for a doctor in a nurses database.
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Old Mar 05, 2020, 09:39 PM
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My psychiatrist office is playing with my head. So you remember about 2 weeks ago that the office called me a day before a scheduled appointment and said that my pdoc, B had left. They were going to switch me to a new lady, but the soonest she had available wasn't until march 11th. I needed a med refill, so last week I had an appointment with the owner, M, who is pretty cool so I didn't mind that. He said come back in a week, and only gave me a week worth of my meds. I went in today, and they said they didn't have me on the schedule, but I showed them that I had a text saying I had an appointment on the 5th with B...the pdoc that I was seeing who left. I figured the owner messed up and so did the receptionist, so she said let me talk to M and see what's going on. I waited 30 minutes for one of the lady managers to call me back, and said that I'd be seeing my old pdoc, B via tele therapy. I was like, "I thought he left the practice." She said he was on leave but should be coming back, so I'm like awesome because I really liked him. I went back, did the tele therapy with him, and he said he should be back in 2 weeks in his office and schedule for then. And of course he told me I make him really nervous, especially through tele therapy because he's not in the office personally with me.
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Which he's told me before and I'm not mad. I was really happy to see him because I liked him and was upset when they told me he had left. Anyway, I go to schedule with the receptionist and I said "B said he'll be back in 2 weeks and to get on his schedule for then." And she's like mmm,maybe... His schedule is open, and I can put you on his schedule but it's not a guarantee. And the other lady psychiatrist that they were going to set me up with is apparently leaving in April anyway to go to their new office. She put me on my pdocs, B, schedule for 2 weeks, and told me if he's not in yet that the owner, M, would end up seeing me that day. I told her that they moved offices and apparently all he double hockey sticks broke loose in the past month. I'm really really hoping my pdoc will really be back like he said.
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Old Mar 05, 2020, 10:50 PM
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Things are really hard right now.

Carry on....
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Old Mar 06, 2020, 12:46 AM
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Granite what will be different in April than it is now??
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Old Mar 06, 2020, 07:10 AM
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I’m feeling petulant and resentful towards my T since he’s making em talk about how this guy I liked rejected me and why. I feel sad and hurt and just want empathy and I told him that but he’s really pushing me. I don’t want to go to session today. Maybe twice a week wasn’t such a good idea.
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Old Mar 06, 2020, 08:52 AM
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I’m feeling petulant and resentful towards my T since he’s making em talk about how this guy I liked rejected me and why. I feel sad and hurt and just want empathy and I told him that but he’s really pushing me. I don’t want to go to session today. Maybe twice a week wasn’t such a good idea.
What would happen if you just refused to talk about it?
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Old Mar 06, 2020, 08:57 AM
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I'm anxious and triggered even though what I'm scared and upset about isn't happening soon.

Good news: T said that we can do online therapy when I move countries to join my partner. Timezones would mean limited availability, but workable.

What I'm anxious and triggered about: When I'm there, she wants to reduce session frequency since I'm much better and wants me to be more independent. I mean I know I'll probably be fine and all that when I've actually moved. I just feel scared.

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Old Mar 06, 2020, 09:38 AM
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What would happen if you just refused to talk about it?
That’s a fantastic question. I really don’t know. I might find out today.
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Old Mar 06, 2020, 10:09 AM
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I’m feeling petulant and resentful towards my T since he’s making em talk about how this guy I liked rejected me and why. I feel sad and hurt and just want empathy and I told him that but he’s really pushing me. I don’t want to go to session today. Maybe twice a week wasn’t such a good idea.
You don't have to talk about anything you don't want to ever!
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Old Mar 06, 2020, 10:11 AM
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I'm anxious and triggered even though what I'm scared and upset about isn't happening soon.

Good news: T said that we can do online therapy when I move countries to join my partner. Timezones would mean limited availability, but workable.

What I'm anxious and triggered about: When I'm there, she wants to reduce session frequency since I'm much better and wants me to be more independent. I mean I know I'll probably be fine and all that when I've actually moved. I just feel scared.
It's okay to be scared. Can you ask to keep going at your own pace for a while then go down when you feel like your ready.
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Old Mar 06, 2020, 10:12 AM
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She hulk- I don't like the sound of your psych office, they just seem too unreliable. Is there anywhere else you could go?
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Old Mar 06, 2020, 10:14 AM
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Granite if you already know in your heart that it's time to leave, delaying it until april will still hurt as much as it does now.

Can you reschedule with another T to just talk things through?
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Old Mar 06, 2020, 10:51 AM
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She hulk- I don't like the sound of your psych office, they just seem too unreliable. Is there anywhere else you could go?
There are other places but the waitlists are months long for new patients. I really like the pdoc I was seeing, so I'm hoping he'll be back for good. Or even the owner I like, too. If he doesn't return then I'll reach out to another place that I have numbers to.
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Old Mar 06, 2020, 11:07 AM
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last night was awful. I take a medication for my illness and yesterday was one of the last times I'll take it as I am moving on to a stronger medicine shortly.

Sometimes i get few side effects and sometimes it hits me like a truck. last night was a truck night. I feel exhausted and tearful today. Yes it was the last time but what if the next one is worse?? I just wanna cry but here I am at work.
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Old Mar 06, 2020, 11:09 AM
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Maybe you could also get your name down on the waiting list, whilst you're still seeing someone at the current place.
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I see Liz (main therapist) this afternoon, and I feel anxious. I told Amy (EMDR therapist) on Wednesday that I felt like Liz re-traumatized me during our massive rupture last year. (I told this to Liz in session last week too, and she took it remarkably well but did not agree or disagree.) I told Amy that I felt really dramatic about putting it that way because while Liz's boundary change did unleash nearly-intolerable-yet-oddly-familiar feelings, she didn't mean to hurt me. Amy agreed that Liz had no intention of hurting me but that the end result was that she did re-traumatize me. So that's validating and a little scary.

Lately I have been doing trauma work with Amy and talking about everyday life stuff with Liz. That wasn't really the plan at the beginning since Amy is supposed to just be my EMDR/emotional regulation guy, but it seems to be the way I am wanting to do things right now.

I feel kind of bad for Liz because she works so hard and she cares so much about me that she probably feels pretty bad that I felt re-traumatized by her. I doubt she would agree with my assessment, but she doesn't have to.
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