Couch 222: Create, Cooperate, Harmonize

It’s also a place to learn to recognize jackassery, controlling behavior, and unprofessionalism.

I wondered why SD hadn’t snapped you up long ago.

Good lord. Therapy was not that for me. It is in no way what I was looking for from therapy

Yeah, we dont have the same love language.

Ya know, its down to Maya Angelou - when somebody tells you who they are the first time, believe them.

That is hard to do. We want them to fulfill OUR desires, to be who we need them to be.

Therapists are assholes and they lie about it. Listening to a therapist is tricky because they lie, manipulate, and blame you when you catch them.

Ok at the end of last year inwanted to join the university of the third age but then covid happened and i am going to try again in January but i am unsure of what i can do because a lot of the classes have been restricted or stopped altogether.

I want to be more social and not such a timorous beastie.

I think i will do a lot better than in the past as i am aware that i can have boundaries and not let people just walk all over me.

I'm so sad and depressed. And a little excited!

L won't be available for only 4 days this holiday, but I won't get to see her in-person for 3 weeks because week 1 she's traveling and then she'll self-quarantine for 2 weeks.

However, I have 2 projects I'm working on.
1. A lantern with 3 quotes that we use a lot, and a picture that symbolizes our work together.
2. I have a small metal giraffe of her. For every day she's gone, I'm going to make an album of photos of the giraffe doing different things (i.e. having a spa day, snuggling with her blanket, etc.). Then I bought a beanie baby giraffe to be friends with her giraffe

I know #2 is silly, but I think it will be cute! I hope she'll like it.

I think those are lovely ideas.

Yeahbut they are SUPPOSED to be doing all that for your BETTERMENT. Well, theres the problem right there - they cant improve on your perfection

They are just like anybody else - up and down the bell curve.

I just really liked my dental hygienist today. We really connected. She was very connectable.

ETA - Okay. Yeah. Meaning, she laughed at my jokes. But i also told her that my new crown felt really good, like it made my mouth complete in a way i didnt know was missing, and she almost hugged me! It was nice to share that.

Then i ran in my old asian coworker outside the grocery store. I see her on the bus almost every time i go there. I havent been in sooo long, but there she was! That also made me feel really good.

They’re assholes to make people better? 2ex would be a great therapist, then.

Did your hygienist maybe slip you some extra happy gas?

"Ya gotta know when to hold 'em,
Know when to fold 'em!..."

Clearly they gave her something

Usually i sing when im sick. Usually Michael Row the Boat Ashore. Idk what it means if i sing-type.

And now for something completely different.
I am fascinated by youtube bird/squirrel/deer watching live cams - one in germany and one in south africa and one in ohio.

(I said different - not interesting or useful for others)

hello, Couchies i saw that the forums have changed so thought i'd check my login still works. it's been a while between visits!

'tis my least favourite time of the year, and i'm dealing with crappy physical and mental health, as well as T being away for a couple of weeks. feeling a bit glum so i'm going to grab a soft cushion and curl up in a corner, if that's okay.

I love that quote. Heard it first in Maya's interview with Oprah.

Hiiiiiiii

Welcome to the couch boat.

thanks, Lemoncake. i forgot that most Couchies would be asleep when i rocked up. ridiculous, unfathomable time zone differences.

Serves me right for preparing my mother's Christmas present two days before the big day. Just opened one package and the book is damaged. I've no idea what to do.

Lost, I ordered my boys’ ornaments in October and didn’t bother to open them until we decorated the tree a little over a week ago. One was damaged. I contacted the seller, sent a photo, and asked if they’d be willing to send a replacement. They agreed to send me another one. So it doesn’t hurt to ask—the worst that could happen is that they say no and you are still in the pickle you’re already in.

It probably won’t be resolved before Christmas Day, but if 2020 has taught us anything, it’s how to flex, right? You could give something else now and save the book for a bday or “just because” surprise. Is the book unreadable? Or just not gift-perfect? Another option if it’s readable is to explain and ask if she wants to wait for a replacement.

Or just wrap it up, shrug and say “2020. Whaddaya gonna do?”

I always put those sorts of things on in the background when I’m on a long night shift—it’s nice to have something pleasant to look at on long nights.

Hey, i was up!

cat peeps - question. this has never been an issue with my cats that i can remember, they've always been chow hounds. But for the 2nd day in a row they are all 3 refusing to eat. we have no idea why. we have not changed their food, nothing weird/different is going on at home, they're not acting sick, they just all started turning their noses up at their food yesterday morning. Did the same last night, and again this morning. And they won't eat their treats either. I am perplexed. Oh, I did try a little tuna with them last night and Penny ate a little of that, but the other 2 didn't. So odd.

They're messing with you.

More likely they think something is off with the food that you can't sense. I would go out and get a fresh bag or set of cans, whatever it is you're feeding them and try that first.

And if that doesn't work, vet.