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unaluna · Apr 22, 2021, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

I think I remember reading one time that one of Steve Perry's (former lead singer of Journey) early influences was Sam Cooke.

Also of the rolling stones.

unaluna · Apr 22, 2021, 08:14 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

ex-hankster - the couch libertine.

The couch slouch.

ArtieTheSequal · Apr 22, 2021, 08:52 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Hasnt he learned yet that he is THE WORST at that (or i think maybe any) kind of manipulation? It NEVER turns out the way he intended. And that's just since we've been hearing about it.

I think we need to focus on that. Get him a mug that says, "Worst re-director ever" or something.

Nope. He's more stubborn than I am in that regard.

Ha to the mug!! yes!!!!

Daffydungle · Apr 22, 2021, 09:36 PM

Why do i think i am bad when my ex swindled the insurance company, deliberately broke his already chipped windscreen in his car with a whppier snipper at work by throwing a stone up on it and got the company to pay for a replacement and managed to injure himself at work in every job he has ever had and get workers comp. And the list goes on. He deliberately exaggerated his injuries is what mean.

Quietmind 2 · Apr 22, 2021, 10:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I passed my surgery exam with an A! It was honestly the best exam so far. For the written I got two marks above the pass mark of 45/60. Then the second half we have it with three teachers. I got lucky the main examiner today was the teacher I've had a crush on since 4th year. He's always been super nice and he was the one I stayed back with twice before for voluntary shadowing whilst he worked a night shift. My questions were easy too. For the last one which was about head and brain trauma I branched into child abuse, and he led with follow up questions about it. The atmosphere was very chilled. The other neuro doc made jokes about me needing glasses to read my small writing ( I told him I was already wearing contacts) and when they asked what I wanted to specialize in I said plastic surgery, I told them it wasn't true though, but the final question they asked me was what would I fix for each of them and I said nothing.

Two more exams to go!!!

Rob also replied back which I did find helpful = saying his door was always open if I did want to come back. I don't think I do at this moment.

Congratulations! And, definitely take your time about R. Glad you're checking in with yourself.

Quietmind 2 · Apr 22, 2021, 10:56 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

I have an appointment next week with New T, Dr. K. I'm starting to get nervous. Like what if he thinks I'm just a waste of time?

SK, you are not a waste of time and you deserve to take up space.

Quietmind 2 · Apr 22, 2021, 11:04 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Lashing out can be a form of self-protection, too. Like a cornered animal trying to save itself. I don't think it makes you like your perpetrators at all

I hope your talk about it goes well tomorrow..

I guess why it also bothers me is my Mum would go into a transient paranoia (lack of a better term) and start accusing me of things, say she knows what I'm thinking, getting very angry, then beating me up.

And I do that to my T. I see her in about 2 hours.

My dad set little "tests" I knew nothing about, wait till I failed them then get me. My sibling however just took out whatever rage he felt on me. So I think I'm just like them.

ArtieTheSequal · Apr 22, 2021, 11:21 PM

h and i just had a lengthy talk about what he said earlier (the curve ball). there was a lot of truth behind what he said earlier. and i don't know how to handle it.

Possible trigger:

he talked more about how he gets more and more tired all the time, and he may only have a few years left to live, he did so many drugs/abused his body so bad when he was young, he's 66 chronologically but his body is probably 85, that's why he's pushing so hard to move to a newer house because he just wants to live out his last couple of years in a nicer place, etc. he was almost crying. he freaked me the hell out. i asked him to go see the doctor and get some tests run and he said he's afraid to because he doesn't want to know. he's afraid he's got esophageal cancer (he has barrett's esophagus and is on medication for it). i asked him to go because if he doesn't for sure they can't treat whatever it might be, but if he goes, maybe there's a different medication they can try or something. i'm going to see a dietician about losing weight for myself and i'm hoping that he'll join me in eating healthier and that will give him some energy back. he's really down in the dumps tonight and telling me that i just need to be happy and live my life and not worry about him. I am so confused. If I didn't worry, I would feel like I didn't care.

Lemoncake · 12:03 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Speaking of which, this guy is my hero! Just for the skipping, never mind that he still got paid!

Italian hospital employee accused of skipping work for 15 years - BBC News

My aunt would do this if she could.

Six managers not to notice though.

Lemoncake · Apr 22, 2021, 11:44 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

h and i just had a lengthy talk about what he said earlier (the curve ball). there was a lot of truth behind what he said earlier. and i don't know how to handle it.

Possible trigger:

he talked more about how he gets more and more tired all the time, and he may only have a few years left to live, he did so many drugs/abused his body so bad when he was young, he's 66 chronologically but his body is probably 85, that's why he's pushing so hard to move to a newer house because he just wants to live out his last couple of years in a nicer place, etc. he was almost crying. he freaked me the hell out. i asked him to go see the doctor and get some tests run and he said he's afraid to because he doesn't want to know. he's afraid he's got esophageal cancer (he has barrett's esophagus and is on medication for it). i asked him to go because if he doesn't for sure they can't treat whatever it might be, but if he goes, maybe there's a different medication they can try or something. i'm going to see a dietician about losing weight for myself and i'm hoping that he'll join me in eating healthier and that will give him some energy back. he's really down in the dumps tonight and telling me that i just need to be happy and live my life and not worry about him. I am so confused. If I didn't worry, I would feel like I didn't care.

He is a part of your life not just as simple as saying not to worry about him. I hope you can convince him to get checked out. The tiredness could be due to lots of things.

Well done on seeing the dietitian. I hope you can get an early appointment.

What are your dreams for your future artie?

Have you started the Hawaii fund ?

Lemoncake · Apr 22, 2021, 11:45 PM

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I'll crochet some flowers for the event.

Aww thanks lovely.

"If it wasn't for you, I'd always be in and out of love, lying in the wrong rooms and knowing it wasn't quite enough".

atisketatasket · Apr 22, 2021, 11:50 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

The couch slouch.

No way! You keep the rest of us on the edges of our Freudian bits.

I am irritable because I can’t sleep and I can’t sleep because I took a two-hour nap yesterday afternoon and am not tired.

Quietmind 2 · Apr 23, 2021, 12:00 AM

Hugs @ArtieTheSequal

Lemoncake · Apr 23, 2021, 12:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Quietmind 2

Congratulations! And, definitely take your time about R. Glad you're checking in with yourself.

In his email he also said that he regretted the way we ended our sessions together. I needed that connection, but I know I can't fit into that therapy box anymore.

Lemoncake · Apr 23, 2021, 12:05 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

No way! You keep the rest of us on the edges of our Freudian bits.

I am irritable because I can’t sleep and I can’t sleep because I took a two-hour nap yesterday afternoon and am not tired.

Maybe a hot bath and a cup of milk would help?

Quietmind 2 · Apr 23, 2021, 12:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

In his email he also said that he regretted the way we ended our sessions together. I needed that connection, but I know I can't fit into that therapy box anymore.

Hugs. Yes, you deserve good therapy, not being crammed into a box.

ScarletPimpernel · Apr 23, 2021, 03:12 AM

L wants me to reach out before a crisis. I wanted to call her yesterday and for her to call me back. But I didn't reach out. Now I'm really struggling.

I'm constantly doing this to myself. I convince myself that I don't really need her support or that I'll be a burden. If I only reached out, I might not be in such pain tonight.

stopdog · Apr 23, 2021, 09:02 AM

It keeps going from winter to summer to winter - bypassing spring altogether. It is windy, wet, and cold. Crashes my biking plans

chihirochild · Apr 23, 2021, 09:21 AM

Didn't sleep well. Session went OK. Feeling bad, though. Ugh.

LostOnTheTrail · Apr 23, 2021, 09:23 AM

Therapy is intense, Chihiro, especially with everything you have going on at the moment. Add in not sleeping well, and you're bound to feel crappy. Hope you can do something to take care of yourself today.

Lemoncake · Apr 23, 2021, 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

L wants me to reach out before a crisis. I wanted to call her yesterday and for her to call me back. But I didn't reach out. Now I'm really struggling.

I'm constantly doing this to myself. I convince myself that I don't really need her support or that I'll be a burden. If I only reached out, I might not be in such pain tonight.

Can you still message her now?

ArtieTheSequal · Apr 23, 2021, 10:24 AM

I am feeling a lot better this morning, had some good realizations during my sleep last night and woke up feeling rested before the 5:15 am alarm on my day off! I've been going through a couple of closets and throwing stuff away/putting other stuff in a donate box. I feel like clearing clutter from my house is also clearing clutter from my brain. I still want to talk with L today about the stuff h said yesterday but I think now I won't be an emotional mess doing it.

ArtieTheSequal · Apr 23, 2021, 10:27 AM

Hugs to all who want.

Speaking of hugs. I remember one vacation we were on when our son was little, we were in this small town and in the town square like place, a college student was standing in the middle of the square wearing a big sign that said "Free hugs". So my son and I went and hugged her. H didn't want anything to do with it, but I thought it was cool and wished I had the nerve to do something like that. Offer hugs to total strangers on the street. Can't be doing that during covid of course, but at the time, I thought it was neat.

atisketatasket · Apr 23, 2021, 10:33 AM

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It keeps going from winter to summer to winter - bypassing spring altogether. It is windy, wet, and cold. Crashes my biking plans

It probably upsets the animals too.

stopdog · Apr 23, 2021, 10:36 AM

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It probably upsets the animals too.

The cats are quite cross - particularly the new one who likes to be outside all night but hates being cold. He hates cold even more than he hates wet.

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