FAQ/Help |
Calendar |
Search |
Always in This Twilight
Member Since Feb 2015
Location: US
Posts: 20,754
(SuperPoster!)
9 75k hugs
given |
#461
Quote:
That's truly awful that they didn't tell her for all that time. This being the United States, she might be able to sue them for damages to cover medical costs. Particularly the fact that this was happening over 5 years and they didn't tell her. Maybe it's not something that could have been reversible, but she might have been able to stop any further damage or have gotten on a transplant list. Maybe someone else could set up a GoFundMe for her and cover the fees on it? You're correct that disability can take a long time--even if she gets approved quickly (I imagine she might in this situation), it could take a few months for the payments to start (from my understanding). |
|
SlumberKitty
|
CantExplain, Quietmind 2
|
Poohbah
Member Since Jan 2020
Location: Somewhere I'm working to leave
Posts: 1,243
4 8 hugs
given |
#462
Quote:
|
|
LonesomeTonight, SlumberKitty
|
CantExplain
|
Child of a lesser god
Member Since Jun 2015
Location: Tartarus
Posts: 19,149
(SuperPoster!)
8 12.4k hugs
given |
#463
Note to self, for like the 165th time: do not try to have emotional conversations with your mother.
Between my chair's outing me and my mother, I'd actually ask Info for a session before our next one (I scheduled it after my return so it could be in-person) so I can rant and get stuff away from me, but she's on vacation. |
CantExplain, chihirochild, Lemoncake, LonesomeTonight, LostOnTheTrail, NP_Complete, SlumberKitty, WarmFuzzySocks
|
Quietmind 2
|
Poohbah
Member Since Jan 2020
Location: Somewhere I'm working to leave
Posts: 1,243
4 8 hugs
given |
#464
Quote:
|
|
SlumberKitty
|
atisketatasket, LonesomeTonight, unaluna
|
Writing my way through...
Member Since Feb 2020
Location: In the desert
Posts: 7,236
(SuperPoster!)
4 5,766 hugs
given |
#465
Hugs to all who need/want.
|
LonesomeTonight, LostOnTheTrail, SlumberKitty
|
Quietmind 2
|
Tweaky Dog
Member Since Aug 2011
Location: England
Posts: 4,796
12 3,126 hugs
given |
#466
Thanks, Artie.
Good timing. Today is hard. Why do people think it's OK to make light of things that aren't remotely funny? __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
ArtieTheSequal, LonesomeTonight, SlumberKitty
|
Quietmind 2
|
Magnate
Member Since Oct 2018
Location: USA
Posts: 2,787
5 7 hugs
given |
#467
Quote:
In the meantime, she probably qualifies for Medicaid if she is unable to work due to this. I do not know the process for that though. Family members set up a Go Fund Me following my husband's death (not really something I was interested in, but they insisted people wanted a way to help - my husband's death hit a lot of people really hard). I didn't find the fees to be terribly high, but I didn't pay too much attention to that end of things. |
|
ArtieTheSequal, LonesomeTonight, SlumberKitty
|
LonesomeTonight, Quietmind 2
|
Child of a lesser god
Member Since Jun 2015
Location: Tartarus
Posts: 19,149
(SuperPoster!)
8 12.4k hugs
given |
#468
Thanks, but I don’t want to inflict myself on you guys—things can get pretty ugly when i rant. Better to pay Info to hear it. That way she can afford more vacations.
To add to my mood, I’ve also just had confirmed what I long suspected: that I’d been rejected for at least one tenure-track academic position because of my disability. I’m sure there were others. It was so long ago that it doesn’t really matter now that I’m settled, but I have to say, everyone talks about the problems of being a woman in academia, yet even as a woman I’ve had far more trouble as someone with a disability. |
ArtieTheSequal, chihirochild, Lemoncake, LonesomeTonight, NP_Complete, SlumberKitty, unaluna, WarmFuzzySocks
|
Quietmind 2
|
Magnate
Member Since Feb 2016
Location: Appalachian Mountains
Posts: 2,040
8 15 hugs
given |
#469
I was planning to do my apology today. I was going to do a brief video. Yay! We got through it! You got As and Bs, and if you didn't get one on the draft, you can still get one on the final version! And you're finished! Oh by the way I'm sorry if I hurt anybody's feelings. Congratulations on graduating!
I just don't feel up to it. A brief email, instead? I feel sure my chair would prefer a video, but I don't want to. I can be fake cheerful in an email way more easily than in a video. My fake cheer is all gone, today. And I don't recall her specifically asking for a video. And no, it's not really an option to not apologize at all. They can't fire me over it, but they can nitpick over ever tiny thing and make my life less pleasant, which I would prefer to avoid. I'm not sure what to say in the email. Oh, well, it will come. I'll email it to a colleague for review, first. Sent from my SM-G981U using Tapatalk __________________ "I would rather have questions that can't be answered than answers which can't be questioned." --Richard Feynman |
ArtieTheSequal, atisketatasket, CantExplain, SlumberKitty, unaluna, zoiecat
|
Quietmind 2
|
Tweaky Dog
Member Since Aug 2011
Location: England
Posts: 4,796
12 3,126 hugs
given |
#470
That's some BS, @@. Your disability should not be used as an excuse to prevent you from progressing in your career. Surely there's something that covers that in the ADA? (Not that I know anything about that...)
__________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
SlumberKitty
|
atisketatasket, CantExplain, Quietmind 2
|
Child of a lesser god
Member Since Jun 2015
Location: Tartarus
Posts: 19,149
(SuperPoster!)
8 12.4k hugs
given |
#471
ADA doesn’t cover attitudes. You can always give one reason to not hire someone when the real reason is something else, whatever that may be. That’s what this situation was.
|
CantExplain, LonesomeTonight, SlumberKitty, unaluna
|
MobiusPsyche, Polibeth, Quietmind 2
|
Tweaky Dog
Member Since Aug 2011
Location: England
Posts: 4,796
12 3,126 hugs
given |
#472
That's true, but definitely doesn't make it right. I'm sorry you're having to deal with all this.
__________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
SlumberKitty
|
atisketatasket, CantExplain, LonesomeTonight, Quietmind 2
|
Junior Member
Member Since Jul 2021
Location: Alberta
Posts: 17
2 |
#473
New to this thread so I’m not sure I’m doing it right but I’m assuming I just talk about myself? It’s almost august and that’s a really weird feeling for me. A lot of process. I’ve been looking for a new hobby to start and I can’t find one. I’ve done painting and yoga before but I’m looking for something different. Maybe I’ll try crocheting?
|
SlumberKitty, unaluna, zoiecat
|
CantExplain, LonesomeTonight, Quietmind 2, unaluna
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since Jul 2014
Location: Usa
Posts: 3,068
9 589 hugs
given |
#474
Quote:
Sent from my SM-N950U using Tapatalk |
|
SlumberKitty, unaluna
|
ArtieTheSequal, LonesomeTonight, Quietmind 2, unaluna
|
Writing my way through...
Member Since Feb 2020
Location: In the desert
Posts: 7,236
(SuperPoster!)
4 5,766 hugs
given |
#475
Quote:
Welcome to the couch! We pretty much talk about anything and everything here, well, within the site guidelines and stuff of course. I enjoy crocheting - it's very relaxing for me. My favorite grandma taught me when I was young (and now I'm old ). If you're new to it, there's lots of videos on youtube! I'm always up for talking about crocheting! I just now printed out a pattern for a crocodile stitch sunflower square - once you're up and running, there's tons of free patterns online. I frequently use patterns from Ravelry. it's free to join, and while they have paid patterns on there, there is an extensive amount of free ones too. A couple of my favorite patterns to make I downloaded free from there (slippers and a baby afghan). Quote:
awww shucks! |
||
SlumberKitty, unaluna
|
CantExplain, LonesomeTonight, Quietmind 2, StressedMess, unaluna
|
Wise Elder
Member Since Nov 2013
Location: US
Posts: 8,410
(SuperPoster!)
10 6,418 hugs
given |
#476
Ugh! I have huge hives on my side. I think it's from stress and anxiety. I had an attachment anxiety attack last night, and today I have hives.
__________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
ArtieTheSequal, CantExplain, LonesomeTonight, NP_Complete, SlumberKitty
|
Quietmind 2
|
Magnate
Member Since Feb 2017
Location: North America
Posts: 2,360
7 4,865 hugs
given |
#477
Ah jeez. My parents are in town, and because they didn't listen to me and wait to make plans until I had my fellowship schedule, they came when I am working 12h/d 6d/wk. (We have to do this difficult rotation 10 weeks out of the year, and then much easier ones the other 42 weeks.) They've been wanting me to spend time with them every evening after I get off work, which I have been doing.
They also wanted to come to my apartment to help with some things while I was at work, so I said okay. They were here for five hours. They took out my recycling by dropping it off the second story balcony and then carrying it to the bin (instead of carrying it down the elevator/stairs like sane people). They attempted to put together a piece of Ikea furniture but put something in upside down and then couldn't finish assembling it because it can't be assembled upside down and gave up halfway through. They did not attempt to put together any of the other things that needed assembling. My dad wants to hire someone from TaskRabbit to put together the various bits of furniture because he feels bad that he couldn't do it, but that means that someone has to be at the apartment to let the TaskRabbit person in. He wanted to arrange this RIGHT NOW but I said I was very tired and just wanted to go to sleep and that I would strongly prefer to arrange it tomorrow. I said that a few times (politely but firmly) until he stopped asking. Luckily, they can see how exhausted I am so are not insisting I go out to dinner with them tonight; they left me alone in the apartment and went back to their hotel. But honestly I think the reason they did that is because tomorrow my parents and I have to drive 1-2h each way to see family in another part of the state, which literally none of us want to do; I think they suspect that if they pressured me too hard spend time with them tonight I'd just flat-out refuse to go. It's my only day off this week; I have been working in the hospital or on call or both every day since 7/16 and I am exhausted and just want to rest. Too damn bad for me, I guess. I love my parents. I would die for my parents. I also am driven crazy by my parents. |
ArtieTheSequal, atisketatasket, CantExplain, LonesomeTonight, NP_Complete, SlumberKitty, unaluna, zoiecat
|
Quietmind 2
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since Feb 2017
Location: the upside down
Posts: 3,808
7 6,352 hugs
given |
#478
Feeling...something...tonight. Eternity stretching out in front of me with no happiness in sight? Decided to have a drink (or more) tonight. Probably not my best idea. Therapist gone. Poof. Off into the woods (literally). Left alone feeling pathetic that I'm all alone when he's gone. He's gonna be gone forever at some point.
|
ArtieTheSequal, CantExplain, chihirochild, LonesomeTonight, SlumberKitty
|
Quietmind 2
|
Big Poppa
Member Since Oct 2011
Location: New Zealand
Posts: 19,616
(SuperPoster!)
12 19.7k hugs
given |
#479
Quote:
__________________ Mr Ambassador, alias Ancient Plax, alias Captain Therapy, alias Big Poppa, alias Secret Spy, etc. Add that to your tattoo, Baby! |
|
LonesomeTonight
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since Feb 2017
Location: the upside down
Posts: 3,808
7 6,352 hugs
given |
#480
No clue. Acknowledging my existence is a start.
I watched this movie today, it was a romantic drama I guess. It just left me feeling "ugh". It wasn't a great movie (Nights in Rodanthe), and I watched it mainly because it was leaving Netflix today and I needed a distraction. But it just left me feeling like I've been changed somehow by my ex's actions. I can't even appreciate love or romance anymore. What's even the point of life? |
chihirochild, LonesomeTonight, ScarletPimpernel, SlumberKitty
|
Quietmind 2
|