Couch 230: Decent Communications

Welcome to the couch, old and new! A place to hang out - sometimes you get immediate feedback, sometimes you don't.

Shouting, "Cool Whip" tends to bring others out from between the cushions if you're feeling lonely.

This is a chatty thread. All are welcome. We're kind of psychologically oriented, sometimes. We try to be supportive. At times we discuss what that means.

It’s a place to plop down on the couch when you come home from work or wherever, or wake up in the middle of the night, or check in at lunch, rant a bit or not, and be among friends.

We advise you not to drink or drug and text your therapist ("T") - we speak from experience.

Sometimes the thread moves fast and you might get overlooked; sometimes it moves slowly and all you hear are crickets. Sometimes you get hugged or thanked pages later. So if it's a bigger question, you might want to start a new thread.

Grab a cushion, a spot on the floor, or an armchair in the corner and make yourselves comfy.

230 is something about the communications decency act, blah blah blah.

You're just trying to bury the latest Info fashion report.

Wait, does mentioning a sports bra violate the communications decency act?

Of course, I may now have I second that emotion stuck in my head.
If you have hulu and are interested in late 60's - I highly recommend Summer of Soul - interesting footage of 1969 harlem concert - a very young Gladys Knight, 5th Dimension, Stevie Wonder etc.

I somehow got AC/DC's "Big Balls" stuck in my head for days on end recently. I'd take "I Second that Emotion".

Thanks for the recommendation, SD. I'm always looking for something new to watch. My sister got me into The Good Fight. Somehow I had missed The Good Wife, so I'm going through that series now. Decent, sort of mindless viewing - basically legal office soap opera. LOL.

I was with my ex for 26 years. Granted, he didn't die, but when he was suddenly gone, there was a huge void and nothing to fill it with. It's not as bad now, but I can still feel that void. I'm glad you've got family moving in. I'm sure that will help.

Probably because of all the recent news in the freebritney movement, i have her song "Everytime" stuck in my head. Been singing it all morning.

Thanks. Honestly, I mostly do remarkably well. But it hits me at the most unexpected moments. I've allowed myself to just let it be what it is: grief is normal. I can sit with it. I am very fortunate to have my kids near me (and one still living at home while he finishes his degree - he graduates in December - woohoo!), and I have been bolstered by SO many friends and even people I honestly didn't know (my husband's former coworkers for instance). It's the too much time on my hands thing that is a bit of an issue right now, but it will be short lived and in about a month I'll probably already be wishing for time off. LOL.

I wouldnt know a britney song if it came up and bit me on my patootie.

I do love The Good Wife, though. I was addicted. I still catch a rerun from time to time. I am a big fan of "the bad husband" from when he was on Law and Order, he was so young and pretty then!

Me either.

is a Britney Spears song, but reimagined, in what I consider a superior form.

The only Britney song I know is Oops I did it again. And I've never seen the Good Wife.

sSD i would contact the md because i collapsed at work from severe anaemia after waiting months for test results turns out a receptionist didnt contact me to return for test results.

Feeling better guys. Plus I bought a new bracelet online. It was supposed to be $22 plus shipping, handling, and taxes but I got it for $5.39! I think I scored a good deal. I don't know why I got it so cheaply. It's a Disney bracelet too. Princess Jasmine.

Big bosses visit is over. The dinner at my house went well. They seemed to enjoy it and it was nice to get to know them a bit better. (They are from NY, I am in CA.) I can relax now that the visit is over. I feel lucky to have nice bosses.

Oh, Lost, you know that’s a low bar.

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I do like this version

Hey but don't hate on Brit. I like her.

I thought SD was referring to The Importance of Being Earnest.

Yes, I was.
Context is often an important component.

Had a good session today. Not like 2 weeks ago, but that was a special one and they can't all be that incredible. I'm in a quandary again though (my most predictable pattern, which I see clear as day) as I was getting ready to leave I was overcome with this sudden emotion that I didn't think showed on my face but she felt it anyway and said so, I told her yes, there's something I suddenly want to say but I'll just write it down when I get home. She said something like "You can hold it." And I said yes I can. I'm not really sure I even have the words for it though so I'm having little luck writing it down. It had something to do with fear of becoming dependent again. Ego feeling trapped again! That's not all of it but I'm trying to get curious about that. This is such a regularly recurring pattern for me, that getting curious about it seems to be the only logical thing to do with it.

edited to remove some stuff that i didn't word right.

H is seeing a liver specialist tomorrow, and thankfully they're letting me come in with him. Our regular dr won't let anyone else come in still because of covid but I called to check and they said I can come in with him, so that's good. I want to make sure we get all the information.

Ah yes. But he doesn't come up on Google.

I don't know if anyone remembers, but when I first found out my therapist was leaving, I came up with the idea of making a kintsugi heart as a present for him. It's not intended as a romantic thing and I hope he doesn't take it that way!

I've had the supplies I needed to make it for quite a while, and I decided recently to go ahead and make it. Earlier this week was the 5th anniversary of when I started therapy with him and I decided I wanted to give it to him now instead of waiting until he's leaving. I was kind of scared to break the heart actually because I had a hard time finding one I liked on Etsy and when I did find one, they only had one and no longer had the mold. Over the last couple of days, I broke it, glued it back together and painted the seams. In that sense, it's more of a faux kintsugi I guess. I forgot to take photos when it was broken, but you'll have to trust me that it was. I also got some lovely fabric so I could wrap it up Japanese-style (furoshiki).

I really hope this isn't dumb and that he'll find it meaningful.