Couch 235: Home State Advantage

LonesomeTonight · Feb 22, 2022, 07:40 AM

I'm so sorry you're dealing with all that, QM. It doesn't seem right that she can do that to you. I think it's good that you're archiving the chats/texts.

Hugs if wanted.

NP_Complete · Feb 22, 2022, 12:29 PM

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Basically, her new best friend works in a mental health agency and assessed confidential medical data on several people.

1 victim who was in a psychiatric shelter linked to that agency eventually got kicked out though I don't know all the reasons why. The victim's parents apparently said they were willing to have her back home but due to historical child abuse, the victim didn't want to go back. So she was left to fend for herself.

I cannot blow the whistle as they'll know its me PLUS I don't have text or audio proof because I couldn't take out my phone to record when she was bragging.

The person went around telling lies to every single mental health agency she could find about the victim I mentioned. Said person misuses certain credentials she has and says she's a coach / caregiver / peer support worker.

And must have called around. Because its now happening to me.

The person recently called MY OWN hospital's crisis hotline and managed to convince them that she would be justified in calling the police on me.

She also called my therapy clinic and my T didn't pick up and told the staff to not listen to her.

Doctors (MDs only) have lost the license for breaking medical privacy after an investigation by the medical board, but I don't know about non doctors.

Though someone told me the leaking person should lose her job.

This person sounds kind of sociopathic. I'm sorry you got caught up in her sphere of influence. At least your therapist isn't listening to their nonsense.

SlumberKitty · Feb 22, 2022, 01:44 PM

Got the results of my blood test today. I asked my doctor to test my iron because last time I went to give blood I couldn't because my iron was low. She doesn't usually check that so she did a CBC and a Iron test and a Vitamin B12 test. Everything was good except Iron Saturation. I wonder if this could be the cause of my depression. It feels different from my typical depression. Hopefully the doctor will give me some advice on what to do about my low iron saturation. Like if I need to eat more iron rich foods, or if I need to take a supplement. I'm at half of the lowest number so I figure that isn't too good. But I'm not a doctor so I have to wait for her to tell me what to do. I called her office but they said they would take a note, give it to the doctor and expect to hear back tomorrow. So, I wait.

atisketatasket · Feb 22, 2022, 05:15 PM

I saw a psych NP Visa recommended earlier today. Eh. She only does Zoom appointments, has been for the last two years, and STILL can't figure out how to show her full face. Her chin and/or mouth would be cut off. Plus she had a background up and at one point she was rocking back and forth in her chair and suddenly vanished entirely. I can only assume she went too far back in the chair and fell.

There's a prescription of the medication I took up till about a year ago (Pristiq) which I'll pick up for the sake of peace but haven't decided if I'll actually take yet.

And minor vent: why does every mental health professional zero in on my mother? Not only was I not born by monogenesis, but often the focus is on whether my mother was a good caretaker since she worked a high-pressure job. And again, she wasn't my only parent who worked a high-pressure job. The whole thing feels sexist, and every mental health professional who has made a big deal about it is a woman--obviously a working woman too.

Irritation is probably an improvement over misery.

LonesomeTonight · Feb 22, 2022, 05:38 PM

I'm sorry, but I had to laugh at the thought of the NP falling off her chair in the middle of session. If you continue seeing her, I think she has good nickname potential. But yes, you would think after all this time, she'd have figured out how to show her whole face--and not disappear from view--on Zoom.

It does feel like mental health professionals are fixated on mothers. I'd blame Freud. Ex-MC seemed fixated on my mom as well, not bringing my dad into things that much. Dr. T mostly talks about my mom as well. So not just female T's. Then again, I do feel she had a much bigger influence on me than my father.

LostOnTheTrail · Feb 22, 2022, 05:44 PM

The only time I mentioned my father in session, P's demeanour visibly changed. She sat forward in her chair, and seemed genuinely interested in what I had to say for once. I wonder whether it was something she thought she could help with.

At some point I might spend time in therapy talking about him, but not now.

I have difficulty talking about my relationship with my father with R, because I feel insensitive talking about Dad stuff with someone who no longer has theirs.

unaluna · Feb 22, 2022, 06:57 PM

Whew! Just picked up my med refills, AAANNDDD!!! Finally got my covid booster. The stupid computer kept cancelling me, so i just went in and said hey wtf. And they said, huh! Well we will boost you today. So i am all set for a while.

Quietmind 2 · Feb 22, 2022, 07:21 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Got the results of my blood test today. I asked my doctor to test my iron because last time I went to give blood I couldn't because my iron was low. She doesn't usually check that so she did a CBC and a Iron test and a Vitamin B12 test. Everything was good except Iron Saturation. I wonder if this could be the cause of my depression. It feels different from my typical depression. Hopefully the doctor will give me some advice on what to do about my low iron saturation. Like if I need to eat more iron rich foods, or if I need to take a supplement. I'm at half of the lowest number so I figure that isn't too good. But I'm not a doctor so I have to wait for her to tell me what to do. I called her office but they said they would take a note, give it to the doctor and expect to hear back tomorrow. So, I wait.

I have / had iron deficiency anemia and iron deficiency can worsen symptoms a lotttt for sure.

I had to take an iron supplement along with iron rich food. It took me about a month to feel much better. Eg less fatigue, less brain fog, less depression and anxiety.

Quietmind 2 · Feb 22, 2022, 07:34 PM

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I'm so sorry you're dealing with all that, QM. It doesn't seem right that she can do that to you. I think it's good that you're archiving the chats/texts.

Hugs if wanted.

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This person sounds kind of sociopathic. I'm sorry you got caught up in her sphere of influence. At least your therapist isn't listening to their nonsense.

Mhm... I almost had a rupture with my T due to a miscommunication. I had been updating my friend on the situation, my sister was helping me call budget hotels (I had a few in mind but this was on such short notice)...and forgot to update T.

It's weird that my former landlady seemed to believe my friend would be convinced by her words on what a horrible human I am...along with so much triangulation in general.

My friend knew about various threats because my former landlady was threatening me AND also going on a unhinged rant to my friend about me and what she did or want to do.

As though my friend and I never talk directly with each other???

Tons of texts and even several missed calls as my friend was working. The one time my friend took her call, it was over an hour of just spewing bile about me.

Ughhhh. So grateful for my friend, my sister and younger brother who had to abruptly change plans (we were supposed to have lunch and try to mend sibling relationships), and my T.

stopdog · Feb 22, 2022, 08:26 PM

We have more ice in the forecast. Every Wed and Thursday in Feb we have had an ice storm. It is getting old.

ArtieTheSequal · Feb 22, 2022, 09:35 PM

Just popped in to send hugs all around to those who want/need. Looong work day I am heading to bed now. Long work days the rest of this week too. Night all.

unaluna · Feb 22, 2022, 09:39 PM

We had two nice tuesdays. Today was gorgeous, even when raining. At least it wasnt snow, which is on the way. Gonna shut the balcony door tonite.

atisketatasket · Feb 22, 2022, 11:03 PM

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Gonna shut the balcony door tonite.

But then how will the Gosling sneak in to romance you?

unaluna · Feb 23, 2022, 03:58 AM

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But then how will the Gosling sneak in to romance you?

"Honk if youŕe horny!"

I guess i could leave it open a quack.

LonesomeTonight · Feb 23, 2022, 07:44 AM

My daughter's IEP meeting is in a half hour--I'm nervous! I'll be on it virtually by myself for the first half hour while H takes D to school, then I'll stay virtual and he'll join in person (I didn't really want to meet in person, and it was originally scheduled as a virtual meeting anyway due to Covid).

MobiusPsyche · Feb 23, 2022, 07:52 AM

Best wishes on the IEP meeting, LT!!! It's great that you are virtual. If it gets to be overwhelming, just turn off video and say your internet has gone wonky but you're still listening. You can do this!

They are all professionals trying to help...although I do get how it can feel like they're being judgmental and pessimistic. (And some of them should work on their people skills....) They all have your daughter's best interests at the top of their agenda.

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ChickenNoodleSoup · Feb 23, 2022, 09:07 AM

Pocket hopping for the IEP if that's wished for! You can do this

ScarletPimpernel · Feb 23, 2022, 09:14 AM

LT, I hope today's IEP isn't too stressful for you!

LonesomeTonight · Feb 23, 2022, 10:39 AM

Thanks for the pocket riders! It went better than I'd expected (and we got to hear a couple cute stories about D). They all seemed supportive (this was our first IEP meeting with a couple of the main members of the team, and one--the school psychologist--had recently given me pushback on something I requested, so I was anxious).

One part where we were asking her to get reassessed (she's in 4th grade and hasn't been assessed since kindergarten) was incredibly confusing, like how we were supposed to answer certain questions to get them to test (which is what we wanted). I think we ultimately answered correctly (and I pushed for one that they didn't feel was necessary but that I'd like done--the cognitive testing).

So maybe my extra planned session with Dr. T this afternoon wasn't needed, but I'm still glad I have it there. Still plenty to talk about.

LonesomeTonight · Feb 23, 2022, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by MobiusPsyche

Best wishes on the IEP meeting, LT!!! It's great that you are virtual. If it gets to be overwhelming, just turn off video and say your internet has gone wonky but you're still listening. You can do this!

They are all professionals trying to help...although I do get how it can feel like they're being judgmental and pessimistic. (And some of them should work on their people skills....) They all have your daughter's best interests at the top of their agenda.

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Thanks, Mobius--it helps that you understand. Part of it is also that they're focusing on my daughter's deficits, which tends to depress me. And it can have sort of an us vs. them feeling (even though we're all a team), which is made worse when we're all sitting in a small, brightly lit room around a table. It helped knowing I could turn off my video if needed, though I didn't. But they do all seem to have her best interests at heart--and seem to like her, too!

I was also anxious because I opted to record the meeting (they recorded, too, as is their policy if the parents record), and I'd read online how it could potentially be perceived as hostile. But they all seemed fine with it. I mean, it was partly because I suck at taking notes (where later I'll look back and say, "what did that mean?" or be unable to read my chicken scratch).

Just glad it's done with now! Though after they do the testing, we'll have another meeting to discuss those results--think that will take a couple months though.

LostOnTheTrail · Feb 23, 2022, 10:49 AM

I'm glad the meeting went well, LT. In a situation where there's likely to be a lot of information, I'd take the option to record it too if offered. I know what those meetings can be like.

I hope you are able to get to a place where you can be comfortable and satisfied with the level of support D is receiving.

ArtieTheSequal · Feb 23, 2022, 11:04 AM

I'm glad it went well, LT.

LonesomeTonight · Feb 23, 2022, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

I'm glad the meeting went well, LT. In a situation where there's likely to be a lot of information, I'd take the option to record it too if offered. I know what those meetings can be like.

I hope you are able to get to a place where you can be comfortable and satisfied with the level of support D is receiving.

Thanks, Lost. I actually felt better about the level of support once they were detailing some of the things they do to help her out. Like ways they help her to write a paragraph with a topic sentence, for example, using a graphic organizer thing and certain prompts.

LostOnTheTrail · Feb 23, 2022, 12:25 PM

Fantastic. There are always methods, sometimes it just takes a while to find them.
If she's comfortable, content, and learning...I'd say that's a win.

SlumberKitty · Feb 23, 2022, 12:53 PM

I'm so glad the meeting went well LT!

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