Couch 237: Social Rules

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 10, 2022, 06:53 PM

I just went and picked up pair # 3 of prescription glasses - the first one worked for distance which i didn't even know i needed until I got them lol, but not for computer. the 2nd pair which was supposed to be for computer was messed up, the bifocal part hit mid-eyeball so that wasn't working and the prescription wasn't right either. So they re-tested my eyes and re-made the 2nd pair and so far they seem good. Just gotta test 'em out on my work computer! they're good on my laptop screen that's about 2 inches closer to my eyes than my work monitors.

stopdog · Jun 10, 2022, 07:14 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Its a good life! Is this why stopdog is trying to get me hiking again? Im trying, honest.

Eta - Et tu, Artie?!

After reading about Grandma Gatewood - I know you want to hike the AP.
If she could do it at 67 - then so can you.

atisketatasket · Jun 10, 2022, 07:23 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

After reading about Grandma Gatewood - I know you want to hike the AP.
If she could do it at 67 - then so can you.

You two could do it together. A female buddy trek movie.

And plenty of privacy and space to bury the body when one of you finally cracks and attacks the other.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 10, 2022, 07:31 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

Dad does not have covid yet. I don't get to see L next week either because of this.

I'm sorry you can't see L next week. Is she OK to see you once you test negative and have no symptoms? Or is it about a certain number of days?

stopdog · Jun 10, 2022, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

You two could do it together. A female buddy trek movie.

And plenty of privacy and space to bury the body when one of you finally cracks and attacks the other.

Or just let the wolves and bears have at it. Burying one of us would take a while with only a poo spade

ScarletPimpernel · Jun 10, 2022, 08:04 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

I'm sorry you can't see L next week. Is she OK to see you once you test negative and have no symptoms? Or is it about a certain number of days?

It's my decision. I could see her masked on next week after Tuesday, but I don't want to take any risks in getting her sick. That would break my heart. So I'm waiting until I can go out with not masks which is 10 day after onset of symptoms and a negative test.

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 10, 2022, 08:34 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Thanks, Artie. Eek, if Dr. T prints out all my emails and had them in my folder along with any session notes, I'm probably taking up a substantial portion of a filing cabinet. Now that I think about it, ex-T said she printed out my emails and kept them in my folder, and mine to her tended to be quite a bit longer than mine to Dr. T.

I am curious as to what else he puts in his notes. He doesn't usually take notes during session (he did on occasion virtually), but said he writes stuff up later. Not sure I want to know though!

My folder is pretty thick!! I always brought her a copy of my dreams in person too, not just for the phone sessions, so, yeah. 10 years worth of her notes, and copies of my dreams and poems. iirc I did joke about hogging so much of her filing cabinet haha.

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 10, 2022, 08:39 PM

Ooooh monsoon is coming! I've been feeling it all day - a restless excitement in my bones - cloudy, hot, and super windy outside - and now, a big clap of thunder to substantiate what I've been feeling coming all day! My favorite time of year is beginning.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 10, 2022, 08:41 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

It's my decision. I could see her masked on next week after Tuesday, but I don't want to take any risks in getting her sick. That would break my heart. So I'm waiting until I can go out with not masks which is 10 day after onset of symptoms and a negative test.

I completely understand your fear of getting her sick. I have the same fear about my T and have taken a couple home Covid tests to be absolutely safe (when I was pretty sure it was seasonal allergies) when I was going to see him that I wouldn't have taken otherwise. I also imagine a masked session would be difficult if you're used to going without masks. Like my T has said that he'd rather do virtual than masked sessions.

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 10, 2022, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

It's my decision. I could see her masked on next week after Tuesday, but I don't want to take any risks in getting her sick. That would break my heart. So I'm waiting until I can go out with not masks which is 10 day after onset of symptoms and a negative test.

I so understand your concern. I felt the same way, when L first went back to in-person, especially since she had covid early on in the pandemic and was pretty sick for like 3 months. I was so worried that I might inadvertently get her sick, like if I had covid and didn't know it or something. It would break my heart too, like you said. She's always insisting how she's very healthy but still, she's in her 70's so....

unaluna · Jun 10, 2022, 09:31 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

After reading about Grandma Gatewood - I know you want to hike the AP.
If she could do it at 67 - then so can you.

You know me so well. I did until i started reading about all the crazy guys killing ladies on the trail.

Right now i am just walking the perimeter of my new hospital. Its a lovely wide path, deeply forested, and little traffic. And within spitting distance of a cardiologist and orthopedic surgeon, in case i fall and can't get up.

atisketatasket · Jun 10, 2022, 09:52 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

You know me so well. I did until i started reading about all the crazy guys killing ladies on the trail.

Yeah, but they’re killing ladies. You’ll be fine.

And if they lower their standards, stopdog will be there to protect you.

Jun 11, 2022, 03:11 AM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

I'd say to avoid stuff that's particularly political, as I've gotten posts deleted for that (I'm more careful now!).

If you're at all in doubt about adding a trigger warning, better to be safe and just add it.

I will say, I still don't understand the policy on not saying goodbye in the forums if you're leaving. And threads getting deleted about that. Honestly, I'd rather know that someone is opting to leave as opposed to just wondering what happened to them, if they're still OK. I know they can PM people, but just a post saying, "Hey, I'm going to leave the forums" seems fairly harmless?

You were once a moderator, @@, can you explain why that's a problem? (or can anyone else) I mean, I know there are general memes about people not needing to announce their departure, but is there a particular reason for it?

Is it in case of someone leaving in a temper and making a post like "you lot suck bleep off I'm leaving and you can't stop me" type of posts?

Before I get into a troubles, I am not leaving and none of you suck :hug

ChickenNoodleSoup · Jun 11, 2022, 09:16 AM

Scarlet, I think you're making a good deicision, I hope you you guys can at least talk virtually or on the phone? Life sucks sometimes with what we have to do to keep others safe -.-

ChickenNoodleSoup · Jun 11, 2022, 09:18 AM

There is a rule about saying you're not visiting here anymore, I wasn't aware... why? I'd probably still tell everyone, you write and if you get banned you make a new account lol... doesn't make sense as a rule to me tbh.

unaluna · Jun 11, 2022, 10:08 AM

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Originally Posted by willowtigger

Is it in case of someone leaving in a temper and making a post like "you lot suck bleep off I'm leaving and you can't stop me" type of posts?
Before I get into a troubles, I am not leaving and none of you suck

Good answer!

atisketatasket · Jun 11, 2022, 12:45 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

You were once a moderator, @@, can you explain why that's a problem? (or can anyone else) I mean, I know there are general memes about people not needing to announce their departure, but is there a particular reason for it?

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Originally Posted by ChickenNoodleSoup

There is a rule about saying you're not visiting here anymore, I wasn't aware... why? I'd probably still tell everyone, you write and if you get banned you make a new account lol... doesn't make sense as a rule to me tbh.

I think it has to do with goodbye messages can trigger anxiety, abandonment feelings, etc., and there are lots of people on here with those triggers. Just PM your friends if you decide to leave.

stopdog · Jun 11, 2022, 01:26 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I think it has to do with goodbye messages can trigger anxiety, abandonment feelings, etc., and there are lots of people on here with those triggers. Just PM your friends if you decide to leave.

The first rule about Fight club is do not talk about fight club

Jun 11, 2022, 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Good answer!

my post was just a guess

for all i know, the admin here might like seeing the "shove the forum up your arse" type of messages, idk .......

Jun 11, 2022, 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

You know me so well. I did until i started reading about all the crazy guys killing ladies on the trail.

Right now i am just walking the perimeter of my new hospital. Its a lovely wide path, deeply forested, and little traffic. And within spitting distance of a cardiologist and orthopedic surgeon, in case i fall and can't get up.

*protects Una*

stopdog · Jun 11, 2022, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

You know me so well. I did until i started reading about all the crazy guys killing ladies on the trail.

Right now i am just walking the perimeter of my new hospital. Its a lovely wide path, deeply forested, and little traffic. And within spitting distance of a cardiologist and orthopedic surgeon, in case i fall and can't get up.

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Yeah, but they’re killing ladies. You’ll be fine.

And if they lower their standards, stopdog will be there to protect you.

first - the AP is not like Scream 2. good lord
second - ex hankster can clock them with a tin of her fake food or just feed them some of it. I bet even the bears wouldn't break into the tent for some of that stuff

atisketatasket · Jun 11, 2022, 03:56 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

first - the AP is not like Scream 2. good lord
second - ex hankster can clock them with a tin of her fake food or just feed them some of it. I bet even the bears wouldn't break into the tent for some of that stuff

So you’re not attracted to damsels in distress?

I took a box and a crate of hazardous household waste items to the county recycling event this morning and that feels like a ridiculously major achievement, so I’m done for the day.

unaluna · Jun 11, 2022, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

first - the AP is not like Scream 2. good lord
second - ex hankster can clock them with a tin of her fake food or just feed them some of it. I bet even the bears wouldn't break into the tent for some of that stuff

I was just gonna fend them off with the pooper scooper.

2. So is Courtney Cox gonna be there or not??

stopdog · Jun 11, 2022, 04:20 PM

It is pooper hole digger.
Good lord - you would die out there

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 11, 2022, 04:31 PM

Hey couch. Hugs and head nods all around as wanted/needed/appropriate.

So I've got the urge to get my hair cut again.... shorter this time, in the back anyway. I've had a stupid stomach bug the last couple days so I haven't gone yet, just been googling haircuts looking for something to inspire me.

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