Couch 248: Curiouser and Curiouser

Lemoncake · Jun 08, 2024, 02:08 PM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

Proud of you for sticking with it, Cake.

You can cross the other bridge when you get to it.

Thanks lost. He said he could fit me in on Monday with someone else, but I said I wanted him so have a wenesday evening appointment. Just glad he could fit me in quickly.

unaluna · Jun 08, 2024, 02:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Maybe you could get a baby sized indoor paddling pool too. Or use a bucket with cold water for your feet.

My mother would use a wet towel or T shirt on her body when it got very hot. Not just the neck.

I only need a neck thing for when i am not siiting next to the air conditioner.

Lemoncake · Jun 08, 2024, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

I only need a neck thing for when i am not siiting next to the air conditioner.

Oh perfect then. 👌

I forgot AC existed.

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 08, 2024, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I’ve found telling myself not to fall asleep actually helps.

I sometimes listen to those heavy rain videos.

Milk before bed can help too.

Many moons ago when I worked nights, I had a thunderstorm CD that I played on repeat all day every day so I could sleep. Plus I had room-darkening shades. Both helped!

stopdog · Jun 08, 2024, 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

I think I need to find a new therapist. I like art t but it’s not really helping and I am spending more time in bicycle guy’s town than my own.

I hate looking for a therapist. I wish they had speed therapy events like speed dating.

I liked the initial interviewing them - if only because I liked seeing just how odd so many of them really are

stopdog · Jun 08, 2024, 02:57 PM

For sleep - I use cannabis and cbd.

stopdog · Jun 08, 2024, 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

I only need a neck thing for when i am not siiting next to the air conditioner.

Do be careful about length. We don't need another Isadora Duncan incident. In fact, finding out about her accident so horrified me I have never worn scarves of any sort. I can't stand anything being around my neck.

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 08, 2024, 03:02 PM

Hey couch well I'm ready to share this and actually leave the post up this time

. I tried twice before but deleted them

. I think I'm ready now. So, my much-too-long saga with L has officially come to an end, as of 3 weeks ago today. Well my last session was in mid-February, when she said a couple of things that led me to cancel and tell her I needed a break which had been open-ended. But I talked to her on the phone 3 weeks ago and told her it's permanent, that I'm not coming back. It was a pleasant enough conversation, I am relieved that it is finally over, and I (still) feel like I escaped from a cult. I never should have gone back the first time I left. But it's all water under the proverbial bridge now because I am free. I didn't see just how unhealthy that relationship had become for me until after I got out.

Thank you all so much for putting up with my struggles with her over the years.

unaluna · Jun 08, 2024, 03:05 PM

Taking Ambien for a few years taught me how to fall asleep. Also limiting myself to one coffee a day. Also just being old and not having to get up in the morning. I was sleep deprived my whole effing life once i started grade school. I had afternoon kindergarten - not a morning person even at age 5!

unaluna · Jun 08, 2024, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Do be careful about length. We don't need another Isadora Duncan incident. In fact, finding out about her accident so horrified me I have never worn scarves of any sort. I can't stand anything being around my neck.

I thought it was only dangerous if you go around standing up in convertibles and yelling, "Bugatti!" Quite the memorable movie scene.

Or like when they gave us break-away lanyards for our ID cards at work, and i walked around saying it was in case we got them caught in the threshing machines, and nobody thought it was funny. I worked with dead people. I dreamt this week i didnt have my id card for work! Its been 20 years!

Jersey 4 · Jun 08, 2024, 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Taking Ambien for a few years taught me how to fall asleep. Also limiting myself to one coffee a day. Also just being old and not having to get up in the morning. I was sleep deprived my whole effing life once i started grade school. I had afternoon kindergarten - not a morning person even at age 5!

Any prescription sleep meds don’t really work for me. I metabolize medications really fast (it’s a shame my body doesn’t work the same way when it comes to food) and so a high dose is usually required to put a dent in anything. I really need to get back on Klonopin for Anxiety but I know no new psychiatrist is going to give me the 3 milligrams I need in order to calm down because technically that much should calm down a horse.

Jersey 4 · Jun 08, 2024, 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

Hey couch well I'm ready to share this and actually leave the post up this time

. I tried twice before but deleted them

. I think I'm ready now. So, my much-too-long saga with L has officially come to an end, as of 3 weeks ago today. Well my last session was in mid-February, when she said a couple of things that led me to cancel and tell her I needed a break which had been open-ended. But I talked to her on the phone 3 weeks ago and told her it's permanent, that I'm not coming back. It was a pleasant enough conversation, I am relieved that it is finally over, and I (still) feel like I escaped from a cult. I never should have gone back the first time I left. But it's all water under the proverbial bridge now because I am free. I didn't see just how unhealthy that relationship had become for me until after I got out.

Thank you all so much for putting up with my struggles with her over the years.

Your description of saying it feels like you escaped a cult is what it felt like when I ended therapy back in 2016 and never looked back. That’s exactly what it felt like-I just couldn’t describe it. I’m glad you are at peace with your decision to end it with her for good and with a positive conversation.

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 08, 2024, 04:23 PM

Thanks, Jersey.

Echos Myron redux · Jun 08, 2024, 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

I think I need to find a new therapist. I like art t but it’s not really helping and I am spending more time in bicycle guy’s town than my own.

I hate looking for a therapist. I wish they had speed therapy events like speed dating.

They did this in London a few years ago. The organisation was called Stillpoint.

Artie - I'm glad to hear you have an ending. It sounds like it's been a long time coming.

Hi Couch. I have a new T. It's very strange, especially as he is completely online. But I'm glad I found him, he's pretty good.

Sending

to those who would like one.

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 08, 2024, 06:04 PM

Thanks Echos. It certainly was a long time coming.
Hugs back

and I'm glad your new T is good. Online is strange, isn't it? I much preferred phone sessions over online when in person wasn't an option. I hope that you're able to settle into the online thing and that it's helpful for you.

ScarletPimpernel · Jun 08, 2024, 07:15 PM

Can I ask the couch a question, please? How would you feel if your therapist left her

Possible trigger:

breast pump and breast milk

out?

I'm very triggered. Considering that I'm ultra sensitive about her pregnancy and baby because I can't have my own children, is it wrong to be so triggered?

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 08, 2024, 07:47 PM

I'm sorry, Scarlet.

Your feelings are not wrong, they're valid and natural and make sense to me. I'd have at least expected her to put it away in a case, surely it came with one, and refrigerate the milk instead of leaving it out.

Jersey 4 · Jun 08, 2024, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

Can I ask the couch a question, please? How would you feel if your therapist left her

Possible trigger:

breast pump and breast milk

out?

I'm very triggered. Considering that I'm ultra sensitive about her pregnancy and baby because I can't have my own children, is it wrong to be so triggered?

No one can you tell you that what you feel is wrong. They are your feelings and you are entitled to them. (A little classic DBT for ya.

). That was careless on her part. If it were me I would just mention it next time.

stopdog · Jun 08, 2024, 09:32 PM

I don't think any feeling is wrong if you have it, but I also don't think it was all that big of a thing for a therapist to leave the items out.

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 09, 2024, 08:24 AM

ugh. i was just advised I have to be on phones today and all week. BOOOO!!!! this is due to the big change that started June 1, it's a cluster f**k, as big changes usually are, and phones can't keep up. it's crazy because they're pulling my whole team - which means that my team's work is going to back up like crazy and we're going to have to do mandatory overtime once they are able to take us off phones (they just hired like 70 people to take calls).

LostOnTheTrail · Jun 09, 2024, 08:36 AM

I'm sorry, Artie.

That really sucks.

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 09, 2024, 08:57 AM

at least she gave us 45 minutes to read over the refresher materials sent out. we didn't really need a full 45 minutes so that was nice. Wish me luck, i'm goin' in haha

I'm adjusting my attitude, and being happy that I have a job and live indoors.

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 09, 2024, 09:23 AM

Sundays are kinda slow, which is a plus! and another plus is that sometimes we get really nice people calling in - they're not all horrible. I must remember that. I've had 4 calls so far and they've all been nice.

Jersey 4 · Jun 09, 2024, 10:01 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

Sundays are kinda slow, which is a plus! and another plus is that sometimes we get really nice people calling in - they're not all horrible. I must remember that. I've had 4 calls so far and they've all been nice.

Is your job open 24/7? And is it all remote? I’m looking for a second income after my main job hours.

unaluna · Jun 09, 2024, 10:41 AM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

I don't think any feeling is wrong if you have it, but I also don't think it was all that big of a thing for a therapist to leave the items out.

See its stuff like this that makes us suspect you are a t in a flying squirrel suit.

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