Couch 250: An August Couch

LonesomeTonight · Sep 17, 2024 at 04:33 PM

Hugs, Lost...

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 17, 2024 at 04:51 PM

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Groceries delivered and put up. I got a veggie tray today - ooh the smell of the red pepper was hypnotic! Tis the seasson! I organized a few other things, and now i need a nap!

I'm going to try to grow bell peppers and tomatoes in a raised garden bed, well at some point anyway... still a bit of work to do in our backyard before I can plant anything.

10 more minutes til I clock out and then I'm on vacation for 11 glorious days. I finished all the work I was assigned today, and am not going to ask for any more now because it's too close to quittin' time!! I hate halfway finishing something and having to put it back. No OT for this girl today!

I am getting my self in a better mood. well my sister is, she texted and said she stocked my room with cheez-its and reeses so it's ready for me!

LonesomeTonight · Sep 17, 2024 at 05:59 PM

I hope you have a safe trip and wonderful visit with your sisters, Artie!

unaluna · Sep 17, 2024 at 06:51 PM

All Things Strange and Unusual | Seems legit ?

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ArtieTheSequal · Sep 17, 2024 at 08:06 PM

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I hope you have a safe trip and wonderful visit with your sisters, Artie!

Thanks! I'm looking forward to getting away...

Lemoncake · Sep 18, 2024 at 09:39 AM

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Thanks Lemon. I started writing a poem earlier and it very quickly began to be about how I thought I would feel a certain way about something but I don't. It did help identify a little bit where the sadness is coming from. The poem needs more work but at least it took my mind off feeling sad and I'm able to focus on work again. On break now. I'll get back to the poem after work. Then I have to finish packing, cuz I leave for Missouri tomorrow morning.

Huh, maybe I'm also already feeling a little pre-sadness at having to leave my sister's next week. Stupid as I'm not even there yet. I'm such a dumdum.

Just to challenge this, but why are you a Dumdum? You’re too harsh on yourself for perfectly normal feelings . Well done on identifying the cause. It’s about the sadnessof having to leave again.

LostOnTheTrail · Sep 18, 2024 at 10:36 AM

Fell off the wagon with Couch Workout Club updates.

Day 47 - three sets of seated core workout exercises.

Day 48 - three sets SCW and a walk.

Day 49 - got my steps in today with a walk around my local wood.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 18, 2024 at 11:40 AM

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Fell off the wagon with Couch Workout Club updates.

Day 47 - three sets of seated core workout exercises.

Day 48 - three sets SCW and a walk.

Day 49 - got my steps in today with a walk around my local wood.

Nice! I got in 16,000 steps Sunday with the help of another concert. About 3,500 yesterday trying to recover from that (but still hit goal, having to do stuff like take out the trash up the block to the corner with H still recovering).

LostOnTheTrail · Sep 19, 2024 at 08:16 AM

Couch Workout Club day 50!

One set of seated boxing workout, due to 'the mess' and feeling drained after therapy.

Thank you Couch for getting me into an exercise habit.

I didn't mention an imminent trigger date to R this morning, and now I'm wondering whether to email my contact at the helpline and ask for a check in tomorrow (although that's a busy day for the helpline) or just pick up the phone and see who I get.

If I'm going to email H, then I need to decide soon.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 19, 2024 at 10:05 AM

Well done on 50 days!

I'd go ahead and ask H if you want a check-in. Worst that can happen is a "no." Probably better to get someone you know than a random person.

And hugs, if wanted.

LostOnTheTrail · Sep 19, 2024 at 10:18 AM

Thanks, LT.

Next Thursday feels a long way away, and although R seemed to understand when I said that I needed to rebuild my sense of safety, beginning that process took up the whole session.

Hard to believe that I said to H on Monday that I was ready to stop the weekly check ins.

She honoured that, but said: 'Just because your regular support is back, please don't ever think that you aren't worthy of this space.'

This kind of backpedalling is somewhat normal in the field of mental health support...I hope?

LonesomeTonight · Sep 19, 2024 at 10:34 AM

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Thanks, LT.

Next Thursday feels a long way away, and although R seemed to understand when I said that I needed to rebuild my sense of safety, beginning that process took up the whole session.

Hard to believe that I said to H on Monday that I was ready to stop the weekly check ins.

She honoured that, but said: 'Just because your regular support is back, please don't ever think that you aren't worthy of this space.'

This kind of backpedalling is somewhat normal in the field of mental health support...I hope?

Oh, I imagine it's very normal! I certainly do it... So that makes at least two of us!

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 19, 2024 at 10:57 AM

arrived safely in Missouri last evening, neither flight was full so that was nice. and both were uneventful. i slept in til 9:30 this morning (well, that's 7:30 arizona time) but it still felt luxurious.

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 19, 2024 at 09:39 PM

Today my sister & I went clothes shopping, I found a really cute dress. We got Indian food for dinner, well our mom and I did, sis got thai food and her bf got mexican. Mine and my mom's indian food was SOOOO overly spicy we could barely eat it, even after adding sour cream to it and we both ate ice cream right after. My mom NEVER eats ice cream - that's how extremely hot this food was! She was shocked cuz she's gotten the same dish from that same restaurant before and it wasn't nearly as hot.

stopdog · Sep 19, 2024 at 10:12 PM

I love indian food and once was at a restaurant where I picked something I had not had before and the waitress (who was indian) was like "no" - I was 'you don't have it?"- and she said they could not make it unspicy enough for people not used to a lot of heat.
My partner and I laughed about how she really saved me because their non-spicy was super hot to us.

unaluna · Sep 19, 2024 at 10:52 PM

Ha, amateurs! I dont go crazy like for death wish peppers or whatever they call them, but i used to like the 4-pepper items on the menu.

LostOnTheTrail · Sep 20, 2024 at 07:34 AM

Couch Workout Club day 51

I took a short walk around the block this morning.

LostOnTheTrail · Sep 20, 2024 at 11:42 AM

H from the helpline responded to my email this morning and offered a slot to talk.

I appreciated the opportunity to speak with someone who understood the background, rather than having to go through it all over again.

We had a helpful conversation about the 'cost' of Steve stepping into his truest self.

Possible trigger:

He celebrated the 21st as the anniversary of him surviving his first attempt.

In a sense, it seemed more significant to him than his birthday.

The idea that may have been performative on some level doesn't sit well with me now.

I asked whether we could debrief on Monday, and H said my 'usual' slot is available, so we'll speak again then.

She also gave me some information about a YouTube channel with somatic practices for releasing emotions.

I'm going to try and use one of them tomorrow, I think.

Other than that, I don't know what I need, and should probably try to work that out.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 20, 2024 at 12:04 PM

Hugs, Lost. I'm glad H was helpful and that you can speak again Monday.

stopdog · Sep 21, 2024 at 09:38 AM

We had to have a parent of an adult grad student removed from our building because they came to yell at a colleague about their offspring's not being treated like the special little flower that they are.
It is nuts and unfortunately, it is probably going to happen more. Parents are ensuring their kids never ever grow up.

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LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 21,608 (SuperPoster!) 9 76.2k hugs given	Sep 17, 2024 at 05:59 PM #443 I hope you have a safe trip and wonderful visit with your sisters, Artie!
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LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 21,608 (SuperPoster!) 9 76.2k hugs given	Sep 19, 2024 at 10:05 AM #450 Well done on 50 days! I'd go ahead and ask H if you want a check-in. Worst that can happen is a "no." Probably better to get someone you know than a random person. And hugs, if wanted.
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ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert of my soul Posts: 7,591 (SuperPoster!) 4 6,005 hugs given	Sep 19, 2024 at 10:57 AM #453 arrived safely in Missouri last evening, neither flight was full so that was nice. and both were uneventful. i slept in til 9:30 this morning (well, that's 7:30 arizona time) but it still felt luxurious.
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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,926 (SuperPoster!) 13 68.8k hugs given	Sep 19, 2024 at 10:52 PM #456 Ha, amateurs! I dont go crazy like for death wish peppers or whatever they call them, but i used to like the 4-pepper items on the menu.
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LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 21,608 (SuperPoster!) 9 76.2k hugs given	Sep 20, 2024 at 12:04 PM #459 Hugs, Lost. I'm glad H was helpful and that you can speak again Monday.
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