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Old Sep 21, 2024, 08:00 PM
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My parents' default position was that we were the problem -not the others. I actually think that is the better way to go.

My dad is in the hospital - he wasn't feeling good and then his apple watch alerted him to his heart rate being up to 190 (he was just in bed reading) so they went to urgent care who called ambulance and now he is hooked up to all sorts of things -the tests are so far inconclusive -but he is raving good things about the watch now to any poor intern, rn, lpn, and candy striper he can according to his wife
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Old Sep 21, 2024, 08:02 PM
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Wow, that's ridiculous.
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SD-When I took a year break from my regular career to work in a school I had a co-worker who was 24. The 24 year old co-worker was reprimanded one day. She must have went home and told her mom that she got reprimanded at work because her mom called the director and told her not to bully her daughter. (The director didn’t bully her). 24 year old coworker probably should have been embarrassed that her mom called her job to yell at her boss but she wasn’t. She was proud of her mom and bragged about it. I just stood there and shook my head.
Sadly this is becoming the norm. My 22 yr old nephew is terrified of being an adult and wants to move back home where his mother makes his dr appts, tells him what to wear, and so on.
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Old Sep 21, 2024, 08:07 PM
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Im glad your dad likes his watch! Thats funny - i would think one would notice if ones heart rate increased appreciably! Its not like blood pressure. I mean arent you gonna feel it going thumpa thumpa thumpa? Mine went to 120 once on an electrolyte imbalance, speaking of chinese food (different thread!), and heck yeah i noticed.
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Old Sep 21, 2024, 08:09 PM
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My parents' default position was that we were the problem -not the others. I actually think that is the better way to go.

My dad is in the hospital - he wasn't feeling good and then his apple watch alerted him to his heart rate being up to 190 (he was just in bed reading) so they went to urgent care who called ambulance and now he is hooked up to all sorts of things -the tests are so far inconclusive -but he is raving about the watch now to any poor intern, rn, lpn, and candy striper he can according to his wife
I hope your dad makes out okay and gets to go home quickly.
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Old Sep 21, 2024, 08:17 PM
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I wanna know when they started making parents who took their kids' side! I noticed my cousin did this, and i was like whaaaat?

Had a pretty good day today. Got back on the exercise bike, for 20 minutes. I havent been feeling great this week, not sure why, probably the hot weather. But it should be done now.

Googled self care avoidance, some good insights.
Parents taking their kids side is a new thing for me. I have no idea. When I was young I was wrong and the problem. If someone gave a positive report you weren’t praised.
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Old Sep 21, 2024, 08:52 PM
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Thanks. And apparently not knowing your heart rate is astronomical is not as uncommon as one might think
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Old Sep 21, 2024, 09:18 PM
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SD, my husband had this issue. The called it SVT supraventricular tachycardia. They used an IV medication to bring it down. A couple times they also pushed another med (sorry, can’t remember the names) and waited for a pretty immediate response. They had the crash cart ready to use to shock his heart into normal rhythm if the meds weren’t working (fortunately they did).

The plan was that he would have cardiac ablation down the road. We never got that far because of the Covid though.

My father had cardiac ablation at one point for a different cardiac issue. It did improve things.

I hope your dad responds and they find a solution for the tachycardia. It’s a lot. Keep us updated.
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Old Sep 21, 2024, 09:48 PM
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Between parents and the fact that so many now want to trauma dump/come in and tell you their diagnosis - "Prof. Stopdog - I have X - so you have to..." Me "no" -My position is if you have anxiety, depression, hammer toes, or a hang nail -it is not my problem. It is your problem to figure out how to learn with whatever challenges you have because we all have challenges. And the stupidity of "no upsetting topics" or "you have to warn them when sensitive topics are coming up -thing is a hill I will die on - attorneys have to handle upsetting info - if you are too damn delicate then go be something else.
I’ve got a kid this semester who is triggered by dolphins. As it is an ancient history course we do in fact see some dolphins in art and on coinage. I changed the art slide, but for the coin I passed them off as fish.

Sorry about your dad. My Apple Watch once flagged my heart rate as high when I certainly didn’t notice it. One watch and over three years later, it still has a record of it.
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Old Sep 21, 2024, 09:50 PM
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I have the opposite problem - my heart rate is low -brachycardia I think is the name
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Old Sep 21, 2024, 09:51 PM
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I have the opposite problem - my heart rate is low -brachycardia I think is the name
Must have been all that therapy teaching you to be calm.
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Old Sep 21, 2024, 09:52 PM
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Must have been all that therapy teaching you to be calm.
haha - going to their offices was probably when my heart rate got all the way up to normal
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Old Sep 22, 2024, 01:53 AM
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Sadly this is becoming the norm. My 22 yr old nephew is terrified of being an adult and wants to move back home where his mother makes his dr appts, tells him what to wear, and so on.

Yikes.
I shudder to think how the spawn would react if I tried to do that. Nope.
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Old Sep 22, 2024, 01:58 AM
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Thanks. And apparently not knowing your heart rate is astronomical is not as uncommon as one might think

My dad had something similar about a year ago. They got his heart back into rhythm and it hasn't happened since. He ame to stay with me for a couple days. He was tired and took it easy for 2-3 weeks, then decided he was fine and went back to cutting trees and digging up his garden- but he wears a smart watch now. Hope they get your dad on the mend soon.
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Old Sep 22, 2024, 02:09 AM
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My parents' default position was that we were the problem -not the others. I actually think that is the better way to go.

My dad is in the hospital - he wasn't feeling good and then his apple watch alerted him to his heart rate being up to 190 (he was just in bed reading) so they went to urgent care who called ambulance and now he is hooked up to all sorts of things -the tests are so far inconclusive -but he is raving good things about the watch now to any poor intern, rn, lpn, and candy striper he can according to his wife

I hope your dad is OK. That's quite a high heart rate for just sitting there--good his watch alerted him.
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I am effing exhausted after Getting Through yesterday.

I've pulled in all the support that feels within reach, but I have no idea what to do with myself.

I'm thankful that I have booked a slot with the grief guide tonight.
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A walk around the block this afternoon, as rain stopped play on my usual Sunday morning walk.
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Old Sep 22, 2024, 03:31 PM
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To people in the US: my parents are planing to move to the US. How do people there find a good healh insurance? Do you just google or are there some that are known for being "better" (for example coverage in all states or something like that)?
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To people in the US: my parents are planing to move to the US. How do people there find a good healh insurance? Do you just google or are there some that are known for being "better" (for example coverage in all states or something like that)?
I've always had health insurance through my employer and there's little to no choice. They might start with healthcare.gov which is an official government site for finding insurance coverage.

HealthCare.gov is a health insurance exchange website operated by the United States federal government under the provisions of the Affordable Care Act or ACA, commonly referred to as "Obamacare", which currently serves the residents of the U.S. states which have opted not to create their own state exchanges. From Wikipedia

In their own words
A service that helps people shop for and enroll in health insurance. The federal government operates the Health Insurance Marketplace®, available at HealthCare.gov, for most states. Some states run their own Marketplaces. Refer to glossary for more details. , follow these 4 steps to apply and enroll. From Welcome to the Health Insurance Marketplace(R) | HealthCare.gov
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Old Sep 22, 2024, 04:39 PM
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To people in the US: my parents are planing to move to the US. How do people there find a good healh insurance? Do you just google or are there some that are known for being "better" (for example coverage in all states or something like that)?
What NP_Complete said. Also, many plans are state-specific (though they'd still provide some coverage in other states, like if they were traveling). Do they know where they're moving to yet?

Something they need to pay attention to when picking a plan is the deductible. That's the amount they'd have to pay completely out of pocket before insurance kicks in and cover part of it. So like if a plan has a $5,000 deductible, they have to pay for $5,000 worth in care before insurance starts paying some or all. There are exceptions for some forms of preventive care, like an annual physical is generally free.

Another thing to consider is prescription coverage, especially if they take regular medications. Some plans have a separate deductible for prescriptions; others combine it.

I could give more info, too (like in-network vs. out-of-network coverage), but don't want to overwhelm you!
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Old Sep 22, 2024, 05:41 PM
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Also how old are they? I.e., eligible for Medicare? But pretty much medical insurance is like doctor's and lawyers licenses - they are by state, not national.
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Old Sep 22, 2024, 06:15 PM
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Also how old are they? I.e., eligible for Medicare? But pretty much medical insurance is like doctor's and lawyers licenses - they are by state, not national.

I wondered about Medicare, too--but wasn't sure how it worked if someone was moving to the US from another country.
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I am effing exhausted after Getting Through yesterday.

I've pulled in all the support that feels within reach, but I have no idea what to do with myself.

I'm thankful that I have booked a slot with the grief guide tonight.

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Old Sep 22, 2024, 07:40 PM
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I wondered about Medicare, too--but wasn't sure how it worked if someone was moving to the US from another country.
I think you don’t have to be a citizen, but you do have to be at least a permanent resident, which is like 5 years.

Otherwise, it’s the marketplace.
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Old Sep 22, 2024, 08:09 PM
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What about Medicaid? I think here in CA everyone can get it now? My friend who is here illegally said she was able to get it.
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Old Sep 22, 2024, 08:47 PM
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If I was changing countries - the US would not even be in the top 10. I am looking into ex-pat places right now - hoping it can be a little later than sooner but it might have to be sooner.
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