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Mar 13, 2008, 09:31 AM
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I came across this word a few weeks ago and its stayed with me ever since....it explains a lot of what I wanted from T and what she was willing to give me...I'd never come across this word before but now I see what I may have wanted isn't necessarlity what I needed....its very painful having to go through childhood stages as an adult but I also see that its so much more beneficial to be treated as an adult so one can grow and become interdependent rather than dependent for life...which is a very painful place to be ....anyways I really got a lot out learning about that word...and got to see what I was trying to do without even realiseing it and thankful T is strong enought to give me what I need and not to keep me infantized..life is so much better grown-up
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Mar 13, 2008, 09:40 AM
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Mouse how do you personally define this word? I haven't looked the actual definition up as it relates to psychology. When I initially read it, it conjured up a negative definition in my head. I've since thought about some positive or neutral things. Maybe today I will take some time to search for an actual definition of the word. Just curious.
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Mar 13, 2008, 09:56 AM
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You did tell T all that too, didn't you?
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Mar 13, 2008, 11:05 AM
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Mckell, I felt it was like I was a baby trapped in an adults body, wanting what a baby would need but in myself as an adult to me it looks ugly and it really doesn't do me any justice...I actually saw all the ways I had presented myself in an infantile manor and didn't realise at the time I was doing it...didn't know there was another way to be...that there was another way...just finding this out for myself it changed so much for me.
Perna, Yes I did talk to T about a lot of the above issues..she agreed that whilst one is getting their infantile needs met its works ok, but when one isn't get this which as an adult one is going too, thats when its painful...adn thats just how it was. I was looking to others to meet these infantile needs in an infantile way and when that stopped it hurt...it was never enought even when I was kind of getting it..but I was also only attracting those that have a need to treat another adult as an infant..all very dysfunctional..
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Mar 13, 2008, 11:13 AM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Mouse_ said: and thankful T is strong enought to give me what I need and not to keep me infantized </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Did you personally thank her though, and praise her strength and that she gave herself to you in that way? :-)
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Mar 13, 2008, 11:39 AM
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Yes on more than one occassion.
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Mar 13, 2008, 01:16 PM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
I felt it was like I was a baby trapped in an adults body, wanting what a baby would need but in myself as an adult to me it looks ugly and it really doesn't do me any justice. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Ok I see and when you said: </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> ..but I also see that its so much more beneficial to be treated as an adult so one can grow and become interdependent rather than dependent for life. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> You are saying that although you were wanting and needed things in the same way a baby wants or needs things, you were glad your T was strong enough to accept this and still provide care--in an adult way? In doing so, you felt like crap for a while but, she helped you move from being dependent on others towards independence? Do I have this correct? </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> Perna said: Did you personally thank her though, and praise her strength and that she gave herself to you in that way? :-) </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I'm not sure why this statement made me cringe, but it did. But Mouse you seem to just say, yes, I've thanked her several times.
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Mar 13, 2008, 01:25 PM
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Mckell, Yes you have it correct, I felt like crap for a while and can still do but she did help me move towards indendence and I am not there totally yet...and yes I did feel Perna's insistence had some underlying motive but as It wasn't for me to know what, I just answered her..
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Mar 13, 2008, 04:25 PM
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Interesting thread, thanks to all!
((( mouse )))
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