Just for fun --- What do you wear to T?

I was thinking this in session today....I literally wear the same 3 outfits every session. They are my comfort clothes.. how embarrassing.

T probably thinks " get some new clothes!"

LOL I don't care so long as I've got dark shades on to hide behind.

I am a very fashion conscious person. I like to think I have my own style. I absolutely adore shopping and putting together outfits and accessories and putting on makeup. It's an art form to me. I own upwards of 50 pairs of shoes.

I must admit that I have gone out and bought new clothes specifically to wear to thearpy, lol. Finally after two and a half years, T has begun to tell me, "You look nice." He has said, "I like your shoes," and refers especially to the gold flats or the patent leather pink heels, lol.

I often go to therapy straight from work so on those days I am extra dressed up anyway because of work. On the days that I don't have work I wear what is casual to me-- which might not be considered casual to someone else.

A lot of the effort that I put into looking good when going to therapy probably does have to do with erotic transference issues and having this desire that he will find me attractive, but all in all, I normally put in a good effort in appearance no matter where I'm going. I believe that you have to get dressed everyday, so why not make it fun? I don't even own a pair of sneakers.

I go straight from work in my grungy work pants and shirt and oily steel toe shoes and grease on my face.....I think she secretly finds me sexy

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pinksoil said:

I don't even own a pair of sneakers.

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you miss such comfort! LOL

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Brian37 said:
I go straight from work in my grungy work pants and shirt and oily steel toe shoes and grease on my face.....I think she secretly finds me sexy

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I heard she likes the blue collar types.... Next week go for a little more grease under the fingernails and I think you'll be able to reel her in.

I used to dress up for my old T, I guess I spent a lot of time looking just right, so he would fall in love with me, which he did, but it wasn't probably the clothes. But boy do I regret all the time I spent getting ready for my appointment.

But now for therapy with my new T, I wear what is comfortable, usually no makeup and sometime I shower the night before. I just cry the makeup off anyway. But this time I am spending time on ME healing, being myself and I don't waste time trying to look good for my T. No need for masks for this old geezer. lol

But you know since I fired my last T, I sure have a lot more time to work on the important stuff and I am making a lot more progress on myself since I am not obsessing over my old T. Thank goodness I am over that emotional roller coaster. I think in a way that obsession was a way of avoiding the real stuff in therapy. But now I show up in whatever I feel like at the time, so I am comfortable, but I have no need to impress my new T.

I wear things that are comfortable but I try and make sure I don't look fat, lol. I'm my heaviest weight ever right now, which isn't too bad. But I don't want my T telling me I just need to excercise or something, LOL.

i think I will wear an evening gown tomorrow morning. You know, since it's Saturday and all.

I wear whatever I wear to work, which is nothing special. The only thing I wear especially for therapy is certain shoes. Since when we do EMDR, I like to put the little pulsing thingies under my feet, I always wear clogs to therapy. That makes it easy to stick the pulsers in.

I either look nice/decent with jeans and makeup or i wear sweats with my hair in a pony tail and glasses. on those days T questions if i went to school or if i had a rough week, ha. I find that if i'm particularly depressed ill dress down just to "show" im feeling blah. And when i'm feeling alright or happy even? i'll make an attempt to look nice.

riptide, i love your posts and questions. they are all things i've thought about but i never thought about asking!

I blew my T's mind once and wore my jammies!! With big fuzzy pink slippers.

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LOL Gracie!

I thought about wearing my PJ's when I had a very early morning appointment once. LOL Well at least you were comfortable, and if you are like me, I need a nap after a stressful therapy session anyway.

It depends on what I am doing before and after. If I am just doing therapy that day its usually my exercise pants and a tshirt, if its work then therapy then I wear nicer clothes sometimes its just jeans and a tshirt and flip flops. At my old T I wore my jammie pants once and he asked if I was in my pajamas and I said ya you got a problem with that? He didn't he just was curious as to why I didnt get dressed that day.

Jbug

Im a stay at home mom, so I pretty much where the same thing day in or out.
Although, I do have to say I am one of those ladies that will not go out of the house without my makeup on...lol. (I blame that on my mom who still will not leave the house until she has her hair and makeup perfect, jeez!)

I usually go in my work clothes, so professional dress. However next week I may need to wear my sweats since I might be diving under her desk. :-)

i actually do also fall into the habit of my comfy clothes (if not working) so i have to stop myself from wearing the same house skirt all the time. Well, i think of it as that, but i get the most compliments on it. weird. anyway, i can curl up in it and get my feet warm while on t's couch. lol
sometimes i feel bad looking too dressy because i'm not paying anything since i really don't have it... i feel like if the office sees me in my leather jacket and heels they'll think "hey, she isn't really so hard up on her luck - make her pay in full!!"

lol mckell!!!

Just my regular clothes.

If I go straight from school, then it's probably jeans, a t-shirt and a sweatshirt, sometimes a little dressier because I try to look nice sometimes.

If it's on a vacation day, or a day when I go home first, there's a good chance that I'll go in sweats.

I've wanted to curl up in a little ball in the corner of the ugly couch a few times. This is how I work at home and watch TV. I just can bring myself to slip off the shoes and put my feet up. I aways keep the shoes on an feet off the furniture.

Do you think it is impolite to put clean sock feet up on someone's office couch? Am I being a ridged freak or just assuming I need to be adherent to standard office etiquette?

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Gracey: I blew my T's mind once and wore my jammies!! With big fuzzy pink slippers.

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jeans, sneakers, nice tee or blouse. Light make-up. I just like to look fresh and clean. I'm a casual person. Only like to dress up for special occassions. I'm more interested in our conversation and if helps me any to be able to use what he say. I do find him attractive, we are close in age but I think to myself, it is ridiculous he is my T/pdoc. So, I enjoy the view but concentrate more on what he is saying.

Nothing special. Something comforatable so my clothes aren't a distracton.

I usually have time after work to wash my face and put on fresh make-up. Change clothes if I need to, and go.

T has a huge wardcrobe and I'm always curious what she will be wearing. She mush have a house with 50 closets, no kidding. Lovely clothes.

I always built in enough time leaving work so I could stop at home and change into jeans. I like being comfortable. I've worn my slippers there in the winter before, just because it was difficult, the whole leave-the-house-in-slippers thing like there were clothes police that would pick you up for being in the wrong shoes, etc. My T didn't comment, I had to bring the subject up.

I love this thread. Yeah I dress up for therapy. Even group therapy. In fact, I've already planned what I'm wearing tomorrow (to group) and I've had it planned for days. I secretly want everyone (T especially) to find me attractive. But I'm also (like Pinksoil!) just into clothes. I feel better when I look good so I tend to be a tad dressier. Even my comfy clothes mean really nice jeans.

I loved it the time I had a really formal event at work and went onto group from there (naturally I didn't make the time to change) in a black cocktail dress (with jacket so not too out of place) and heels. Even T said I looked "elegant."

What's wrong with me?! I don't even want to sleep with T (seriously I'm not fantasizing about sex with him). But I want him and anyone in my group and anyone else to find me attractive. It's like I think I can make up for my other lacks if they at least see me as attractive.

Plus it's all fun. Hehe.

Pinksoil I loved your comment about wearing an evening gown on Saturday morning. Hahhahhaha.



Sidony

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sidony said:
What's wrong with me?! I don't even want to sleep with T (seriously I'm not fantasizing about sex with him). But I want him and anyone in my group and anyone else to find me attractive. It's like I think I can make up for my other lacks if they at least see me as attractive.

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That's similar to how I feel. I'm not attracted to my pdoc. I have daddy feelings for him instead of romantic or erotic feelings. Plus, I'm a lesbian. Yet I want him to think I'm attractive. It's because I have low self-esteem issues. I've been told all my life by my mother that I'm stupid, lazy, etc but everyone has always complemented me for being naturally attractive and thin. I feel like my attractiveness is my one positive attribute. It's the one thing I'm good at and I don't even have to work hard at it. It makes me feel better about myself. I look up to my pdoc and I'm jealous of him for being so smart, sensitive and perfect so I want him to see me as attractive. It makes me feel less worthless.