struggling after termination

Hi,

I posted a while back about having to terminate with my T as a result of a combination of circumstances.

Since then I've had two temporary counsellors, for two months each. They were both nice helpful women, but only touched on the surface and it was more reassurance than challenging or questioning.

I have found a new T I want to work with. I've applied for a medical grant towards funding and I'm still waiting to hear back. It's fairly uncertain.

However I do feel that I'm beginning to slip. I'm having problems with eating enough, feeling anxious and overwhelmed by academic work, not feeling part of my foster family, getting angry with my boyfriend for no good reason.

I feel like I don't know what's going on inside my own head and what my currents of thoughts are, what's motivating me to act the way I act.

I feel like I lack the confidence to access and analyse my own thoughts sufficiently, and I don't have enough certainty in the decisions I take. I feel like I've grown smaller as a person.

I also miss my T horribly but don't know how to express that to anyone around me. Sometimes I want to write to her but then it seems pointless as I think I'll just feel pushed away as she understandably won't send me a lengthy reply.

I'm not sure what to do - how to bolster myself up again and survive on my own... does anyone have any similar experiences or thoughts?

xxx

Your university doesn't have a counseling center you could talk to someone while you wait on your funding (and/or work on some of your school problems)?

HI daybydayone,

Have you considered helping yourself. Many kinds of mood disorders appear to be caused by underlying metabolic disorders, that affect the way the mind thinks. Psychotherapy (or talk therapy) is not going to be of much help here.

Read:

What is Hypoglycemia?

The Serotonin Connection ----> here

Depression is a Nutritional Disorder

Self-help Personal Growth Psychotherapy

hi,

perna: my university does have a counselling service, and I have used the support they can give me, which is a term's worth of counselling.

jurplesman: i have chronic fatigue syndrome. but the reason i go to psychotherapy is not because of that but because I was removed from my parents when younger by social services and fostered. however your last link was helpful and i have spent some time reading it.

I am curious really about how other people have coped with termination. I think I will start a new thread to that effect, asking people to share their experiences.

xxxx

I had many therapists before I found a really good one I worked with for nearly 30 years. The first time I left therapy it was because I was moving out of town and my job was moving further out. I had a lot of trouble within myself for 2-3 years but enough real life support (boyfriend who became husband, new jobs, friends, etc.) but finally, in a comfortable living situation was able to do a lot of self-help work and explore some other interests (writing).

You might look into reading about life transitions; there are several good books and articles on the subject:

http://www.mental-health-matters.com....php?artID=399

Article above references this book: http://www.amazon.com/Transitions-Ma.../dp/0201000822

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hi,

but the reason i go to psychotherapy is not because of that but because I was removed from my parents when younger by social services and fostered.

xxxx

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Hey. I am not really sure how to respond about your T, but I wanted to offer some support on the foster care thing. I was in foster care too and I am just starting to deal with it in my life. Most people don't realize the impact this has on kid's lives and later adult lives. Mostly I wanted to say, I understand.

Finding the right T and/or losing a T after trying to trust them is made worse by the foster issue. Some T's don't get it. I am sorry that your T terminated. This must have really hurt.

The only thing I can say is to know that there is a T out there that can help you. It can take awhile....I am trying my 6 new T!!!!!! But I know that there is one...becuase my old T "got it."

Hang in there...

Hello..
I have my last therapy session tommorrow that ive been going to for 2 years. I had to terminate it due to lack of finances and moving towns but at the same time, its been feeling really stagnant with my therapist, I feel like im stuck in a rut.. that i dont know would be better for me toi work my way out of. i feel like ending it in this way is ending it too soon yet there is a possibility that nothing would change and i wouldnt dig myself out and stay in this place of suspense for another 2 years...
]its all so confusing.
i just know that i feel very strange in a surreal place.

sorry guys for not being very positive.
this is my first post. and as usual, im in a strange place.