[mountaindew24]

I wrote a post a few days ago about my session and how I said, I was not going back. I found out this afternoon that she called my dad to see if she could talk to him about my session’s the past four months and my dad was like ok so he went to talk to My T. She told him everything that I have told her over the past 4 months. I’m like how can she recall all this stuff when she don’t even write it down. I’m so pissed off at her right now, I’ve been sitting and wondering If she just trying to get me to come back to my next appointment which is the 14Th of this month. I don’t know why she getting my dad involved.

[MyBestKids2]

Does your father perhaps have an adult guardianship for you? Since you are 24, I just thought that might be why she wanted to speak with him directly. Did your father tell you she told him everything?

I can't imagine what is going through your mind right now. The 14th probably seems so far away!

((((mountaindew24)))

[mountaindew24]

no adult guardianship, Yes I'm 24 and I found out That my therapy is suppose to be family therapy. that what she told my dad this afternoon. he told me that she told him everything.

[Izzyparker]

WOW. I would be upset too.

If I was you, I would call this therapist and tell her how you feel. I would feel betrayed, besides angry and a host of other emotions.

[RozG]

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no adult guardianship, Yes I'm 24 and I found out That my therapy is suppose to be family therapy. that what she told my dad this afternoon. he told me that she told him everything.

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you say "HE told me that she told him everything"...HE told you, not her.

is it possible he's playing mind games with you and she hasn't actually told him anything confidential...or has he said things to prove to you that she did tell him? i.e. things he couldn't possibly know otherwise?

[Kiya]

wow - i would think she had no rights to talk with him. that's a major break in confidentiality - unless you are suicidal.

[Perna]

I'm with Kalamity Jane, I think your father is pissed because your T got mad at him for his behavior toward you or she is trying to get him to behave differently now. I think she told him "about" you but not anything he shouldn't have noticed himself.

I'd go the 14th just curious to find out why she did what she did, the extent of it, etc. and to walk out on them if I didn't like it. How could you not know it was family therapy? Was there a meeting with the three of you?

[chaotic13]

I remember early on in therapy, I had started mainly because I wanted help for my son. I had gone a few times to check my T out, my son had gone twice, and then my husband went once. I was SO afraid that the T would tell my husband things that I had said. In fact I reminded her that I expected her to maintain my confidentiality and that I DID NOT WANT any personal insights she might have gain about me shared with my husband at this point. I know I was a being a total freak but anyway. Her session with my husband must have been a really emotional one, he came home very upset even crying. He has refused to go back since. As he talked about what was discussed, I realize that most of their time was spent talking about OUR relationship and not about the relationship between my H and my son. I was pissed, at both my H and my T. Especially by the way my H described what she had said and how she agreed with him about this or that...blah..blah..blah. I now realize that what he said she said, and what she likely ACTUALLY said, were two very different things.

Go back the therapy and find out directly from your T what was discussed and not discussed. Then you can judge for yourself who is telling the truth. You need to be able to trust your T. If she is not trustworthy with regard to your disclosures then, stop going to her! Listen to your gut. My gut told me my T was being honest; not my husband.

[ECHOES]

I would be furious and hurt if my T did that. It's a breach of trust.

[sunrise]

mountaindew, I agree it is best to hear what happened from your therapist's lips. But if she asked your father's permission to talk with him about you, she has to get your permission too. It is not OK because it is family therapy (and you seem not to have even known it was, so there was no informed consent on that). Getting your permission would involve you signing a release form allowing your T to speak with your father. (At least that's how it works in my state. My daughter is in individual therapy and had to sign a form in order to allow me to talk with her therapist.) Her talking to your father without a release seems like a huge breach of confidentiality. Do you still have a copy of the informed consent you signed? You could check it to see if there is a special clause there that permits your T to contact family members. This would be very unusual, but it is good to check, and if it is not there, I would go over the document with T and let her know about her violation.

[mountaindew24]

My dad has not spoken that much since this, and we always talk all the time.
It so boring around the house right now. it not even funny

[ziggy1]

One word out of me is Confidentiality.....especially at 24.

Wow...!

I think unless you signed a waiver of consent, your T is wrong. You are a legal adult and she breached confidentiality. I would be pissed and fire her.

[Razzleberry]

Wow, uhm....you are over 18....I think this clearly violates your privacy rights. That is awful.