[krazibean]

8 months ago i met my T for the first time. who would have known i would grow this attached. Happy 8 months, T.

Do any of you remember the first day/moment you met your T? What was your first impression? I remember the first glance i ever looked at her. i remember calling my mom after our first session saying, "i LOVE her".

how about you?

[Christina86]

Happy anniversary.

With my most current T, I met her and all I could think was "wow, she's YOUNG" (Don't know specifically, but I know she's younger than 35... and my previous T's have been 40+)

I did like her though... she seemed bubbly. But never expected us to get along as well as we did. lol

New T

First thought = "mean, nasty *****.. I hate her. Take your flower shoes and stick them up your ***, you mean, coldhearted T."


Old T

First thought = "please save me and be my mom."

[sunrise]

Happy anniversary, krazibean.

The first time I really liked him, and he gave me this amazing thing--hope. He made some novel interpretations of past experiences that might be causing me to be "stuck" in life (my previous therapist never figured any of this out over the course of a whole year). And I remember this very powerful moment when he stood up full height in front of me and I tilted back my head and looked up at him and he intoned, "I am a healer." I felt a very shamanistic vibe and remember thinking, "this guy's got balls." I felt his energy. I would have followed him anywhere.

hmmm... i was trying to find a new T as my sessions were limited with the former one. i was far more tentative and i was scrutinizing him...eyeballing him, trying to really get a feel for how he was... my former T, well, i was in crisis.. and i didnt care if he had an arm growing out of his forehead! i dont remember a first impression.. i was too messed up.

so when i went to find a new one i was in a far different place mentally... i remember almost every minute because i was really trying to evaluate him

to be honest... i almost kept looking. He was sharply dressed and even though he doesn't wear a tie, i was worried that he would be too clinical or formal. He was obviously very smart, had a sense of humour, etc... but the warmth he has is different than i had in mind, and i was concerned about his degree of empathy. i dunno, it seemed sort of business-like.. possibly partly my fault as i made it clear i was "shopping."

it wasn't a first glance experience... i remember thinking he seemed possibly too much like my pdoc (whom i love like crazy, but i needed a different sort of relationship to do what i needed to do)

im glad i "kept" him

I really liked T since I met her. The first session was a lot of paperwork, but I remember her saying that she wasn't there to judge me, that she was there to listen and we'd figure out where it will go "together".

She had NO IDEA that I was multiple, and had no idea what she was getting into! LOL

But over a year and a half later I'm attached to her and she is attached to me. I never thought we'd be where we are when I first met her.

I love her.

[Mouse_]

I wanted her to fall in love with me

[Kiya]

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8 months ago i met my T for the first time. who would have known i would grow this attached. Happy 8 months, T.

Do any of you remember the first day/moment you met your T? What was your first impression? I remember the first glance i ever looked at her. i remember calling my mom after our first session saying, "i LOVE her".

how about you?

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I started last Oct... so 7 months give or take 2 weeks. My first impression was remembering what my MD said to me and thinking "This lady's gonna be my angel?!? She seems so old... with no personality....i'll never attach to her!!" Thankfully, I was wrong. MD's still my angel - she can't be replaced. But T comes close.

[gimmeice]

My T is in an office with several other T's and I met her the first day she was there. I was having a psych evaluation and she sit in to kinda learn the way they do them in the office. I remember being so nervous so I didn't really get an impression of her then.

[Merlin]

I remember the first time I met my pdoc. It was just an instant connection. "You're like me" or at least "you can get me." I felt kinda bad about lying to him that day, but I went to him to placate my parents after a suicide attempt (that I was not happy with surviving.)

I don't remember what I thought of my T the first time. I was 17 and just a mess emotionally. I wanted to feel better but I didn't want to reveal any "secrets" and I had a couple. The second time I met her though, she had sensed that the previous session I had been holding back (where do they get those superpowers anyway) and she got some of it out of me. It was, however, a great relief to get it out.

[MissCharlotte]

Ummm first time I met T was in the context as a parent because he counseled my son for several months some years ago. Fast forward about 5 years or so and I knew I needed a T, so I asked another trusted T for a referral and he gave me T's name. I said, "Oh I know him!" But I barely remembered him.

So I called and left a message and we had a phone interview first. Then we had a first session and he didn't look much like I remembered. So what did I think of him? I remember thinking, Oh yeah, he's a really nice guy. But, typical me, I was very wary and didn't become attached for quite while. Sigh. Now I'll never leave.

Peace

[greenpepper]

well the first time i met my T was 2 weeks ago so i kindof remember......haha..........she had on harley boots .............it felt like we were going through a divorce.....she was going thorugh 'who gets what when how' all these details and more details................i told her point blank "your sure not fluffy' and she laughed and said 'no im not'...................sooooooOOOoo....not sure what to think..,,jury is still deciding.............................

[rfcsruth]

Well my first experience with my t was over the phone. I called and talked to her. Asked her her office hours etc.... Then I asked her, "Do you care for your patients?" She laughed a little and said, "I'd like to think I do." From then on out I knew she was the right one for me. She was straight forward and had a sense of humor.

When I met her I remember thinking, "There's nothing magical about her." I'd never been to a t before so I didn't know what to expect. So my first session I just spilled the beans. I was really a mess when I went to her. I dissociated really bad that first day and for several months thats how it went. But I'd clicked with her over the phone and knew then she wasn't going to allow me to manipulate her or play mind games with her. She is a straight shooter.

.....I think my t shows her "love" a different way than most the ones I've read here.....she's not as oooie goooie, but I'm not either so maybe she's just mimicing my behavior to put me at ease.

Who knows?

Sorry for rambling.

[SingDanceRunLife]

I remember that she didn't look like what I had imagined her to be. I can't tell you what I thought she would look like, but I know that I had an idea, and it was all based on her voice which I had heard over the phone on a few occasions. She made me very comfortable and wasn't at all intimidating. And, right away, I liked her because she respected my wishes for privacy (I didn't want my mom in the room while I talked to her). That's all.

[skeksi]

I thought to myself, "This guy is a hippie posing as a businessman!" He looked so uncomfortable in his dress shirt and tie. I don't know if I would have had the strength to go back for a second session but for the fact that he acknowledged how hard it must have been for me to come in, given my extreme reticence and self-reliance. That made me feel understood.

[chaotic13]

I remember several first impressions of some of the other T's that work out of the same office. I remember seeing one woman and thinking, "If she calls my name I am just going to get up and walk out." I remember being somewhat relieved when my T appeared and read my name. She looked professional and internally I felt neural towards her. After the session however, I felt 100 times worst about my situation. It seemed like every concern I had about my son and how the relationship with my H might be affecting him were not only validated but amplified. When I entered the session I only THOUGHT I was a being a bad mom, when I left I KNEW I was a bad mom. The first 2 months I felt like I really didn't personally connect with her, but I couldn't come up with any good reasons to dislike her. Her insights seemed to helpful so I kept sticking it out for one more session.