[90mphINneutral]

I'm starting with a new therapist tomorrow. I have lost count on how many therapists I've seen. But I have a feeling this one will be the one that will change my life. Maybe it's because I've had enough of being sick. Problem is this therapist is a male and I haven't been treated by a male therapist since the "incident." I don't want to bring baggage into the therapy relationship. I think I have grown since that incident over 2 years ago. I will never forget it but I will move on. No matter hos good looking this therapist it I will not let transferrence get in the way... I have boundaries. I just thought I should share the fact that I am getting a new therapist. Like I said I think I am stronger and I have a brighter outlook on getting better, I know I have issues like narcissism, obessions with wanting people dead etc... but I know I can beat this.

[gimmeice]

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Good luck at your appointment tomorrow.

[kim_johnson]

How did it go?

[Simcha]

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I'm starting with a new therapist tomorrow. I have lost count on how many therapists I've seen. But I have a feeling this one will be the one that will change my life. Maybe it's because I've had enough of being sick. Problem is this therapist is a male and I haven't been treated by a male therapist since the "incident." I don't want to bring baggage into the therapy relationship. I think I have grown since that incident over 2 years ago. I will never forget it but I will move on. No matter hos good looking this therapist it I will not let transferrence get in the way... I have boundaries. I just thought I should share the fact that I am getting a new therapist. Like I said I think I am stronger and I have a brighter outlook on getting better, I know I have issues like narcissism, obessions with wanting people dead etc... but I know I can beat this.

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I think starting anything new is difficult to varying degrees. Do you really have Narcissism diagnosed, or just some traits you think you have? I think all of us have traits of this and that. I just wondered because it is so rare.

It's very difficult to talk to people about problems, because it means you have to trust them enough to feel comfortable, and then rely that they have the skills to help you. That's the barrier for me. I've been reading these forums for awhile, and everyone is so attached to their therapist. For me, I have a hard time trusting them to do the right thing, so it's a challenge. I'm happy to say that I've always been wrong about thinking my therapist wouldn't be reliable. I'm sure yours will be the same way.

hey 90. i am glad to hear you sounding so positive! i remember talking to you about your NPD issues.. good for you for being so committed to facing what is ahead. i'll tell you again that from everything that i have read there are two things which stand in the way of curing NPD for good - and they are so intertwined that they may as well be one reason - but first is the ability to acknowledge that there really is a problem with your own behaviours, etc and the second is the ability to keep forging ahead with therapy. i believe you can beat this too.

i know how that other therapist hurt you and the fall out from that... but continuing to keep trying to help yourself speaks volumes about you. You know i lived with someone with the same disorder... and yeah, it is hard on the people around you i am sure, but i know from experience with my xH that it is hard on you too. Getting praise can be an addicting thrill.. so i will keep it short, but you need to hear the sort of praise that keeps you trying to help yourself. In the end, that is what it's all about... helping yourself.

best wishes with this