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today my t told me that i do not need individual therapy anymore.
i have been having sessions for a year but always had other interference in my life keeping me from working on real issues in my life.. i was always too afraid to speak anything other than superficial stuff and finding it a waste of time and money because the ones inside wont let me talk about things and so i never let anything out.
now she thinks i do not nee therapy anymore.. maybe i dont.. i have no idea what to do. since no one can know what is inside of me therapy wouldnt help anyway would it?
can or should a t tell you that you no longer need therapy?

<font color="purple"> I have the same problem except I've only had a T for a few months. Sorry I can't help </font>

[kessa19]

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i was always too afraid to speak anything other than superficial stuff and finding it a waste of time and money because the ones inside wont let me talk about things and so i never let anything out.

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It sounds like you have a lot of important issues to discuss. Maybe this T isn't the right fit. Maybe with a different T you'll feel less guarded? Or Will you see her again and would you feel comfortable writing your feelings on paper and sharing them that way? Is she aware of your fear and the conflict of the others inside of you?
When I was seeing my first therapist I was so much like you and I was unable to share what I really needed to (still am like that but gradually making progress). One day after about 2 months he said he thought I had benefited as much as I could from therapy. Verbally I was very compliant and even agreed with him to end it, however toward the end of the session I threw a book across the room and didn't offer to pick it up. This was so unlike the "controlled" me he had seen. I ended up staying with him for 7+ years.
I hope you can resolve this with her or someone else because you deserve to get the help you need.

[SingleGirl]

It could be that your therapist is just feeding off of your admitted inability to open up. They might see that as you being "finished" with the process. There could be other issues... insurance, personality, the client load being too high, etc... but you have every right to tell your therapist that you don't feel you are ready to terminate services.

Also, if they still want to terminate, you can always go to another therapist and as Kessa said, maybe the new therapist will be a better fit.

Good luck. Be well!

[Kiya]

Have you told t about the insiders who won't let you speak? Often mine won't let me speak either - but I can write and draw. So i take those in and we work from there. I have an awesome t now... took 4 others before her. The first one didn't believe there was any abuse and told me to forgive my "abuser" . I ended shortly after.
I still can't tell her everything, but after 5 years and (now) 5 t's , one of my insiders just opened up like 3 weeks ago.
If you think you want to try more, i would encourage it.
kiya

[shame]

thanks for all your replies .. i do see my pdoc today and will talk this over with her.. truthfully i was very guarded throughout therapy ..
i dont think trust was ever really established and i didnt feel that safe .. she seemed like one that would jump to conclusions so to speak at anything i said..i was always clammed up inside but could talk about things superficial - the day to day things everyone goes through . so i will talk it up with my pdoc and see where to go from there.. if no luck i will keep searching ..for an answer.