[chaotic13]

Like the Weather today I'm feeling a bit cold and gloomy.

For some reason I've been a bit low the past two days. Instead of becoming fearful about whether it will last too long, what it might really mean, etc... I am trying to just chill out and experience it. Have you practiced just Being? If so how do you do it without becoming too analytical or obsessed with your thoughts? Does just letting yourself be down, seem to make it worse or better?


Like the Weather

[Mouse_]

Depends, If I'm at work funny enought and feeling down, I kind of enjoy it, as it acts as a barrier between me and the "maddness" of the job, but other times when It feels more like a deep depression then just a rainy day, then it doesn't feel to good.

[Kiya]

Sounds like a very good plan.
I am practicing yoga - more for the teachings of how to sit still and breathe through the uncomfortable things.
it is helping me to remember to "return to the breath".
to be an observer and remember that i am not my thoughts or feelings. i can watch them and let them pass.

i am really new to this, but it is helping.

[Perna]

With "just letting yourself be down," you have to accent the right words :-) Think about the idea of "letting yourself" instead of the idea of "down".

If you let yourself, what would you do?
If you let yourself, what would you feel or experience?
If you let yourself, how much rent would you charge

You can feel several things simultaneously; I bet you smiled at the last line? You were slightly amused or maybe puzzled if you didn't get it.

There are advantages to feeling down, think about what they are in your own case. When I'm down, I often feel like just lying in bed with a good book (and sometimes I have to first go out and find the book I "want"). I can like lazy days like that is I let myself. Why are you "disappointed" at being cool and gloomy? Like the Arabian proverb says, "All sun makes a desert". You like sun in your eyes, beating down on your head, and being too hot? Add other, more pleasing words to your list. Is it "quiet" too? That can be pleasant sometimes. Good for sleeping or rest. How's the humidity where you are? Is it good weather for a walk?

I was a bit afraid of lightning and thunder and my brother or father once taught a girlfriend who was spending the night and me to count to 5 to see how "far away" the lightning had struck (sound travels slower than light; every 5 seconds you can count, the lighning hit a mile further away/previously). That was helpful (we were about 10-11 years old) but I found in my 20's when I was living alone, I was still somewhat unnerved by it if it got to "furious" out there :-) So, one day (I lived in Washington, D.C.) during a bad summer thunderstorm, I went out walking in it! I carried on a conversation with my God and "defied" the elements, LOL. Just the experience and the remembering of that day helped a great deal. I did "something" for myself, trying to help myself and it worked!

Think of something to go with cool and gloomy. Meditate on them and find something amusing or interesting (gloomy reminds me of some movies or book settings, etc.) and make your day "special" to you so cool and gloomy don't mean something you don't want/reject in yourself? What does "a bit cold" mean? How cold is it when it's a "bit" cold? LOL, I'd get 10 washcloths and hold them under various temperature water/faucets and see which one was "a bit" cold for me. Play!

[chaotic13]

OK it seems like from Perna's post you need to see when you are judging when you think you are just being. See it TY.

Also, trying to remember the old saying, "this to shall pass" applies. Our state of being will likely change or can be a bunch of things at once.

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I remember when I was in college and working as a lifeguard we used to LOVE cold and gloomy rainy days. We still had to work and got paid but could sleep off our hangovers in peace.

Rainy days are good days to share music. Here is another song I haven't heard in a long time.

Galilio by The Indigo Girls

[chaotic13]

Mouse_ I liked the reminder that being at work could me worse

Kiya, I'm not presently into yoga but I've been experimenting with the "return to the breath" concept. I can do it for... 15-30 sec at this point before my mind starts screaming What are you doing???You need to be doing something! Its a work in progress.

Since I'm stuck in Jango here is a song for all our T's--
Edie Brickell: Nothing

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Here is another song I haven't heard in a long time.

Galilio by The Indigo Girls

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This is one of my all-time favorite songs

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When doing this and a thought comes along that is judgemental, label it as "just a thought". Another thing to just notice, to watch it come and watch it go. You can write them down as a way of observing them and a way of letting them go. That helps me.
"Thoughts are just thoughts" is a powerful phrase taught to me by someone who was very helfpul.

For me it does help to just let it happen and not distract it. I have learned much about what's going on and where this feeling has come from by letting it happen. And like all moods, it has a beginning and an end.
It's good to remember there is an end, it will pass, it isn't going to stay forever.