[pegasus]

My T lied to me for years and now I'm completely stuffed.

Been with my T for over 6 years, many years ago I told him I wanted to be a clinical psychologist, at the time he said, 'Ok, we'll have a go...'

So, for years he's been encouraging this, I joined the British Psychological Society because I believed him. I joined the psychotherapy section and the division of clinical psychology believing that I could get there.

Many times he said I was a T! Many times he said I would make it and he said recently that we would find a way to get me 'chartered.'

But he lied! and still believing that I had 'made' it, I recently jacked in my job, went storming into my bosses office and declared that I was now a clinical psychologist! My boss believed me! T wasn't worried that I'd jacked in my job. And now I am truly stuffed.

I started realizing a few weeks ago, when I rang up about a clinical psychology job that it isn't true! I have no research doctorate, don't even know what that is!

I tackled T about this today, all he did was to look uncomfortable and said, 'sorry!'

%#@&#!! He's stuffed my life up good and proper!

Pegasus I'm so sorry your T said this ..... i want to become a psychologist when i'm healed and ready. My t told me first to go on a counselling course, do some voluntary work, then you have to go to Uni and do a degree and specialise in anything you like within that area .... I'd like to specialise in child psychology/dissociation...... abused children ......

i hope this helps a little ...... (((((((((((((Peg)))))))))))))) maybe you could go on a councellig course first of all ..... these days you need qualifications, not like in the past ..... anyone could say they were qualified ..... hugs, Jin xoxoxoxoxox

[Fuzzybear]

That's so weird, I'm grrrrrrrrrrrrr too on your behalf.

[pegasus]

Jinnyann, I feel very hurt and angry that he led me up the garden path. I'm now drawing a line under this whole thing and going to work in a bloody chip shop!

[pegasus]

Fuzzy, T's are supposed to help us aren't they? I think he should have been honest right from the start and he should have told me that it wasn't possible! Why did he do that!

[Fuzzybear]

T's are supposed to help us!! I'm completely at a loss as to why he would do that I'm so sorry, I'd be incredibly hurt too, anyone would!

[pegasus]

I have worked so %#@&#! hard! for nothing! I am nothing!

[Fuzzybear]

Your T's error doesn't make you nothing although I know it feels that way. Maybe do what jinnyann suggested, I'd think you'd make a great T or counsellor.
You're a somebody, a wonderful intelligent somebody.
love
furry paws

(((((((((((((((((((Peg)))))))))))))))))

please never say you are nothing ..... YOU ARE SOMEBODY ... and a very intelligent somebody. I have no douts you have worked so hard. I can't believe he told you this .... is he through the NHS? I know this isn't helping your situation, but maybe you could file a complaint ..... your hard work will pay off, it's not been for nothing, you have a wonderful mind full of information that you can put to good use ..... please don't give up, you are too strong for that ..... if you want to go into psychotherapy ..... do it ..... gentle hugs, Kerry xoxoxoxoxo

[pegasus]

No, Fuzzy I've had it! I'm done in! I've had enough!

(But thanks for listening and being here for me.)

[Fuzzybear]

[pegasus]

[Fuzzybear]

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr with you!!!!

[gimmeice]

((((((((((((( Pegasus )))))))))))))))))))))))

[Perna]

http://www.bps.org.uk/downloadfile.c...0C0E25&ext=pdf

You're an independent candidate:

http://www.bps.org.uk/careers/societ..._qual_home.cfm

You're fine; the research qualification was for that particular job you applied for! Not necessarily for all or others probably of more interest to you!

http://www.bps.org.uk/membership/grades/gbr1.cfm

You've had the Society-accredited training! You can get registered, read the pages and find out how?

[Perna]

Just take the SQE, (ii); you've had all the courses:

Graduate Basis for Registration is awarded to applicants who:

(i) hold a Society-accredited degree in psychology; or
(ii) have passed the Society’s Qualifying Examination; or
(iii) have completed a Society-accredited conversion qualification

http://www.bps.org.uk/membership/grades/sc_gbr.cfm

[pegasus]

I know you mean well Perna, but I do NOT have any degrees what so ever!

You are supposed to be a graduate to be a member of the division of clinical psychology though, they let me in there!

I DO have two post Docs in CBT and motivational interviewing but they mean diddly squit without the degree!

Trust me Perna, I am stuffed!

[Mouse_]

Did you not find out yourself what was needed? I don't get it?

[pegasus]

When I started with T over 6 years ago I was not well, after about 3 years with T we discussed what I wanted to do - become a clinical psychologist. T said, 'ok, we'll have a go...' It is very unusual to have therapy on the NHS as long as I have, so you can see why I thought I was in training etc. At this time I got a job in a school doing therapeutic work with children with special needs. All my therapy was about discussing my work. So, I presumed everything was hunky dory!

I didn't realize that you needed to go to university. It was only recently, when I did a post not long ago in this forum that several members here pointed out that I would have to have been to university to have become a clinical psychologist.

I will say that at no point did my T say that I had qualified... I got on an imaginary horse and believed I had got there! How stupid am I!

But there have been many sessions recently where T has boosted me up and said, 'I had got there and I didn't need to be the Dalai Lama, or need to run the BPS.' Comments like that made me think I'd achieved what I had been working for!

And then I recently rang up about a clin psychologist job and the consultant more or less laughed in my face. She said I need a research doc and slammed the phone down on me. I had already handed in my notice at work, and gradually working out I've been taken to be a fool. Yes I am a fool!

[Mouse_]

sorry for your pain.

[pegasus]

And that is all T said, "Sorry!"

%#@&#!!

[(JD)]

Hmmm. How do you have 2 post docs if you don't have the doc, again? Clinical psych here in USA is different from there in UK, right?

Ok...even if you go with tail between legs, go back to your job and beg to be reinstated? Tell them a big misunderstanding and stress upon your part... (we all eat crow now and then.)

And, print out the requirements from whatever site has them... and contact an advisor at University to guide you. Just because you haven't made it yet, according to them, doesn't mean you aren't well on your way and can still achieve what you ultimately want. You're young enough to give it a go!

I still think you're great, pegasus.
This has no bearing on who you really are.

[SpottedOwl]

Wow Pegasus, I'm reeling just reading this thread.
I can only imagine that it must feel like to have your whole world change so quickly.

I always try to find the positive in any situation. So, please forgive me (or ignore me) if this is not what you want to hear.

You now know the truth, which gives you more control, power, and knowledge than you've had over the last 3 years! Now you can move forward in your life, and make educated decisions. It's rather like the blindfold has been taken off, and although your eyes sting with the sudden flooding of light, once they adjust you'll be able to see everything more clearly.

Whenever I have to encounter major change, I try to remind myself that major upset leaves room for major growth. Now that my world has been rocked -- what can I do to re-assert myself as navigator of my own life?

Maybe you a degree isn't that important? Maybe there is a perfect job for you that does not require a degree? Maybe it is time to enroll in school? Maybe it is time for a career change?

The real question is: what do you want? Not what *did* you want, but what do you want right now, and in the future. Try brainstorming different options. Maybe ask friends and colleagues what ideas they might have for you.

Hang in there, and try to keep the faith in yourself!!


Owl

[pegasus]

Sky, I can't get my job back because they have already found a replacement. I was really angry with T and pointed out that I had jacked my job because I believed him and he said that people don't stay long in that sort of job anyway. That information doesn't help me either.

How did I get two post docs?.... I have no idea why they allowed me to do that!

[pegasus]

SpottedOwl thanks for your reply, at this moment and time I have had enough! I have spent years and years studying... for nothing!

All trust for my T has gone!