[lookn2bfree]

I know that I need therapy and I want it but for some unknown reason I haven't been able to make myself. I seem to be having a problem doing anything for myself. It's almost lunch and I'm still wearing the clothes I wore yesterday I haven't even brushed my hair. I don't understand whats happening to me anymore. I have no friends, and really only one family member I talk to and usually that's not often. I stay locked up at home most days and wonder if I'll even remember what I was doing an hour from now. Can anyone please offer me some advice on anything I can try to just get started. <font color="red"> </font>

[ErinBear]

Hi Lookn2BFree,

It's hard to be feeling so bad. I think you made a start, just posting here and talking about how things are going for you. That's one step. It sounds like reaching out would be a healthy thing to do, so you can start feeling better. I can think of some ways to move ahead. Do you have a primary care doctor that you see? If so, one idea might be to make an appointment to see your physician, and start there. Tell your doctor how you've been feeling....your doctor can check you over and make sure you're okay physically, and also make recommendations for counseling if that's what you'd like to do. Another idea might be to call your local telephone crisis line. They can offer support over the telephone, and also referrals for counseling in your area. I imagine they would have some good ideas. You can also keep writing here.

I hope things start looking up soon....

Take care,
ErinBear

[happysappy]

Hi, sorry you are feeling not well. It sounds like depression, but yet a lot of other things can make you feel like this too, so seeing your doctor would be a good step. Then therapy too, if you can.

Maybe try each day to one thing that you enjoy, take a baby step. Or just due one things like get dressed in the morning. I know it is hard, I have been there. But if you can accomplish at least one thing in the day, it will make you feel better. I have worked myself up to exercising each day, but that is after 3 yrs. of therapy. Good luck, with this, I am sure you will find many who have been where you are right now.

[SpottedOwl]

((lookn2bfree))

Welcome!!

I think it is great that you have posted, and by doing that you have just taken the first step to help yourself! This is a great community of people here, who understand how difficult things can be sometimes.

I find it helps to reframe things in my own mind. If I say "I HAVE to do X", then I put a bunch of pressure on myself, and if I don't do X, then I feel like I have failed.
If instead I say "I WANT to do X, when it is the right time", I set the intention, without any pressure.

So instead of saying 'I have to brush my hair', try saying 'I really want to brush my hair. It will feel nice to have the tangles out'.

Take it one step at a time. Each step is a victory, and something to celebrate -- no matter how small.

So ...congrats on your first step of posting here!!!

Sending you strength to take it one small step at a time...

[romanjames2004]

I understand what your going through. I am going through a depression and I have found that going to group Therapy really helps. In your case meeting new people who know and care about what your going though can actually help you. Depression really sucks and I know that if you just ask your doctor what could be going on he should help you the best. You could aslo see a therapist in your area by searching on the top oif this website. Good luck.

Roman

[chaotic13]

(((lookn2bfree)))
It is tough digging yourself out of the black whole. But its worth the effort. Start by just doing little things, like getting a shower and dressed before 11am whether you feel like going anywhere or not. Once you do these seemingly little things, take a minute to pat your self on the back (reward yourself) and acknowledge your progress. The more little things you do the better you feel and you get more energy and will power to keep moving.

Welcome to PC

[Simcha]

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romanjames2004 said:
I understand what your going through. I am going through a depression and I have found that going to group Therapy really helps. In your case meeting new people who know and care about what your going though can actually help you. Depression really sucks and I know that if you just ask your doctor what could be going on he should help you the best. You could aslo see a therapist in your area by searching on the top oif this website. Good luck.

Roman

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Is group therapy strange... or does it become natural quite easily?
I had a friend who went to a PTSD group (at the VA, blagh!). It would have worked if the so-called "therapist" would shut up. LOL

I heard of ADHD support groups (I have ADHD). I don't know how that would work though, with all of us getting derailed and off-topic. And us hyperactive-impulsive variety... wowsers, you do NOT want us all in the same room together. It's like an atomic bomb on countdown!