Seeing new T next week

And he's male and I'm petrified. Some of you know what happened to me the last time I saw a male therapist. I'm not going to re-hash it because it is upsetting to so many here.

Next Thursday. Man oh man, I'm already nervous. I chose a male because I'm hoping it will help me get over my fears. Myabe I'll even be posting about erotic transference down the road!

But, I doubt it.....
Best,
Okie

Oh good luck with everything - i really hope it works out this time!!! I'd be petrified, too. You have a lot of courage to face your fears in this way!!!
Hope it goes really, really well!!!
Kiya

How brave of you to see a male therapist. I hope to hear how wonderful he is and how compatible the two of you are. Have a good session!

BB

I hope your new T puts you at ease and feels like a good fit. Please let us know how it goes if you wish to share that.

Good luck with your new therapist, okie. You are brave to try a male, when you have so many reservations due to your past experience. When I first went to a therapist almost 3 years ago, I went to a woman. I felt unable to go to a man because of my experience with a man who had betrayed my trust and treated me poorly for years. So I went to a woman, who was fine, but later changed to a man for other reasons (his expertise was what I needed). I was apprehensive about going to see a male T but it has turned out to be really, really healing. He's been helpful to me in many ways, but to have a male basically be nice to me, respectful of me, and warm and caring has just been so healing. It's like by his actions he has made me not so gunshy of men... Best of luck to you. I hope you will let us know how it goes.

Hello,

I just want to give you some good thoughts for your new T. I too had issues with a male T I had years ago. But I went to a male Pdoc and worked thru many of my issues. I'm with a female T right now.

Good luck and let us know how you are doing.

Okie,
Good luck with your new T! I had a few female Ts but never got into the deep issues. Yes, it is more painful with a male T, but I suspect tapping these strong emotions is the only way to get rid of them. Take care and let us know how it goes!