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#101
Aug 09, 2015, 12:43 AM
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I'm 23 and I honestly would not be comfortable with a therapist younger than 30. It doesn't have anything to do with having experience as a therapist but more about self-awareness and life experience that I think a lot of people in their 20s lack. Just my personal opinion though.
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#102
Aug 09, 2015, 03:33 AM
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T1 was 57 and I guess T2 is about 60ish. When I first looked for a T I was looking exclusively for a man over 50. Now I am a bit more open minded and would probably consider a man or a woman over 40 in the future. I am 30.
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#103
Aug 09, 2015, 05:28 AM
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I definitely wanted a female, and a bit older than me, but not too old...I think I need someone older cos there's a lot if child stuff to work through and that happens more naturally with someone slightly maternal.
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#104
Aug 09, 2015, 08:14 AM
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Mine is about the same age as I am, maybe a little younger and I'm 63
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#105
Aug 09, 2015, 08:48 AM
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I learned a few years ago the hard way that the younger Ts just don't have the experience to be able to handle me. I shocked actually shocked some of the younger ones who had no clue how to deal with a crisis and it made me feel like an absolute freak and hopeless. I made 40 a minimum age but have been gravitating to Ts who are 50+. (I'm now 35). I also realized I needed a female therapist to go into some things and one with specialized trainings and a variety of tools to pull from. Current T I actually adore and have never felt that way about a T before. I don't dread seeing her when I always dreaded and hated sessions in the past. She actually gets why I act the way I do and while we both agree it's not always best she can handle it.
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#106
Aug 09, 2015, 08:53 AM
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I prefer a T in the same stage of life as myself. I'm 52, so I'm looking for someone who is around my age or a bit older (can't get too much older without needing to retire
 ). Someone who has been married, raised kids, dealing with aging parents, etc. Sitting down with a young T who has never been married or whose kids are still quite small or no kids at all would probably be useless. Some things you really do have to have a bit of life experience with.
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#107
Aug 09, 2015, 03:24 PM
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mine is actually couple years younger than me. early 30s.....his kids are younger than mine. but we relate on some level...both been married for about the same number of years also.
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#108
May 07, 2016, 02:09 AM
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#109
May 07, 2016, 10:50 AM
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HI!!!!!
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#110
May 07, 2016, 03:08 PM
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My T is around 30 (maybe late 20s) and I am 19. I like that we are relatively close in age, if she were much older I would likely have intense maternal transference but instead I just have a desire to be her friend. We're both in college (me undergrad and her finishing up PhD) so I like that she can relate to me and understand when I talk about school. I don't know how I would feel having a much older therapist. To be quite honest, I don't really like old people, lol
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#111
May 07, 2016, 03:21 PM
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My T is in his 60's, I'm in my 40's. I had a T younger than me at one point, and she was someone I really felt was more friend material. I need an older T.
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#112
May 07, 2016, 07:01 PM
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I started therapy when I was 27. I am 53 years old now. My Ts were all about 15 to 20 years older than me. The last Therapist I had for 7 years was a year younger than me which was awkward at times but she was very wise. The therapist I have now is in her early 30s. I don't feel she is very experienced and she doesn't like to talk. I am on the fence about whether or not I am going to keep her.
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#113
May 07, 2016, 07:08 PM
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T is 10 yrs older...he's 39. And yet I want him to be my dad
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#114
May 07, 2016, 08:01 PM
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I'm not sure of my T's age, but I've made a simple guess between 24-28 based on her just getting her degree. It was brought up once during a session but she never confirmed it. I'm 22, so the small age gap helps me in the sense that I see her as a friend and a therapist.
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#115
May 07, 2016, 08:10 PM
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I finally decided to ask her several months ago, she is 12 years older than me. That reminds me, her birthday is this month, but I don't know which day. I suppose I shall wish her a happy birth month when I see her again a week from today.
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#116
May 07, 2016, 08:30 PM
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If I had a T who was closer to my age, I feel as though I would relate more with todays news, styles, and things like that. But I'm happy with my T's age because I usually see older T's as those who have experienced life and know more/wisdom and give different advice since theyve been there too. |
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#117
May 08, 2016, 12:57 PM
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My therapist was six years older than me. I was 53 and she 59. I would not be able to make use of a therapist that is younger than me to do in-depth therapy. And, no one under 40 for the simpler things. I need someone that has hopefully experienced a bit of life, and that usually comes with age.
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#118
May 08, 2016, 02:48 PM
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We're almost the same age.
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#119
May 08, 2016, 03:59 PM
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My t is 25 years older than me and sometimes the age gap is too much. I feel she is disconnected from the world around her. She doesn't understand my life and often because she is older thinks she knows best. My clients have been younger than me, in their twenties bar one who is a lady in her forties, we worked well together. She mentioned my age a few times and that I was younger than her but she didnt mind because we understood each other at a soul level.
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#120
May 08, 2016, 05:44 PM
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This tread started back in 2008. Must be the longest ever. Mine is older. Can't imagine someone younger at this point
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#121
May 09, 2016, 04:58 AM
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I'm 31 and mine is about 55, I worked it out through linkin by when she finished college. She has kids just a bit younger than me.
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#122
May 09, 2016, 07:58 AM
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Mine is almost 5 years older than me. I hope she doesn't retire any time soon.
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#123
May 09, 2016, 11:20 AM
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Mine is about the age of my daughter. Never really thought about it before.
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#124
May 09, 2016, 12:52 PM
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I think age is very important. I'm in my 30s and I'd never see anyone younger than me, unless it was for a specific type of CBT or DBT type therapy. Other than that, I can't see how someone in their 20s would have enough life experience.
My pDoc is in his 70s.
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#125
May 09, 2016, 03:16 PM
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My therapist is 7 years younger than I am. And it was a bit weird at first when I started seeing her. At that time I thought she was much younger than I was, at the time I was in my early 40s and she looked to be in her early/mid 20s, didn't seem as weird once I found out she was quite a bit older than she appeared to be, and thus was more experienced and the age gap wasn't nearly as large as I first thought.
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