do you email yr T?

I e-mailed my old therapist just because I was madly in love with her...I haven't e-mailed my new therapist because we see each other once a week

If I was a therapist I wouldn't do e-mails...just my opinion

then again I probably couldn't be a therapist because I don't use cellular phones...never have, never will....I wouldnt be much help in an emergency

My T gave me permission to use email between sessions. In doing so, she never committed her to providing replies, but she does print them out so we can discuss them during the next session. She has been good about replying when I indicate I would like a reply. I think she has made it pretty clear that email, is not something she wants me to depend on, but she has accepted that it is the only way that I can sometimes get stuff out. This option has been very important in my therapy--from my perspective.

exactly! same here.

Same here, for SURE.

But I also agree with Kiya - those e-mails can come back to get you. Eeek.

I think a lot of things share have come back to get me. But I guess its better to happen in therapy than elsewhere.

yeah.... like my last email from last week. She read every single word of it back to me. UGH. That's a first with her. Usually she picks out only one part. I knew this one would be hard but not THAT hard. @_@

Touchy subject for me, lol. I took a huge risk asking T if I could email him because I knew that he did not do email. He doesn't even have a computer in his office. He granted my request since he knows the importance of writing for me, and the difference between my candidness and expression in writing verses verbal communication.

So he created an email account on his home computer just for me to send him email. I absolutely loved this because so much was able to come out in my writing that we could later process in session. (Unfortunately I also said a lot of mortifying things that are now forever stated in writing, lol). We came to an understanding that he wouldn't always reply, but he would always read. When he did reply, I really appreciated it. I really valued his replies, and some of them are just priceless because my T has a very unique use of the English language, lol.

Then the rules changed. I see my T at an agency. The agency made two new policies due to the fact that they want communication kept internal, in case anything happens. Policy #1 is no outside email accounts. He can create an agency email account, but I don't think he is allowed to respond. Policy #2 is that I can still call him on his cell phone to see if he'll pick up, but I can't leave a message (don't really care about that change of policy cause I never left msgs on there anyway).

T still hasn't given me his work email address, but he has continued to permit me to email him at his personal email address with the understanding that he can't respond.

Well that recently got screwed up because his dog chewed through the ****ing computer cable so even if I do email him, he has no access to it.

So yeah, the whole email thing is an issue for me because it was huge way of me staying connected with him, and I can't help but feel as though something was taken away.

I know that once I get his work email address, I can email him (I think), and it will still feel good-- because another reason that I email him is to remind myself that he is still there; that he does in fact exist-- because to email him means that he is out there-- I am writing to him... so he must be constant.

My T will not e-mail and hates to text. She says a lot is "lost" in that form of communication. She prefers face-to-face, but does have a voice mail where I can leave messages.

I can email T but I have to leave a backup message to let her know to look for the email. We had a brief problem that her email program liked to send mine to her junk file and then she didn't recognize my email addy cos I use one that is not intuitative for most people. Now that we have solved those problems I just have to let her know it is there so she gets to it.

I do have a limit on contacts - six a month. I have not used that many yet and often go without using any. It is still difficult for me to reach out unless I am in crisis.

Yes. His office has a website, so our first communication was via email. His email addy is on his business card. I often find myself sending one email after a session...some thought I had on the way home usually.

He is really good at know what needs a reply and what doesn't. I'm really glad he let's me do this. I try not to go overboard, and try to be respectful of his time.

Slippers

My T has an email too, and I use it frequently. It's how he knows how I am really feeling and when I don't use it, he worries sometimes. It is an integral part of our relationship, and it means a lot to me.

Mary Alice

My T doesn't e-mail, nor does he do phone calls. The one time I had to call him, for an emergency session, we were both strictly business--we set up the appointment and that was it.

This, strangely, is a good setup for me. I say 'strangely' because normally I prefer to communicate intimate details via writing, not verbally. But I like that my relationship with T is all face-to-face, because he can read me so well. I think we'd both get a lot less out of our communication if it wasn't face to face.