[anna342]

Does anyone else keep an eye out for their T or equivalent when they are out in town or other places?

I know mine goes to some of the same places as me, and I'm not looking out in hope I see him, more in worry that he's around. I'm not sure what I'm scared of, maybe knowing what to say if others are around.

Yes! I was just on his side of town today and I kind of had my eye out for him. I used to be terrified of running into him in public - now I am kind of curious to see what his family looks like.

He drove by me once in his car and I was like "AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!". It was super weird to see him existing outside of the office. He has offered to go outside for a walk during therapy before and it just feels TOO weird to me that he can exist outside of that room.

[gimmeice]

Yes, I have worried about this in fact I discussed this with my T and we decided that we would say hi if we saw each other out and depending on the situation we may be able to have a conversation. Though I still think that it would be odd to see her out and about, I would probably freeze up and not even be able to say hi to her.

[ECHOES]

I don't keep an eye out but I have been worried lately about this. What if I did see her in public. I don't want to.
Which I know really means What if she sees me, period. That is my push/pull in therapy... wanting to be seen and heard and not wanting to be seen at all.

That said, if I saw her in public I would not offer or expect more than a polite and slight smile, if anything.

[Simcha]

Originally Posted by anna342

Does anyone else keep an eye out for their T or equivalent when they are out in town or other places?

I know mine goes to some of the same places as me, and I'm not looking out in hope I see him, more in worry that he's around. I'm not sure what I'm scared of, maybe knowing what to say if others are around.

My T knows a few of the same people that I know/knew. They were all acquaintances and not friends or anything (that would be creepy). We don't travel in the same social circles or anything. It is actually unusual that my T and I would know so many of the same acquaintances and places. I would find it uncomfortable with anyone other than my current T, but it's really helpful

However, because of the unique circumstances I am in I have found that his inner knowledge of the people and places in my life actually have been therapeutic. I deal with some complex situations so knowledge of certain key people and places is beneficial for me as it creates greater understanding for the problems I deal with. He is better able to help that way. It's cool. If I saw my T out and about somewhere, I probably wouldn't say hi or anything unless he saw me and we were both by ourselves. I'm not scared of seeing T out and about, but I don't want to make either myself or T uncomfortable with knowledge of what should be personal or what have you.

One time without either of our knowledge, T and I were both out of town at the exact same place at the exact same time. We did not see each other and it was both really funny to find out in session that we had both spent our time over the weekend doing the exact same things at the exact same place, in a different city hundreds of miles away. Weird!

[deliquesce]

my T practices about 10min walk from my uni. he also studied and taught there, so he knows heaps of my current professors. sometimes this is fun, but at other times i wish he didnt know who they were - because i develop quite close relationships with some of them and i sometimes want to talk about stuff that i can't because it would be breaking their right to privacy.

one day i was in the library and was waiting behind someone in the queue and swore it was my T. i ran and hid behind the bookshelves . turned out it wasn't him, but what a strong reaction!

i dont know where my pdoc lives but he practices 10mins away from my old high school . if i was to ever run into him i'd be happy to wave hello and maybe chat a bit.

my t lives the next town over from me but we shop in alot of the same stores. i've never seen her in any of them but honestly i do try and shop when i know she's working...i figure the woman needs her privacy.

she did see me once...i drive a large bright, distinctive (okay..ugly) van and i was waiting to make a turn onto another street...she was on that street waiting to make a turn onto my street...i didn't notice her at all...the next session she said i saw you...i only said..."geez i hoped i wasn't doing something stupid like singing at the top of my lungs or cursing at you!"

she helped me find a gym to join and even suggested i look at hers. i found one which is cheaper but between the grocery store and her gym (like 3 minutes between all 3...ah suburbia) ...i told her i wouldn't have joined her gym anyway because i valued her privacy. we talked about that and she said she knew i wouldn't disturb her and such....but then i told her the REAL reason...that i would feal she would be stalking ME...following me around watching me work out mouth all agape at my prowess in the gym (okay i'm short, fat nand haven't been to the gym in a million years...).

i'd like to think i would have a conversation with her and not run screaming all panicked from wherever if i saw her someplace. truth is..don't know...hasn't happened yet...unless of course i resort to my old standby...her stalking me.

[xivella]

I actually talked to my T about this once. I live and go to school in the downtown area of a large city, and her office is a 2 minute walk from my room. I complained once because I'm insecure.. about an old T that I see around my home town quite often.. and how she never says hello and acts like she doesn't even know me at all. My current T says that that is the norm for some Ts because they don't want to create an awkward situation for their clients. She also said that she usually asks people if it's okay to speak with them if they bump into each other in public, and based on their answer, she either says hello or doesn't. That said, it's really all up to you, and what you're comfortable with. Hope this helps
Ella

[MINIME]

I saw my T at a bank. It was fine. We said hi. It seems scarier then it is.

[I_WMD]

LOL....I pulled up along side one of my * T *s' once and had him pull over ... We both approached each other >> shook hands >> quick guy hug ,, did the " How ya doing " stuff ,, where ya headed to ,, Take it easy >>> Good to see ya !
Bye .

[ ...but I did find out why he was always sitting in his chair ...... He HAS a tail !!!!!!!!!... ]

Just kidding .... hehe.

[OliviaC]

I live in the same town as my psychologist, probably less than 3 miles away, and yes I do worry about possibly meeting her in the grocery store or somewhere else. I feel it would be very awkward but I would just say Hi I guess. Don't know what else I could do or say!

My T and I don't even live in the same state. That doesn't mean he couldn't be doing something in the city, but it's a big city. I seriously doubt I would ever run into him.

One thing I have been wondering about, though: At the career/schooling point at which I am currently at-- I am starting to go to more workshops/conferences, etc. I am going to see Nancy McWilliams 3x this year. What if I saw T at a workshop? I would die. I would leave. I would throw up.

Yeah. Real mature.

Not going to seriously worry about it, though, unless it actually happens.

[Brian37]

I pass my old therapist on the way home every few days...her red Volvo station wagon isnt hard to spot....I usually flip her off but she never sees it

My new therapist lives about 4 miles from my house believe it or not...so im sure we will cross paths eventually...of course I would make a huge scene if it was a public place

"hey Janis....it's Brian...thanks for all the help...I no longer dream about having wild sex with you...say hi to your hubby!"

[ECHOES]

....I usually flip her off but she never sees it

duh---next time, lay on the horn first!! lol

[I_WMD]

One thing I have been wondering about, though: At the career/schooling point at which I am currently at-- I am starting to go to more workshops/conferences, etc. I am going to see Nancy McWilliams 3x this year. What if I saw T at a workshop? I would die. I would leave. I would throw up.

Yeah. Real mature.

Not going to seriously worry about it, though, unless it actually happens.


hehe....LOL .... P!nk >>...You are somethingelse ....and you do Make me laugh ,, in such a cool way .... ....ya Special Cool Kid .

[hangingon]

After my third session with my last T, I was eating lunch at Panera bread and down the isle walks T, she sat at the table right next to my sister and I. As soon as I looked over and noticed, I was panicked.

I kept thinking please, please, don't say hi to me. I was sweating up a storm lol. It would have been hard to explain to my sister as she had no idea I was in therapy because my family pretty much doesn't believe in therapy. I told no one about it when I first started.

My T must have looked over and noticed I was sitting right in front of her because after about a minute she got up and moved to a seat that was not facing us. I guess she knew I would be really nervous eating right there in front of her. I of course pretended I had not seen her at all.

Yeh, it was pretty nerve racking especially because I had just started seeing her and had never even thought of going to therapy before seeing her.

I saw my T at a restaurant. It was on a day we did a LOT of emailing back and forth. It was a really BAD day and then we ran into her. One of my littles popped out and hollered her name. They thought it was the BEST thing EVER to see her. She asked us at our next session "Did you see my husband and my little boy? They were a few feet ahead of me!" We didn't. I thought it was cool she liked seeing us as much as we did her, and had hoped we saw people that were important to her.

One time I saw my T at the public pool. It sucked because we were both wearing bathing suits.

hahahaaaaaaaaa I'm lying, I'm out of my mind right now.

[deliquesce]

Originally Posted by stormyangels

I saw my T at a restaurant. It was on a day we did a LOT of emailing back and forth. It was a really BAD day and then we ran into her. One of my littles popped out and hollered her name. They thought it was the BEST thing EVER to see her. She asked us at our next session "Did you see my husband and my little boy? They were a few feet ahead of me!" We didn't. I thought it was cool she liked seeing us as much as we did her, and had hoped we saw people that were important to her.

this is the best thing ever. thank you for sharing. i had a little giggle at your littles hollering out to her - i can relate to that excitement! and so neat that she wanted you to see her hubby and kid.