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I agree with you Chaotic13 I think my motive is to open that door so that during my therapy I can feel more open since it is out on the table.
It will be difficult to walk in there next week, but I have to do it for me. Thanks |
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![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ((((Sannah))))---Im nervous ((((EM))))---Thanks!....again....Im nervous to go back now. I keep thinking she's going to be angry with me ![]() (((Sitting)))--thanks! I don't know if that was courageous though LOL...I called with the intention of NOT speaking directly to her. My impulse was to hang up the phone after she said "oh this is T" ![]() ((((Reflection)))--Thank you so much for letting me know that my current bumpy ride will hopefully be met with relatively smooth one once I get a tad older.....I am going to try to open up to her little by little....not much just a little ![]() Del12 ![]() Thanks everyone! |
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![]() ![]() While I don't have much else to add except that you ARE very brave to reschedule...I just remembered that I used to call and cancel on my T all of the time for the first 6 months I was in therapy. It was a more ambilvelant sort of cancelling, but I would do it so much. She was so patient with me through all that... Just know you are not alone ![]()
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Hi Lifelesstravelled,
we and I say we because there are a lot of us as you have seen - maybe WE are the majority and the others are the ones with the problmes LOL ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() getting into heavy stuff just before you leave is not a good idea - im glad you stuck to your guns about that - you have to look after you - and ending up on a difficult thing just before you leave.... well its just wrong! Im glad you re-scheduled your appointment - and it was brave! but then you are! ![]()
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What I found amazing about my major therapy disconnect last summer was how my T handled it. Although I wish she had called me before I when back, I thought I owed it to myself to have closure and dragged myself back. In hindsight this was important for ME to do for myself.
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When is your appointment LLT? let us support you till then
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts ![]() its how many times you get back up! ![]() ![]() (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture ![]() When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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Thanks P7--It's on the 4th of March. I am really scared though. I dont know why LOL. When I was sitting on the couch at my last appt. It almost felt like T was yelling me at or getting ready to. I could feel my insides start to shake. My heart started pounding....it was bananas! I know she wasn't yelling or getting ready to, she was just trying to push me, which I completely understand NOW, but I didnt when I was sitting in her office. I felt so small and walked out vowing to never go back. But even knowing she was just trying to push me and she wasn't at all trying to hurt me I am still scared to go back--which is ridiculous. I dont know what my problem is. But I have been working on the HW she has been assigning me since I started with her(that I have been procrastinating on)---I guess I feel like i need to some how "make up" for screwing up ![]() |
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its not ridiculous - this is tough stuff and you are brave for even steping into a therapists office - let alone talking when you are there - dont be so hard on yourself
![]() Glad you are doing your HW - we must be related - procrastination is my middle name! ![]() take care P7 ![]() ![]() ![]()
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts ![]() its how many times you get back up! ![]() ![]() (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture ![]() When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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Don't blame yourself! I did with my first T and it took some work to get over it. I am finding therapy is a process and sometimes there are break throughs and everything goes along as we think it should and then we hit a wall or a snag and we go backwards a bit. I think any good T knows this and probably expects there are ups and there are downs. Hang in there and do your homework because it will help not because you feel you screw-up. I'll be thinking of you.
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I don't know if it's necessary - it just seems like it DOES happen. T always helps me unravel it when it does - to separate "now" from "then" - but it seems like the fact that it happens is just out of our control. ??
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I agree. it's probably not necessary, but I don't think there is a way to avoid it. I think it's good that it happens in therapy so you know how to deal with it when/if it happens IRL. Now I am going to have to go into T and explain what happened ![]() ![]() |
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I think your T will treat it as a learning experience and how good is it that you can discuss it with T - thats progress
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts ![]() its how many times you get back up! ![]() ![]() (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture ![]() When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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LLLT, hang in there. One of two things will happen. Either you have a great session where you and your T collaborate and adjust how therapy is done from here on out. Or..you find yourself at an empass and you'll know for sure that you don't want to continue with this T. Both outcomes are positive. The first you get to continue to work through your issues with someone who is willing to work WITH you. The second, you will have closure. You won't be left wondering...did I really give T a chance, did I run, bah...bah...bah..
Like P7 said we can help ya hang in there until the 4th.
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Now why do you feel that you screwed up?????????? You don't want her to feel bad? Who is the client here?
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And maybe why people fight it??????? It is up to the therapist to make it safe though and to help the client with this so that they can feel in control and empowered and safe.
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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That's just the critical point.
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Now if thou would'st When all have given him o'er From death to life Thou might'st him yet recover -- Michael Drayton 1562 - 1631 |
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I feel like I am doing this whole therapy thing wrong or Im not pushing myself as hard as T wants me to/I have been procrastinating/completely unable to open up to her and now i think she's probably frustrated with me. I haven't made any real progress...granted I have only been in therapy since mid-end October, but still...I feel like she thinks something should've changed/improved by now and it hasn't...I haven't. I always feel soo panicky if I don't do things right the first time and then scurry to make up for messing up in the hopes that they will look past the initial screw up? ... ![]() As far as not wanting T to feel bad: i understand i am the client, but I dont want her to feel bad that she made me feel extremely panicky or that I thought she was getting ready to yell at me. I dont want her to feel like she has to tip toe around me so as not to make me feel like my legs are dangling off the couch again. I would actually prefer it that she didn't tip toe around me. |
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![]() ![]() ![]() Something you did as a child to cope with your situation? Quote:
Many of us here grew up meeting the needs of others while our needs were neglected. Do you think that you might still be in this mode of taking care of her needs over your own? We all had to learn to break this cycle..........
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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yep, im seeing my? a ? dunno - seeing a pdoc for the 2nd time next week and i have to tell her that somthing she said triggered me - see I have been working on that - not saying SHE triggered me but that a WORD triggered me - have been thinking a lot about that so that she doesnt have to tip toe around me either - and doesnt feel bad for setting me off - not that I really think she would - I think she would see it as a doorway opening to something rather than closing.
I cycle through the "I should be better than this" and "why cant i just get it right and be fixed/healed" thoughts - I try to remember it takes as long as it takes and I am doing the best I can - I think you are doing the best you can too - take care ![]()
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts ![]() its how many times you get back up! ![]() ![]() (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture ![]() When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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that is really great - well done!
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts ![]() its how many times you get back up! ![]() ![]() (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture ![]() When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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(((((((((((((((del12)))))))))))))))))))))))
Tired but good is a good way to leave therapy. I'm so glad you had a good session ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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