[Simcha]

(((((((((((((((((everyone))))))))))))))))))))

For those who don't know---which is everyone except for YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE---I've been having a rough time lately with my health (nothing like cancer or anything) and in my personal life, which has been pretty much turned upside down. My sister went to prison for drug abuse, my engagement ended--badly--, and I've had other major life events lately. My mother has been in the process of adopting my sister's three little kids (both my sister and the baby's father went to prison on lengthy sentences for Schedule II drug dealing and usage). I was dismissed from school for missing too many days due to said health problem, of which now I have to petition to get back in (even with doctors letters because my school administration sucks). Yep, it's been a lot. I feel like the last thing I should say is how my dog got run over by a car or something (he didn't! lol) else drastic!

A rough time a lot of months now that have culminated into one giant mess. I just didn't realize how much it was all affecting me until I ended up in the hospital ER a couple of times with severe allergic reactions. Yeah, more than once. I've got a thick head. Anyway, I'm much better. Certainly not back to my old normal, but much better. I went to session on Thursday and actually ALMOST CRIED. Maybe I did cry a drop. Well, that's a big thing for me. I don't cry in session, and haven't for the two years I've seen my T. It shows that in crisis I felt comfortable enough with him to do that. Actually expressed emotions instead of just telling him stuff.

[Christina86]

(((((((((((Simcha))))))))))))))) I'm sorry things are so rough in your life right now! Sounds like you're dealing with a lot. I'm glad you trust T enough to be able to share with him and have him support you and be able to "deal" with your emotions!

[deliquesce]

oh ((((((simcha)))))))).

i had no idea any of this was going on . will send chicken soup and home made cookies over, pronto.

and good on you for allowing yourself to express emotion in therapy!! with my ****** ex-T, i think i cried every session and didnt give a damn. with pdoc, whom i love dearly, i think the most i've done is blinked a bit because um, 'something got stuck in my eye' .

did your T notice at all? make any comment on it? this is something to be celebrated.

(((((((((((((((((((((((Big Sam)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Go, you!! How awesome that you went and FELT what you are feeling with T, instead of "reporting". That's how we heal.

HANG IN THERE, you After darkness, there is always light.

[chaotic13]

Simcha, it would be nice to know I could cry is I wanted to. Still working on that--I still think it is funny how many of us want to be able to cry. You spend a childhood learning to control something, then have to spend adulthood relearning how not to control it.

BTW...if I ever cry in therapy I hope the the heck my T knows enough to ignore it. How brutal would it be to have to talk about why you cried. Ouch!

[sunrise]

(((((Simcha))))) You have had a rough hand dealt you recently. I'm so glad you have your therapist for support and are comfortable enough to cry with him.

[MissCharlotte]

((((((simcha))))))

You are a very very brave and courageous person.

It took me over a year to cry at T's. Now I cry at the mention of anything remotely sad. LOL

Keep going, keep crying, keep sharing.

[Simcha]

Originally Posted by chaotic13

Simcha, it would be nice to know I could cry is I wanted to. Still working on that--I still think it is funny how many of us want to be able to cry. You spend a childhood learning to control something, then have to spend adulthood relearning how not to control it.

BTW...if I ever cry in therapy I hope the the heck my T knows enough to ignore it. How brutal would it be to have to talk about why you cried. Ouch!

My T didn't mention it, but he did notice it and kept me about ten minutes after session.

I'm glad my T didn't mention it. I think something so obvious doesn't need mentioning really. I probably would have been pissed if he mentioned it.
My T knows better. I think asking why should be done only if it's not obvious--like maybe you start to cry right at the beginning of session and don't say what's wrong. I think they know what's wrong in most cases, and to ask why would feel like a kick in the stomach.

[Simcha]

Originally Posted by sunrise

(((((Simcha))))) You have had a rough hand dealt you recently. I'm so glad you have your therapist for support and are comfortable enough to cry with him.

I don't know how comfortable it was, but that's because I'm a very closed person so to speak...I also don't like crying, especially around women---glad my T is a guy.

I do feel like I have my T for support, which is why I could cry.

[Simcha]

Originally Posted by MissCharlotte

((((((simcha))))))

You are a very very brave and courageous person.

It took me over a year to cry at T's. Now I cry at the mention of anything remotely sad. LOL

Keep going, keep crying, keep sharing.

I know people a lot braver, but I put them to good use as inspiration.

[Simcha]

Originally Posted by earthmama

(((((((((((((((((((((((Big Sam)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Go, you!! How awesome that you went and FELT what you are feeling with T, instead of "reporting". That's how we heal.

HANG IN THERE, you After darkness, there is always light.

Yeah, a certain degree of "reporting" is necessary, but it can get redundant if you don't really share how you feel about it.

[Simcha]

Originally Posted by deliquesce

oh ((((((simcha)))))))).

i had no idea any of this was going on . will send chicken soup and home made cookies over, pronto.

and good on you for allowing yourself to express emotion in therapy!! with my ****** ex-T, i think i cried every session and didnt give a damn. with pdoc, whom i love dearly, i think the most i've done is blinked a bit because um, 'something got stuck in my eye' .

did your T notice at all? make any comment on it? this is something to be celebrated.

I'm pretty good at sizing people up these days. I don't reveal things at the drop of a hat... trust is earned, not freely given. Titles mean shciteeeee
zippo!! I would have kicked your former T in the freaking nuts just to see if he had a pair! TRUST IS EARNED---I wish that certain T's would follow that maxim instead of going around like a chicken with their head cut off, going in circles but really going nowhere...

Wait, did you say COOKIES?????????????????????

[imapatient]

....Other than that, Mrs. Lincoln, how did you enjoy the play?

Wow. Had no idea you had so many tough things going on concurrently.

Originally Posted by Simcha

I don't know how comfortable it was, but that's because I'm a very closed person so to speak...I also don't like crying, especially around women---glad my T is a guy.

Originally Posted by Simcha

I do feel like I have my T for support, which is why I could cry.

I don't cry easily or often, and in therapy it was with a F T (13 of my 17 years of individual was with her; 4 years with M). The one time I cried with a male T was after our final session; I was moving away and couldn't continue--and was in very bad shape. I can't imagine crying with a male T otherwise, not that I'd comfortable no matter what.

It sounds like a very good experience for you.

[mixedup_emotions]

You certainly do have a lot on your plate at the moment.....when it rains, it pours....and it's a monsoon over here too!

My T used to be our marriage counselor 6 months ago. For the 2 sessions that we went to marriage counseling, I didn't shed a tear....but the very first individual appt I had with my T a couple weeks ago, and I cried more than once. I knew I had a lot of pent up emotions but I never thought the flood gates would let loose so quickly.....I had trouble making any kind of eye contact for a while after crying, that's for sure.

((((((((((((((((simcha))))))))))))))

so sorry about all the crap you're dealing with. that can't be easy. woo hoo to you for crying in therapy! i don't like to cry in front of others but i have cried plenty in therapy before. i always feel so much better afterwards. i guess it's really quite natural and what we were meant to do. who knew?!