Well, I finally did it. I told the ex that she needed to move out now. I gave her till Friday to find a temporary place to crash and told her that I'd help her this weekend to get her stuff moved into storage. The way things are going right now is going to cost us any kind of friendship that we could salvage from the wreckage. We've been friends for 3 years and lovers for another 3 years and that's too much history to blow it over petty crap. She very much wants to stay and see that I get through until October when I move home, but I've decided that I don't need her to hold me up. It's time I stand on my own and face the world and my inner demons. The warrior in me has been resurrected and I'm gonna do this alone. I haven't been alone in years cause I always had a gf or roommates so some alone time will be good for me. There's a sadness in this decision but also a relief. It's high time I got some closure. It's over.

Ry

[mel020377]

You go Ryan. Stand up for yourself!!!!! You can do it!!!!!
Remember you have friends if you need them

[Dolfin]

Bravo, dear friend. I know this wasn't an easy decision to come to, but I am glad you finally made it. And, you are not alone. You have all of us here to lean on if you need it.

HUGE Hugz and Much Love,
Jenn

Thanks ((((((((((Melissa)))))))))). You've come to be a dear friend in about 3 seconds and I appreciate your support more than you'll ever know.

Ry

(((((((((((Jenn))))))))))

Thanks sweet heart. Believe me, there's gonna be times in the months to come when I'm gonna have to lean on someone. And I know you and many others will be there for me. Love ya.

Ry

you, go, guy, go!!!!! you're the one!!

[Wants2Fly]

Hi Ryan --

I said it before -- I don't know how you coulda done this for as long as you have. We're all different of course, and relationships are different, too.

Good for you for taking care of yourself.

[downsolong]

Ryan ,
It may have taken you a long time to come to your decision but it sure sounds like you have sprung it on her to me, idk.
Seems like rather short notice for an eviction to me. What is a reasonable time, and what's legally required of landlords?
Hope it works out for both of ya.
~Down

[silver_queen]

Ryan, I think it's a good idea with you finally ordering her to move out. I know she's caused you a lot of stress over the winter. However, I do agree with down in that it is rather a short notice for her to find a place. You posted it yesterday (Wednesday), and Friday is tomorrow. How easily can firm accommodation plans be made in a couple of days? Unless she has already found a place, of course...

[oksomaybeimnuts]

((((((((Ryan)))))))))

[kimmydawn]

the warrior prince. now, i REALLY like that.

ryan, you're amazing me. remember, walk slowly, drink plenty of water and carry a big stick.

love,

kd

[SpazKatt]

*hugs* painful, but heathly good step VERY proud of you!

[January]

Dearest Twin,

I want you to be well. I want you to be happy whatever it takes. I've always got your back.

Jan

[neri]

i'm sending u tons of luck for this new... era!!

Youre in my thoughts, i hope it all goes well, and you are gonna love being by yourself, the remote control is yours and you can walk around naked for as much as u want!

wuv u!!

Well, I haven't updated in a while. Down is right. It was a bit hasty. Some things that are too drawn out to go into have happened. I've offered her 3 options. 1... get out now and put stuff in storage. 2... accept a 30 day eviction notice. That way it's official. 3... stay till October and pay rent. After the things that happened, I'll be able to handle the situation if she decides to stay. She's got till Tuesday to decide. If she stays, she'll be paying rent to me the whole time. Anyway, thanks for the input. I think the hand was a little TOO firm. Still have a firm one but not a brutal one. Tuesday's the deadline. Then it's pay up or move out.

Ry

[mamangieh]

Ryan you are doing the best thing for you and her, she needs to learn boundries
Love ya
Angie (nothemama)

[vacantangel]

So Ry, I haven't heard, which option did she pick? You know that I'll always be here for you!!! Love ya bunches my BESTEST friend!!!

((((((((((((((( Ry ))))))))))))))

Not sure angel... turns out the guy had taken 2 weeks so it'll be next mon or tues. I'll post when i hear something

[vacantangel]

Confused Ry. What guy?

[silver_queen]

(((((((((((((((Ryan)))))))))))))))

I hope it's all sorted out to your satisfaction somehow.

Angel, the guy is a friend from her work. Just someone in need of a roommate.

Ry

[jmo531]

Ryan,

I am sorry that your going through a difficult period with your ex. Situations like that are never easy. Especially when deep feelings are involved. I know a little about your situation and I think it took a tremendous amount of courage to make the decision you made. Be proud of yourself. I know you may feel that you were a little harsh but you cant let the ex get the best of you. Putting your foot down was the best option in this situation. I am proud of you and you should be also. Please keep us posted. Take care.

Thanks so much Jen. I'll definately keep yall posted. Should only be another week at the most before a decision is made. I will say that Jenn (my ex) has let me go out with her and her friends a couple times lately and it's felt SOOOOOOOOOOO good to get out and have fun. I might be going out tonight as well. But I'm cool with whatever happens to happen.

Ry

[Dolfin]

Just one word of advice....only YOU are your own worst enemy. I'm glad you are getting out and socializing, but just keep that in mind (and with the ex's, regression is hard to deny sometimes...*sigh*)

I know things will work out as they should, and just know, you have one of you biggest cheerleaders right here!

Love ya Ry Man!

Huge Hugz,
Jenn

[jmo531]

Have a great time going out Ryan. You really deserve it. Let the problems take a back seat to your happiness for a while. Take good care of the Ryster!!!!