Unrequited Love

*sigh* It sucks.

I don't want to talk in any depth about it. Just want to say that I hurt....

Anyone want to talk about their own experiences with unrequited love??? Please do so...

I live with it every day, Lady. It ain't fun!! Maybe I'll write more later...

I know what you're feeling. At least I don't see him every day though, so it wasn't so bad. He was there for me whenever I'd needed him and I thought that meant he had feelings for me. I felt close to him for so long, and I'd finally told him that I had feelings for him. He said he felt the same. To make a long story short I'd told him that on a friday, and then before I went to bed that sunday he told me he'd been lying.

It took me a good seven months to get to a point where I could function correctly. Even if I was in a place where I could have dated it wouldn't have done anything, it took time to get over it. I never went into it in depth with any of my friends, but they figured it out and were there. That helped.

We all got your back here, so go on and grab some of your friends IRL and go get some drinks and let it all out. That's the only way it's going to get better. *hug*

I know how you're feeling I'm here for ya too. *hug* I don't think you ever really get over it, you know? You always have a place in your heart where you love them, but knew you had to let them go cos it was best for them. That's how I got over it I think too. It turned out he was interested in someone and I took comfort in that he'd be happy at least. One day you'll find yours though, your so awesome and comforting and there for everyone. You rock. *hug* There's gotta be a guy as great as you out there for you. ^_____^

beautiful post, mortimer...........i agree with what Mortimer said.....it takes time...but i think it's always there in a corner of your heart.......and we "oldens" experience it too...now.....i'm holding you in a big old hug and Fayeroe is giving you big sloppy kisses.........xoxoxo pat

Coldplay has a good one........i think it's called "Shiver".....it is so good........"did you want me to change, well, i'll change for you"........."i'll always be waiting for you". "so youknow how much i need you, but you never even see me, do you?"

((((((((((((((Angela))))))))))))))))))

I'm sorry you are hurting!
nightdream

Something I Can Never Have
(Nine Inch Nails)

I still recall the taste of your tears.
Echoing your voice just like the ringing in my ears.
My favorite dreams of you still wash ashore.
Scraping through my head 'till I don't want to sleep anymore.

You make this all go away.
You make this all go away.
I'm down to just one thing.
And I'm starting to scare myself.
You make this all go way.
You make this all go way.
I just want something.
I just want something I can never have

You always were the one to show me how
Back then I couldn't do the things that I can do now.
This thing is slowly taking me apart.
Grey would be the color if I had a heart.
Come on tell me

You make this all go away.
You make this all go away.
I'm down to just one thing.
And I'm starting to scare myself.
You make this all go way.
You make this all go way.
I just want something.
I just want something I can never have

In this place it seems like such a shame.
Though it all looks different now,
I know it's still the same
Everywhere I look you're all I see.
Just a fading f****** reminder of who I used to be.

You make this all go away.
You make this all go away.
I'm down to just one thing.
And I'm starting to scare myself.
You make this all go way.
You make this all go way.
I just want something.
I just want something I can never have

I just want something.
I just want something I can never have
I just want something I can never have

Tks (((((((((((Susan))))))))))))

((((((((((((AG)))))))))))

(((((((((((((Wants)))))))))))) Oh I LOVE Elvis! I even have that song on CD. Good call Tks

(((((((((((((((Pat))))))))))))) I hadn't heard of "Shiver", but I looked it up on the net. Very good! And fits some of my feelings. Tks for sharing, Pat

((((((((((((((zh))))))))))))) I haven't been able to find "Crying" on the net yet. I probably know it, since it's Roy Orbison but I don't know. Thanks, tho, zh. And tks for the sympathies.

(((((((((((((Angie))))))))))))) Very good one, sweetie. VERY sad.

(((((((((((((Tomi)))))))))))) I would love to hear more, hon

((((((((((Mortimer))))))))))) Thank you Mortimer. I'm very sorry you know how it hurts, too. But I do SOOOO much appreciate you sharing your experiences and feelings. That's exactly what I was looking for when I posted- someone to relate to my aching pain. Thanks again...

((((((((((((((((Nightdream)))))))))))) Tks hon


Angela

I've got a song for you... "I Want to Know What Love Is" by Foreigner.

Look on Napster for the songs you can't find.

"Til I Fell In Love With You," Bob Dylan.

I'm primed for it. Maybe I'm extra sensitive today. Don't know.

Oh, yeah... I said I live with it every day, didn't I? I've been in love with my husband since I first met him 30 yrs ago. We've had our ups and downs for most of that time. We were even separated for seven years. He's been back for a little over two years, now, but he's set down some limits to our relationship. We're "just friends." He claimed at first that there was no room for sex in this new relationship. Fine. No problem, although that was the best aspect of our former relationship. Sometimes he lets me hug and kiss him, (NEVER kisses back. In fact sometimes, he licks my face instead. ) cuddle, but for very short periods. If I ask for a hug, mind you, I have to ASK, it's a rough, peremptory hug. He'll do a withdrawing act (staying in his room, reading) and not much will draw him out. That lets me know I've been cuddling or telling him I love him too much. He refuses any kind of intimacy, like listening to me when I state my preferences in styles of furniture, preferences in how the garden is planted, even knowing what KINDS of plants I prefer. Ok. In short, he doesn't want to KNOW me, my likes and dislikes, my feelings, not even respecting instructions on which worm bed I want fed and which one I don't!!

When I'm out, if I see some little something I know he likes, I'll get it for him... like an earing with two silver feathers. It was about $30, but he didn't even say "thank you." He never thinks of me or even thinks of getting something when I say "OOOH! I like that!" My best friend remembers those things and I may get one for my birthday and one for Christmas. Not him!

This year, a couple of days before our 29th anniverasary, he let me know he was going to LA to house and cat sit for his sister. He would have been gone for "the day." I put my foot down, reminded him that he never remembers me on my birthday, Mother's day, Christmas, etc, etc. Told him I really wanted him to be home for our anniversary. He made it home around 3 pm, started the BBQ and somehow managed to bring up the legal separation papers which I told him didn't mean much anymore. He very seriously told me, on our anniversary, mind you, that they still mean everything to him!

I know a lot of this borders on abuse on his part and stupidity on mine. What angers me and hurts me to the core is that I LOVE this man! The only "love" he allows me to show him is what involves "taking care" of him; like his meals, his laundry, reconciling his checking account and cleaning up after him.

What's wrong with me???

((((((((Tomi)))))))) My heart is just broken for you! That is soooo sad.

So why do I stay with him? Why do I continue loving him? I think this ties in with your "Concept" thread in General.

I wish I knew the answer to that for you, Tomi

"Have You Ever" by Brandy

Have you ever loved somebody so much it makes you cry?
Have you ever needed something so bad you can't sleep at night?
Have you ever tried to find the words, But they don't come out right
Have you ever, have you ever?

Have you ever been in love, been in love so bad
You'd do anything to make them understand
Have you ever had someone steal your heart away
You'd give anything to make them feel the same
Have you ever searched for words to get you in their heart
But you don't know what to say
And you don't know where to start

Have you ever loved somebody so much it makes you cry?
Have you ever needed something so bad you can't sleep at night?
Have you ever tried to find the words but they don't come out right?
Have you ever? Have you ever?

Have you ever found the one you've dreamed of all of your life
You'd do just about anything to look into their eyes
Have you finally someone you've given your heart to
Only to find that one won't give their heart to you

Have you ever closed your eyes and dreamed that they were there
And all you can do is wait for the day when they will care

Have you ever loved somebody so much it makes you cry?
Have you ever needed something so bad you can't sleep at night?
Have you ever tried to find the words but they don't come out right?
Have you ever? Have you ever?

What do I gotta do to get you in my arms baby
What do I gotta say to get to your heart
To make you understand how I need you next to me
Gotta get you into my world
'Cuz baby I can't sleep

If you're still looking for depressing songs just look up most anything by Evanescence, she sings almost always about lost love.

*hug* :3 Anything silly I can say or try to do to make you feel better?

There's a woman whom I love but can never have. It eats away at me every day. It's like having a black hole in my chest.

Tks ((((((((((((Mortimer))))))))))))))

Sorry to hear that JohnShaft. I totally understand your pain
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nillsen "without you" has to be the saddest song i know

So sorry for all your pain. Unrequited love SUCKS!!!

(((((((((((((((( Angela )))))))))))))

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(((((((((((((( John Shaft )))))))))

I hope you all find love that is returned very soon.

You can say that again!!! It's one of my favorite songs. Wonder why?

"I'll Remember You".....Bob Dylan

How do you move past it? My issue deals with guilt. I want to ask forgiveness, but that seems like it would just muck it all up more. I should just leave him alone, shouldn't I?

great song, amazing one of my all time favorites..i have to go listen now ( runs away)

I just made a post about having this problem myself. I am falling in love with a man who I am worried does not have the same feelings for me. He has never said he likes me. Now we have only been dating a month but have known each other 5 years and I have been interested in him for the past year. I was so happy when he finally asked me to go out. However stupid me slept with him right away and maybe that ruined it. IDK. I want so badly to have someone feel about me the way I feel about them. The men I like never seem to like me back.