[FeelingHopeful]

I try for strength but how do you find it when everything around you is hard. I thought i was strong but maybe im not. really. Crying is my daily routine now.

[VickiesPath]

Crying doesn't mean you aren't strong. Crying is a great tension reliever. It also releases toxins from your body. There are toxins in tears. For real.

Being strong means that you go ahead and do the important things when it's time to do them. You can cry and still do those. Being strong means that eventually, you know you will be OK. It doesn't mean being a stoic, unfeeling statue. The willow survives in a storm because it bends.

Being strong means being brave enough to feel the feelings but knowing at the same time that they will not kill you. They will eventually pass. You will be even stronger for having gone through the pain.

Sometimes, fighting things make them worse. Suffering, especially emotional suffering, is a learned skill. That sounds really dumb, I know. But I believe it is true. People (you know, *those* people) don't know about emotional suffering. It would scare the peewaddun out of them.

You are strong. You will be ok. You may suffer but it won't last forever.

[crystalrose]

crying is a good thing. Earlier this year i cried every day for 2 months. Then stil cried after that but not everyday. Its healing to be able to get some of the emotions out. Like vickie said to you It wont last forever. .

[marjan]

Thanks Vickie for clearing this out...I can't agree more than this with Vickie...

I've been crying almost everyday since mid of September, because of loss of my father....I miss him so much....and cry is the only thing makes me feel better....

Being strong doesn't mean to not cry....being strong means to cry and then stand up and stick your head up to the sky and keep walking again....

take care my friend
Marjan

[lynn P.]

I agree with Vickie too that it's okay to cry. It's helps you deal with pain. How to be strong? - I think the best way to feel strong is to take care of yourself with healthy eating and exercise. I hope you feel better soon.

[theotterone]

Originally Posted by FeelingSad

I try for strength but how do you find it when everything around you is hard. I thought i was strong but maybe im not. really. Crying is my daily routine now.

My mother, whom I quote much here, told me that "when you cry, something on the inside is healing". There is no shame in crying. There are times I wish I WOULD cry, just to get out what is causing the chaos inside me.

So often we fall into the "Trap" that "society" sets, that crying is a sign of weekness. At my strongest times I have cried. Hang in there and know even when you cry, you are strong!

[FeelingHopeful]

Thanks everyone i hope it gets easier cause im struggling alot and it hurts me bad

[crystalrose]

are you seeing a therapist? I hope u have some support irl but u always have us at pc!

[FeelingHopeful]

I think therapists are great but i cant see one long story but am grateful for pc

[marjan]

Originally Posted by FeelingSad

I think therapists are great but i cant see one long story but am grateful for pc

It's okay my friend to cry....but the key is standing up after that and keep walking....moving on with your life....

I've been experiencing a great sadness for a while....and it's been getting worse with dead of my lovely dad....since then, I'm crying every single day....but feel I'm getting even stronger and thinking about my life and how to be happy and strong....

This may sound crazy, but last night, I talked to myself and I yelled at myself for being stupid think about same thing over and over....for nagging too much....yes, I screamed at myself as a friend....like talking to a friend, I was talking to myself and responding it back....then, I felt so great....
Yes....I've been sad for awhile, but I blame myself for that....

Just take care of yourself and don't be so hard on yourself....
Marjan

[melinda84]

There's some really good advice on here. Yes, i agree that crying is a good thing. I cry a lot and i used to feel very ashamed about it, but i'm starting to feel better about crying. I have found that crying is comforting to me and it helps me to feel better during tough times. Sometimes when you need to really express yourself and get things out, crying is the best way to do it. It's even better if you have a good friend or family member who will listen and be a shoulder to cry on.

[theotterone]

I would just like to note something here...

I cried a lot too. It's only been within the last few months that when I have been very upset, and WANTED to cry, I haven't been able to. I can think of one time in the last 3 months I truly cried as I needed to, and unfortunately, it was durring/after a therapy session with my husband, AND I still had to go into work... The timing was bad.

Be good to yourself and don't forget to pick yourself up and do that forward movement thing.

[Vlo1980]

Hiya FeelingSad!

Once again Vicky you are right on the money and let me say that I love reading your posts. You are indeed a very wise person and you've been gifted with a very captivating writing style.

Believe me FeelingSad, everyone on this planet feels exactly the same way you do. We all have obstacles we need to overcome in our lives but the difference is, there are individuals who will still keep fighting and will do whatever it is they need to do to get through those problems despite their emotional state. They feel sad, overwhelmed, and discouraged, just like we all do but keep on keeping on in spite of that. Don't let life's unexpected crap get you down to the point where you decide to throw the towel. Whatever it is that you're going through right now won't last forever and the sun will shine again. It always does. Try to look on the bright side.

I hope you feel better soon.