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Old Jan 15, 2010, 01:00 AM
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Just wandering,If I offered to go to Therapy With A Friend (if he decides to go) Is that acceptable, reason i ask is he has a gf,but me and him have been friends for a very long time and I know a little how he is feeling.Not trying to be disrespectful or step on anyones shoes, What does everyone think?

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Old Jan 15, 2010, 09:39 AM
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It really depends on the third party. If his girlfriend really cares about him and knows you're just friends, then it's not out of line. Sometimes, we can't share our deepest feelings and fears with our significant other, so we talk to our best friends/parents/doctors/etc. That's not a bad thing, talking always helps.

However, if the girlfriend isn't exactly thrilled with the close relationship you two have, then she might see it as out of line.

Personally?
I do not think it's out of line or disrespectful, at all. It's better for your friend to have someone to talk to (i.e. you) than not being able to talk to anyone.
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Old Jan 16, 2010, 04:25 PM
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Do you have a relationship with your friend's girlfriend? If so, ask her straight out if she minds.

If the gf seems as though she may be afraid or angry that you might go with him, try to explain your reasoning. You could explain to her how you can help your friend, using your personal experience (or knowledge of) depression as well as the changes that you have seen within your friend. Hopefully, that will make her comfortable with your offer and she will see the positives of you becoming involved.

I hope that it works out well for your friend and that his gf is okay with your possible involvement, should her bf need your support. It would be great for your friend to have your support ~ someone that he knows personally, to help him through dark times. Best wishes!
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Old Jan 16, 2010, 04:27 PM
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You going along to therapy with him not only involves how the girlfriend feels about it, but it involves how the therapist feels, how your friend feels and how you feel while sitting with he and his T.

If the therapist has no problem with it and he/she will probably ask your friend how he feels about it, then it will probably be ok, at least the first time. However, remember that this therapy is for your friend and you are there for support only and will probably be very wise to not say a word. Plus, you may find it makes you uncomfortable after all. And there's always the chance that either your friend or the therapist may decide after a while that it might be better if you did not come for one reason or another. There's lots of ways something like this could turn out.

I'm not trying to discourage you. I think you are a good friend for trying to help. But your friend is going to have to be 100% sure that it's ok with his gf first.
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