so messed up!

My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years, we had a rogh start we werent really dating very long before I found out I was pregnant. So we decided to get married well we had a week til the wedding when I lost the baby. We decided to still get married anyways we have had a really rough relationship we have 2 AMAZING children ages 3 and 1.. During our relationship though I have been phsyically and emotionally abused and he had an emotional affair with his ex gf for over a month and arranged to be with her but ended up getting caught. im still not sure he is sorry for it or just sorry he got caught. He still says he did nothing wrong! In the meantime i am trying to deal with my self esteem issues that were brought up whe he turned to another woman.. and all of this comes down to... I started talking to a good friend of mine thats a man and now im the one who is having the emotional affair!!! I feel horrible but i just feel like I was "thrown" into this relationship that we both are just better being apart and just being friends for our kids sake. HELP!!!

If you are being emotionally and physically abused it's probably not the best enviroment for your children anyway in my opinion.

i'm so sorry for all you've gone thru with your husband. it sounds rather complicated. have you and h considered couples counseling?

i do think one can have a friendship with the opposite sex and have it be fine though if one's spouse is cool with it. of course i know not everyone will agree with that. if one's spouse is fully aware of the friendship and it's conducted in the open and if the things you share with your friend are things you are talking about with your spouse then i think it's ok. that's not really much different then having a friendship with someone of the same sex. there's a blog i follow where the guy talks all about this sort of thing. it is coming from a faith-based perspective but he's got some great thoughts that i think anyone can benefit from.