[marjan]

I'm a bit nerves....It's a new place....I wish somebody was staying with me for a little while....I really needed a friend or somebody to be with me for couple of days....just in term of transition....it feels weird in this new city, new apartment....not sure why? but it does.....

It's funny....but I feel homesick....I feel nerves when I go home....not used to it yet....although it's better....but when I hear a voice from neighbor or so, I get really stressed!

why is that? It feels like because I'm getting older, I want more security and more stability.....

anyway....sorry for ranting....

thx
M.

[Belle1979]

(((marjan)))

Give yourself time to settle in properly. Totally normal to be nervous when you are in a new enviroment. It will become 'home' soon enough and then the homesick feeling will go away.

I cried for days when I moved into a new place (with Mark) just because it was unfamiliar and I wanted to go back home lol

[purplesparrow]

Hi Marjan,
I'm feeling that way too! I just moved into a new apartment after living in the same place for four years. In fact that's the reason I joined this forum, because I'm feeling nervous all the time and wanted to figure out how to overcome it. It takes time and the crappy feelings will fade. When I moved somewhere new before, sometimes it helped me to sit in a chair outside my building, just take everything in, watch people walking by, etc. for a while before going out.
~E

[marjan]

thanks guys....

I just glow myself to the TV....and I'm not a TV person really....yesterday, I went home and cleaned up a bit, cooked...but I was dragging myself and forcing myself to do that....then I watched TV the whole night....

My mom called me, I didn't really want to talk to her....kinda pissed even that she didn't stay with me when I need her the most....that's always the case...whenever I really need her, she's not there!!! I think she found the sadness in my voice and I told her I really don't feel talking....then after I hung up the phone....my younger sister called....I didn't want to talk to her either, I didn't answer the phone....then they kept calling....I didn't want to make them nerves....so, I answered....mom said she will come to my place tomorrow which is today....not sure if she doesn't change her mind again....

It's silly to have expectations from them....It's just sucks to be alone....I hope soon, I settle down and I get on the online dating and hopefully to find somebody....

[marjan]

I just went to GYM at lunch time and already feel better....
My mom and my sister are coming this afternoon to my home.....hope I get some help from them....
I'm horrible in organizing....I wish I could have hired a professional to help me with.....seriously....It makes life easier when the home is clean and neat...then I can maintain it....but I can't organize things at all....even my own mind is not organized....and that's the main issue....
Sorry guys for writing here....but got to get it out from my head....
I'll see if my sister helps me....she's really good at it....
well...we see....if not, I might have to read some books to find out what to do or probably if I can find a cheap interior designer to hire!!!! (that sounds silly really!)
Anyway....I got to fix this place and make it more comfortable....
thanks for listening to my rants....
M.

Take care of yourself, marjan. Good luck.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Hey Marjan,

It is difficult moving to a new place. We moved nearly 2 years ago and we're still not organised. The place is just too small for all our stuff. Guess it's time for a yard sale thats the only solution I think.

I know you'll be happy in your new home, it will take some time and you will re-adjust yourself a few times before you finally settle into your routine and become more at home and comfortable.

I hope your family come to support you, but remember you have a huge support base here,

Loving thoughts,

Rhian

[sanityseeker]

Hi marjn. I just notice this thread so thought I would chime in to encourage you to give it some time. I hope things went well with your mom and sister coming over to help you out getting organized.

You mentioned hiring a designer to help you out. A thought might be to check out a design school and see if you can hire a student to get a lower rate.

In my native culture we always smudge (clean with the smoke from herbal medicines.... sage, cedar, sweetgrass etc) a new home. With an eagle feather we go from room to room waving the smoke through the house.

I think you mentioned something similar from your culture. Perhaps that might help you. We do it to cast out negative energy and invite positive energy in. We invite the ancestors to come and bless our new home and to protect us while we are there.

Even something as simple as burning some lavendar or other favourite scent might give you a sense of calm and belonging while you adjust.