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Old Jul 23, 2010, 04:20 PM
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If internet dating doesn't end up working out, I thought this was a different idea. Might be worth a shot.

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Old Jul 25, 2010, 08:32 PM
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Well............ Marjan all the details please (or has Sunday not happened yet??)
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Old Jul 25, 2010, 10:14 PM
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Well............ Marjan all the details please (or has Sunday not happened yet??)
He canceled it He was in Northern California, he told me before in his email that he will be back by Sunday Afternoon, which I thought it's kinda not possible to meet him.....but he wanted!!!!

Anyway....good that I gave him my number, otherwise, I would have gone there and be pissed really....arggg....we were suppose to meet at 6, and he called at 4pm....it was kinda awkward, it was our first telephone conversation and he was constantly apologizing.....I said "that's okay, don't worry about it"....then he said it's better for him to meet tomorrow night, I said it should be at 7pm....now, I'm just not sure even if I meet him....but who cares, I'm the same single person and he's a stranger.....

I was kinda excited and nervous at the same time, and now I'm back to my normal life....I kinda like his voice........am I fantasizing? this is not my first online dating....I've met guys before through online dating, but I've never had such an excitement!!!!

Right now, I just feel so lonely and scared....what if I don't find anybody in my life? what if I end up alone? hate all these thoughts.....

I had very good weekend.....I call and sick on Friday....and Friday night my friends took me to a nice restaurant and we had such a great time, then yesterday some other friends came here for pool party and my birthday.....It was so good....but still I can feel that void that empty space in my soul....I wish....I just wish....I had a companionship.....just a wish....

thanks Belle for asking....I'll let you know if I meet him tomorrow.....now, I have no clue if I should call him tomorrow, where and when to meet him?

If I don't here from him till 6pm, then I will text him.....sucks!

well....there is no expectations really....he's a total stranger.....

I just watched a sad/depressing/scary movie.....and I feel down.....I found out my mom feels so down too....I miss her now....although, she has so much craziness, but I think she's the one who really love me.....my younger sister doesn't even reply my txt back....I invited her over, but her husband doesn't like to hand out with me....I really don't like him....he doesn't have any family member and he doesn't let my sister to hang out with me.....

anyway, I think I will just go to a bookstore and bury myself under books....

bye for now
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Old Jul 25, 2010, 11:30 PM
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He canceled it He was in Northern California, he told me before in his email that he will be back by Sunday Afternoon, which I thought it's kinda not possible to meet him.....but he wanted!!!!

Anyway....good that I gave him my number, otherwise, I would have gone there and be pissed really....arggg....we were suppose to meet at 6, and he called at 4pm....it was kinda awkward, it was our first telephone conversation and he was constantly apologizing.....I said "that's okay, don't worry about it"....then he said it's better for him to meet tomorrow night, I said it should be at 7pm....now, I'm just not sure even if I meet him....but who cares, I'm the same single person and he's a stranger.....

I was kinda excited and nervous at the same time, and now I'm back to my normal life....I kinda like his voice........am I fantasizing? this is not my first online dating....I've met guys before through online dating, but I've never had such an excitement!!!!

Right now, I just feel so lonely and scared....what if I don't find anybody in my life? what if I end up alone? hate all these thoughts.....

I had very good weekend.....I call and sick on Friday....and Friday night my friends took me to a nice restaurant and we had such a great time, then yesterday some other friends came here for pool party and my birthday.....It was so good....but still I can feel that void that empty space in my soul....I wish....I just wish....I had a companionship.....just a wish....

thanks Belle for asking....I'll let you know if I meet him tomorrow.....now, I have no clue if I should call him tomorrow, where and when to meet him?

If I don't here from him till 6pm, then I will text him.....sucks!

well....there is no expectations really....he's a total stranger.....

I just watched a sad/depressing/scary movie.....and I feel down.....I found out my mom feels so down too....I miss her now....although, she has so much craziness, but I think she's the one who really love me.....my younger sister doesn't even reply my txt back....I invited her over, but her husband doesn't like to hand out with me....I really don't like him....he doesn't have any family member and he doesn't let my sister to hang out with me.....

anyway, I think I will just go to a bookstore and bury myself under books....

bye for now
Marjan

Meet him!! what can go wrong.. no expectations means that it will just be a blast instead Plus if you like his voice then well.. it's all good so far
The nervous and excitment is great.. though for me was like mini panic attacks haha - got to sort of enjoy them though - weird I know.

Sorry that your sister and her hubby don't really spend much time with you...

You will find 'the one' ... and perhaps he will be it LOL you have to shop around before you buy

Keep the updates coming xxxx
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Old Jul 26, 2010, 12:10 AM
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you have to shop around before you buy
That's so true.....and I'm a horrible shopper....hate even do shopping for clothes....now see how it goes....but I got online and emailed back some guys that they have emailed me while back....not sure if they answer me or not....but better than nothing....

It's so funny when it comes to shopping for clothes or lately furniture, I'm so picky.....I look around and I say "no...no...no"....and boom all of a sudden I like something and that's the one....but it always takes awhile to find it....I gave so much headache to my mom for choosing my dinning table and she was telling me how comes you can't make up your mind....well, I could not find what I want....once I found it, I ordered it online....and I'm so happy with my choice!!!!

anyway, lets see how it goes tomorrow....I'll let you guys know this way or another
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Old Jul 26, 2010, 12:23 AM
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You made me smile i am the same.. hate shopping for clothes and anything really... but if I see something I just like then I'll buy it without even looking at other things that are similar...
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Old Jul 26, 2010, 06:46 PM
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You made me smile i am the same.. hate shopping for clothes and anything really... but if I see something I just like then I'll buy it without even looking at other things that are similar...
Well....now, I have no idea what to do....it's 4:45 pm and I'm heading home soon....not sure if I should get prepare or not....per my plan, if I don't hear from him till 6pm, I will either call him or txt him....still not sure which one I should do? arggg.....plus, I wanted to change the location of our initial meetup.....It's Monday rush hour and it would be so much traffic going that way from my home....I prefer a restaurant closer to my home....I think it would be the same distance for him either of the restaurants.....
I think I will make that an excuse and txt him.....
Honesty, he spoiled my excitement by changing the plan....lets see if I meet him tonight, if not, I would never meet him then!
please wish me a good luck....
that's so stupid, I don't know him at all and I can't say that much from photos.....why should I bother even?

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Old Jul 26, 2010, 06:55 PM
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Call him and make it a different place.. met him.. nothing to lose and everything to gain from it!!!
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Old Jul 27, 2010, 02:46 AM
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Call him and make it a different place.. met him.. nothing to lose and everything to gain from it!!!
GOOD LUCK xxxxxxxx

OMG....It was the best date ever....I know I should not have all these feelings....It's just one date, but it felt I knew him from past....we had so much to talk....we almost forgot to eat....we talked non-stop for two hours....he's an engineer like me and we were talking talking and talking....

well....I txted him at 6pm asking him if he still wants to meet me and if we can meet closer to my home....he replied "yes, of course, where do you want to meet?"....then I txted him the address and I met him at 7:30pm....

He looked very cute and smart.....he loves hiking, skiing and he's an outdoor person....so happy to find somebody like that....at the end he kissed me from chicks and he asked me if I want to meet him again....I said I had a good time and I would like to meet you....I said you have my phone number.....I was just me the whole time....I love that feeling....I could not have that feeling with Aaron at all.....I was always acting, even I told him....I love when I feel relax with the guy and I'm just myself....I even forgot all about my look, his look....I was more interested in the conversation.....

If nothing happens with this relationship, at least I'm getting out there again....I'm getting out from my shell....

Thanks girl for all the encouragement.....

I'll keep you guys posted...
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Old Jul 27, 2010, 03:12 AM
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Thats excellent Marjan! I'm really glad you had a lovely time you really deserve it and you obviously enjoyed it.

I really do think you deserved this...and you thought nothing would happen...

Please let us know how your next date goes...
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Old Jul 27, 2010, 09:56 AM
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Best wishes, marjan.
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Old Jul 27, 2010, 10:35 AM
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Awesome news Marjn. So glad you had a good time.
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Old Jul 27, 2010, 10:43 AM
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Thats excellent Marjan! I'm really glad you had a lovely time you really deserve it and you obviously enjoyed it.

I really do think you deserved this...and you thought nothing would happen...

Please let us know how your next date goes...
Rhiannonsmoon, good that I gave him my number...otherwise, I would have gone to the restaurant on Sunday and stay there without him showing up....he couldn't make it on Sunday....

well...this was just one date and I don't have to get so excited....but I think it was a good start in general for me....I've been in some online dates before and there were all not going well for me....I was getting so board and intense not having anything to talk about....no chemistry! It was different with him, it felt like I'm meeting my old friend....I'm just wondering if he feels the same way? and the good part is that none of us talk about the past relationships.....I'm really sick and tired of all talking about the exs....and have zero interests to know about them.....In his profile says that he's single and never married....He's 35 years old guy.....

I was so excited last night after the date....and I couldn't sleep....

I haven't told anybody yet, except my cousin in Toronto.....I talked to her on skype....I told her....I don't really want to tell anybody, not even my sisters....they get so excited and then if it doesn't work out, I'm embarrassed.....I'm 37 and so many times I introduced my date to them....and then broke up.....kinda embarrassing, specially in front of my brother-in-law....although, both my sisters and my brother-in-laws are so cool about my whole dating life.....they never say anything....and I know how much my sisters want me to find a partner.....but I think I should shut up for now and just share my experience with you guys.....

thanks guys
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Old Jul 27, 2010, 06:16 PM
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WOO HOO
Marjan I am SOOOOOOOOOO happy for you.... he may be Mr Right (sounds like the date went PERFECTLY!) but even if he's not enjoy the moments (I can say it I just have trouble actually doing it LOL)
I am so glad that you text him, that you met him and that you had a good time....

Love you to bits xxxxx
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Old Jul 27, 2010, 06:32 PM
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thanks girls....

Yes, it was a good date....well...He asked me at the end if I want to see him....and even he said we can go hiking....He seemed so eager, but I don't want to build up any dreams yet....It's too early....I'm just happy for the hope seed that has planted in my heart....besides, I figured out, I didn't compare him to anybody....It felt I'm clean from all those obsessions of exs....
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Old Jul 27, 2010, 07:06 PM
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Now that is HUGE.... clean from the ex obsessions.. that is so GOOD.
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Old Jul 27, 2010, 08:59 PM
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Now that is HUGE.... clean from the ex obsessions.. that is so GOOD.
He already emailed me and asked me out for Sunday ....I haven't replied back....he has a small airplane, he wants to take me for a flight....I would love to....but hmmm.......
I need to think a bit.....
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Old Jul 27, 2010, 09:10 PM
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wow, sounds like a great date marjan. ooh, a small plane--have fun on sunday.
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Old Jul 27, 2010, 09:13 PM
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Go for it! you only live once... you don't want to look back in a months time and say 'wish that I went for the flight!'
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Hi dear, don't worry....one day you will find a good/handsome one...be happy and keep on trying!!

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Well...honesty, I didn't spend so much time on it....but still no luck yet....
past few days, I emailed around 5 guys, but just one has emailed me back....he looks good....I haven't emailed him back yet....but I will....

seriously, I didn't know finding a partner would be like finding a job....I had so much hard time to find my first job....I tried so hard and I improved my interview skills, my resume almost non-stop, everyday....yes...that's how I got my first job out of college.....(((that was while back)))

Now....all this online dating is like finding the job...it reminds me back all those days....just the difference is that I was 26 when I was looking for a first job out of college, now I'm 36!!!!

It looks like most of my friends find a partner these days.....I feel the only single! well....whatever..........I still have hope....
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Old Jul 27, 2010, 09:17 PM
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Go for it! you only live once... you don't want to look back in a months time and say 'wish that I went for the flight!'
very true.....I had opportunities for the small airplane flight and I said no and I regretted even to today.....

It feels good that you guys have approved it too

I felt good with him and I can trust my gut....but I still I will do my homework well....I will leave his information before going out with him....probably I will tell my sister....
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Old Jul 27, 2010, 09:18 PM
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wow, sounds like a great date marjan. ooh, a small plane--have fun on sunday.
ya...I enjoyed it....thanks bloom....It was a good start after so long having bad relationships and bad dates and being alone for more than a year!
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Old Jul 27, 2010, 09:30 PM
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Sensible.... make sure that someone knows where you are going and who with..
Trust your gut.. and have fun with it
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Old Jul 27, 2010, 09:33 PM
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I'll try online dating too. Just want some people to talk to as a start. I don't want to continue living as a loner.
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Old Jul 27, 2010, 09:41 PM
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I'll try online dating too. Just want some people to talk to as a start. I don't want to continue living as a loner.
hey Stieg.....online dating is good, just keep in your mind that it's a long process and you got to be cool about rejection.....

You can also try other sites like sign up for meetup.com and you can meet local people in your area with same interests.....

You are not a loner, you feel lonely and the good news is that there is a way to be not lonely and that's being with people....just go out and be good to yourself and others.....

by the way, Belle was my best encouragement to start online dating....I hope I plant that seed of hope in your heart then

take care
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