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Sep 20, 2005, 06:14 PM
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I am 34 and have never had a long lasting relationship with a girl, because of my isolation due to social phobia, and shyness. Thus I was a virgin until I was 31(!), not because I wanted to, I have always felt like a sexual being. Can any of you relate to this I wonder.. or am I just weird?
Then I met a girl on the net and we had two great weekends, and I found the cuddling was great and the sex, because of my inexperience was not as great as when I did it myself. We split up, because we were too different to be together and other issues, like that she had two kids, and I am uncomfortable around kids. My question is now, when I do not have any experience having a long-term relationship, do you think I would be able to have one... Is this something one can learn?? I have this longing to be with a girl, have had it since puberty, though I think it might be to hard on me being together with one, with my mental problems... I hope I make sense?
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Sep 20, 2005, 06:33 PM
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You make sense. It's not so odd. My step dad was 35 when he had his first long relationship and it was with my Mom and now they've been married for over 20 years!!!!
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Sep 20, 2005, 07:15 PM
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Some people are natural when it comes to relationships other people can't do it. I think that it is either in a person or it's not. Realtionships are very hard work.
As for long term relationships, I would say not to worry about it. First you have to give time to a short term one. No one gets involved with the intention of forever. Some people start slow, and time adds up creating a long term relationship. You don't need to jump into anything. You have time and day by day you will be able to decide for yourself if you are ready for a long term relationship....you know? Does that make sense
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Sep 21, 2005, 12:06 AM
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First of all, I am glad for the positive responses I've got from exposing my mind and troublesome heart.
To Jax: thx, that gives me hope  To Vulgerlove: Aiming for a short-term sounds difficult, I am afraid of breakups I guess, with all the emotional stress that follows, but anyhow, you can't plan ahead and say that its going to be for the rest of ones life... You are very right though, I gotta slow down and take it as it comes, maybe I have to increase my social skills before I throw myself out into something.. There's this dating site for mentally ill people though in Denmark (Where I am located), and I probably can't help trying to contact one of them if I get too desparate... It's sometimes hard to live in a world without love.
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Sep 21, 2005, 12:27 AM
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there is love everywhere...you jsut sometimes have to be patient and look in the right places.....
have to go short term before you go long term buddy.....test the water before you swim....
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