Should not be this difficult

Male BP, (physically) attractive, successful relationships in the (more remote) past. It just seems like all the women I meet both worth dating and willing to get to know me are, of course, not single. Need a way to figure out what I'm doing wrong.

Sometimes I read this forum and wonder why all the women who are sick of jerks don't just make a pact with all the men sick of idiots. The problem with depression is that you confuse wanting to be not depressed with wanting to be not single

I also fully realize that making a thread about this is pretty selfish as a lot of people have it a lot worse.

Should I be trying for women who are not single or married but don't have the best relationship? Should I just continue to try to meet new people, and slog through the ones I dislike? Spend my time on more useful things?

Not selfish to post.. thats what this formum is here for - peole to be able to ask for and get help or support.

I don't think it is fair to yourself or the people that are in relationships for you to pursue them.

My T has told me (and actually believes) that you have to kiss many frogs before you find the right one.

I feel like this will never happen for me and I am totally sick of the frogs .

Take some time out for yourself, find who you are and what you really want - it's a lonely road to travel but full of self fullfillment at the end (or so I am constantly told!).

I wish you all the best for your future x

This is so true....I think I had so many depressed days before and always thinking if I have a partner I would not be depressed....Then I was getting in a relationship and not that long, I felt the loneliness and depression again.....

It took me a long time understanding that the problem is not being lonely the problem is my useless/negative thoughts.....Those thoughts are making me sick and depressed.....

These days I'm trying my best to not think or do anything that makes me unstable and not happy....and I'm doing very well although I'm single.....I don't have that feeling of depression and constant sadness.....that's awful...I hate those feelings.....however, as a human being, I do feel lonely and I do crave to have a partner, but I know it's not end of the world if I don't have any.....and I know one day I will meet that special person....

The most important part is for me to not have those up and downs.....I don't think I want those feelings back to me at all....I want to be in a neutral mood....and to me that's the happiness....because at that level of mind, I can make right decisions and not put myself in trouble.....

My advice to you is to not go after any married woman at all.....that's a recipe for disaster....why should you do that? She's not an honest person if she's a cheater....that's a bad characteristic to start up with....They are plenty of good single woman out there....and as Belle said that you got to kiss lots of frogs to find the right one....sad, but true!

Do exercise and watch comedy, you feel better soon
-Marjan