I have done it again :-/

So today acting on an impulse i tried to talk to Eric again with a false identity and BINGO he has added me as a friend (he is very selective). And he was being nice to me today.

So he doesnt know that the person he is talking to is ME whom he dislikes,or loathes may be. Should i continue being his friend wid a false identity? Or i should tell him its me? Or i should disappear?? Ur opinions will be appreciated.

i think you should delete the account and forgive yourself for making the mistake,,but,,be sure to learn from it...if you were to tell him i believe it would only cause pain and anger..which could quickly lead to only worse...just my opinion..have a good night

((Jiakhan))

Turn it around.. if it was someone doing this to you.. someone you didn't want to have much contact with (your ex even?!) how would you feel if they were playing this "game" with you?

You told me that itI should to move on from Louis after the break up... well it's time for you to move past this guy. The blunt hard truth is that he is not interested and has never given you any indication that he was.
Your life will be better without playing games with him on messenger.

((((jaikhan))))

Run do not walk to the facebook account and delete it! Hon you've been through so much pain and embarassment because of this guy.

I can't see one single solitary reason why you would give him the opportunity to report you as a stalker and get your IP address banned from FB altogether.

You can do it sweetheart we are here to support you through it and you can pm me at any time if you are feeling weak and I will help you through it.

You deserve so much better and you can get it. We just have to get you over this little hiccup and moving forward. Belles words are so wise and so appropriate, I really applaud the way she put it so gently and lovingly,

Loving hugs to you

But doesnt that mean i could become his friend afterall. Im being myself with him,just changed the name and age. Rest remained the same. I talked to him like i would have talked if he knew it were me. Is it just that he doesnt like my face? But i never asked him out or something. I wanted his friendship only.

You aren't being yourself.. as you said you have changed your name and age... the way people communicate online is totally different to in person.. yes it may be you writing but it's not YOU.

How could you become his friend afterall? Are you going to say one day.. oh btw my name is really ....... and you know me, I work with you and you are horrible to me in real life, but lets be friends?

You are only digging a deeper hole for your misery. PLEASE don't let it go further... accept that he doesn't want to be friends. It is his lose not yours!

You are better than he deserves as a friend.

I'm not trying to be harsh or unkind. I will support you anyway I can in what ever choice you make. I just want you to be the best that you can be and this isn't the way to go about it

I meant to say that if he is liking what im saying to him now,shouldnt he like me in real life too? I try to be as much spontaneous while talking online as i am in real life.

What am i doing! My mind is wobbling! Im not making any sense.

(((jiakhan)))

take a moment to think about your actions - they are just going to hurt and cause YOU pain.

xxooxx

You can never be honest with him. If you are then he will delete you and you would of made him hate you even more, there is only one thing you can do and that is to delete him and walk away.

I agree with the others but especially what Belle and Rhionnonsmoon said. This has reached an unhealthy/deceitful level. You've done this before. He's made it clear he doesn't want contact, so if he knew this was you, he would be very upset.

If you 100% didn't like a guy, it would be wrong of him to befriend you online. Don't tell him and just delete this identity. Don't look at his activities online anymore.

But why should i care if he gets upset! Why cant he just talk to me!! im NOT flirt and im not a bad girl. Why does he hate me!

I dont know why hun but he has made his choice and you should respect that.

I would feel like I was being stalked if I knew you was following me.

So im a stalker? but i like him. And wud never want to harm him.

Of course you're not a bad girl ((Jiakhan)). Sometimes we can't know why some people don't click. From your other posts, I got the impression, this guy is superficial - meaning he goes for a certain type of girl and doesn't really care about hurting someone.

He already made it clear months ago, that he's not interested - he drew the line. You making up fake indentities to befriend him isn't a good thing. At this point it's reasonable to believe, this has reached the unhealthy level. Stalking doesn't start out with bad behavior - it can even be good behavior - but the key point is - it's unwanted behavior. So even though you simply just want to be friends - he doesn't want to and you have to respect this. Don't put your mental energy, where it's not wanted. I hope you'll find someone, you'll be receptive and welcome your attention.

I really like you Jiakhan and I'm advising you like I would a sister or friend in real life. I'm trying to gently give constructive criticism. I would be happy if you could get past this and find someone who can give you the love you deserve.

maybe it would help to take a look at what your desperate feelings are really about. do you know why you feel you need the acceptance of this guy? did you have something like this happen in your past that this experience is triggering? if you deal with what this is triggering then this won't cause you so much distress.

i do think it would be best to quietly delete this account. as someone else mentioned you can get banned from FB for creating a false account. also, i would be really upset if someone did this to me. when others reject us it is usually because of their own character flaws. you can't change that in him but by being deceptive you are giving him a good reason not to want contact with you. please take gentle care of yourself.

when you continue to act in the same way the reaction will always be the same. you have already fibbed to him about who you are once before. he didnt react in a kind manner. if he was to find out you are continuing this behavior he will probably react in an even more unkind manner. i hate to say it but this is turning into a "stalking, obsessive relationship."
get out fast, get help from friends and councelor. for your safety you need to end contact of any sort with this man.

Lynn: u r rite. He made it clear months ago that he is not interested, yet i continued to pursue contact wid him. Thanks for the kind words though. I had thought that if i remain persistent then he might consider that im not a superficial girl and that he can trust me as a friend.but i was wrong.

Bridgie : i cant talk to any friend abt this cuz they will think im not a gud girl. And they might try to pull away cuz they wont like to be seen with me after all this. 'a man is known by the company he keeps.' they will leave me.

Bloom3: i have been friends with boys online but my only real life romantic contact with a guy was a horrible experience. He had been flirting only while i thought he liked me. Then he pulled away when i confronted him about this. I have never been accepted by guys whom i like,so yes this might be contsibuting to my behaviour towards this guy aswell.

Belle: 'advice is easy to be given but hard to follow.' so i gave it to u but dont act upon it myself :-P

I know
I just want what is best for you mentally and emotionally... you are leading yourself down a destructive path and need to curb the behaviour or it will consume you..

Do u have some tips on how to overcome an impulse to not look at him online?

Fb or messenger?
FB well block him that way you can't see his profile at all...
Messenger do the same if you can.. not sure if you can tho?

I don't look at Louis' profile anymore on FB - no point... it only hurts and as for his online dating profile.. I will admitt I look to see how long since he has been on.. but not all that often anymore.

How old are you? Would online dating be an option? i know its not a solution but for me it builds my confidence to be told that I am "hot" or that people enjoy chatting to me as I seem "normal" compared to other girls on the site etc... doesn't have to go any further.. just playful chat communication.