Can't control my emotions!

I have been having issues with controlling my emotions when something does not go my way.. if someone does not answer my texts right away or they dont do what I expect them to - I freak out - and usually make myself look very badly by sending books of texts to someone who "was busy at work". I have absolutely no idea how to not think the worst, or control my emotions in any way.

I understand how frustrating it can be to feel like you can't control your own emotions. (I am like that when I have pre-mestural dysphoric disorder episodes....I get angry and pissed off at the stupidist things, and usually I'm a somewhat happy person.) One thing that has helped me is seeing a therapist. It helped me figure out why I am having the 'burts' of feelings I feel like are just pouring out of me.
Have you thought about talking to a therapist or maybe a close friend or family member?

Dear Kisstal,, you might want to try learning some Panic Attack Management skills, they also work for Anger Attack, and other loss of control situations. essentially, they require that a person practices them before the loss of control, so that they are strong when you need them... if you need help finding a source of learning, i will try to help, but you can start at your local library. if you live in a large city, there is a good chance you can find an Anxiety Management Support group for free~! hope you take action to get this back under your control,, and best wishes,, Gus

I have thought about it, and I never seriously considered it until now... But I def. do not have the time

Hi Kisstal

It might be worth taking some time to learn/practice these skills and techniques to control your emotions. It might even save you time. If you can diffuse the emotional explosions before they erupt into action, you might have less of a mess to clean up afterwards - or consequences to pay.

You serve no one if you freak out when things don't go your way. It's important to have a certain degree of patience, because life rarely goes our way in a consistent manner. It's not possible to control the world around us. Life will always throw obstacles your way in order to test your patience and reaction. As a bumper sticker once said: "Man Plans, God Laughs."

I hope you'll be able to find some balance. I know it's difficult riding an emotional roller coaster.

Thanks for your response! It is funny.. I have a 2 year old son and with him i have an UNLIMITED amount of patience..... but with a lot of other things such as relationships I do not have any patience. And trust me, the aftermath/consequences of my actions really suck (for lack of a better word)

((Kisstal3))

Lots of things can cause the tendency to quickly blow up. Stress, depression, anxiety, personality traits, etc. That doesn't mean that we cannot learn how to control our behavior a little better.

Seeing a T, and talking about the things on your mind is a good first step. Practice taking a minute (or two) before emotionally reacting to things in the meantime. It can take a lot or a little practice, depending upon how long and strong this characteristic is. But, it never hurts to take a moment before reacting to things. Reacting often leads to emotional regret and guilt when we don't think about the consequences of going with our emotional outbursts.